Topic: too many friends makes you suspicious
PATSFAN's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:38 PM
I pretty much just use this place for talking with friends in the forums, so i don't have a problem with it.

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:39 PM



I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?
:cry: I was robbed by a girl I met on here that had a lot of friends on her list:cry:


Awww here's a big {{{{HUG}}}
bigsmile thanksbigsmile

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Tue 06/30/09 06:39 PM

I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?



I've heard that before. I'm sure there would be something wrong with a person if they posted a lot in the forums and didn't make any friends.

lighthouselover's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:40 PM


would it also be suspect if they have no friends or just a couple?

what about if they don't show their friends? ohwell


MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:41 PM
scared It would send up redflags to me if someone has more than one page of friendsscared

justme659's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:42 PM

Ok, how about "you've been here too long". Does that make me suspicious ?

Mingle2 is unlike myspace or facebook, those aren't like having a discussion forum. Many people treat mingle2 like 'yahoo personals' or 'match.com'. Basically, some might think, hanging around too long on a dating site makes some think that I might be something like a 'social reject" ?


<---------------Wow, Huge social reject here I guess. I have been here since '07.

Atlantis75's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:42 PM


I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?



I've heard that before. I'm sure there would be something wrong with a person if they posted a lot in the forums and didn't make any friends.


That's exactly what I was thinking. drinker

PATSFAN's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:43 PM

scared It would send up redflags to me if someone has more than one page of friendsscared





laugh What everlaugh

lighthouselover's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:43 PM

scared It would send up redflags to me if someone has more than one page of friendsscared




You need a Red Flag emoticon!!! :wink:


MelodyGirl's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:44 PM
When I joined, I thought Mingle was only a dating site -- and when I saw profiles of guys with a lot of 'girl' friends -- I thought they were players.

It took a few weeks for me to realize this is a social site and then I started adding friends as I met them on the forums. flowerforyou


brwnkimba's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:45 PM
I have a pretty big friends list ALL FEMALES TOO, but I have not met ONE nor have I attempted to set up a meeting. I'm on here like a lot of folks I keep in contact with to do just that, keep in contact and also to share and read some really great poetry that folks share on this site. But I have had some ladies make comments about my friends list like "you're are a player" or something of that nature.
But hey what are ya gonna do, it's human nature for people to pass judgement on others without knowing the real deal right?





alternativa's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:46 PM

I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?


I think it’s none of their business.

I don’t even have mine showing in my profile.

My friends are MY friends. If I decide to become involved with someone, of course they would want to know who I associate with. Until then, you don’t need to know.

PATSFAN's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:46 PM
I have a lot of friends from here over at Facebook.

auburngirl's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:46 PM



would it also be suspect if they have no friends or just a couple?

what about if they don't show their friends? ohwell




I just sort of followed along with not showing friends list. Seems like the thing to do.

Totage's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:47 PM

I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?


That's why I don't show my friends list on my profile. I don't want people getting the wrong idea.

no photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:51 PM
i don't care if someone has no friends or 50 pages of friends..lol
i'm here to hang out...nothing more, nothing less...:smile:


njmom05's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:52 PM


Ok, how about "you've been here too long". Does that make me suspicious ?

Mingle2 is unlike myspace or facebook, those aren't like having a discussion forum. Many people treat mingle2 like 'yahoo personals' or 'match.com'. Basically, some might think, hanging around too long on a dating site makes some think that I might be something like a 'social reject" ?


<---------------Wow, Huge social reject here I guess. I have been here since '07.

LOL, me too! Been here since 4/07. I stay for the friends I have here and also for the forums. Some people on here crack me up!

Atlantis75's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:53 PM


I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?


That's why I don't show my friends list on my profile. I don't want people getting the wrong idea.


I didn't even know I could disable showing them. But anyway I won't disable it.


SharpShooter10's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:54 PM

I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?
I think they are full of it drinker

bastet126's photo
Tue 06/30/09 06:55 PM



I get that sometimes from non-posters. According to some, if you got too many friends on mingle, you are some sort of a "player", or there is something wrong with you.

What do you think?


That's why I don't show my friends list on my profile. I don't want people getting the wrong idea.


I didn't even know I could disable showing them. But anyway I won't disable it.




i wouldn't disable it either. if somebody has an issue with my friends or jumps to conclusions, whatever, i don't think that's someone i'd want to add anyway!