I double dog dare ya.

And we want pix!

You guys are a trip. I had thought about that. I might just do it.

Jewish mothers r the worst

My
Mom does it to me

I
Do it to my daughters when I swore I wouldn't !!!

good idea

now that's a great idea!!

All jokes aside, I think it's rude when people try to run your life. I went to a picnic with my mom and her friend this weekend and the lady kept going on about how she's going to find me a husband. I laughed it off good-naturedly, but she's in for a world of hurt if she ever tries to make good on it. No way I want a guy from around here, and even if I did, my taste is vastly different from what she assumes it to be.

I agree with the person who said people treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated, if you make it clear that you're an adult and you don't need anyone's help finding a husband/boyfriend, she'll back off- if she wants to keep a pleasant relationship with you. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

This is just another thought.

Your Mom is ageing and realize that the real world is much harsher for older single women than it is for young ones with all kinds of enthusiasm for the idea. Time slips by much faster than you think and with age you have even more competion.

She knows you better than you might think. Your personality and some of your favorites; even your flaws and probably takes that all into account when considering someone. Least as a loving Mother I would.

About the whole Catholic thing. Religious experimentation is a privelege of youthful maturity. She gets that you going another direction. It is possible she is actually matching you with someone who gets it also. I seriously doubt you are the only Catholic that has chosen a different path. However what she also gets is you are born a Catholic and in times of stress; things like marriage, child birth, looseing a parent sometimes your faith beleifs are all you have to get through. Maybe she thinks it might not be such a bad idea to keep some of the bridges intact. Of course you have to make your own choices; she is giving you choices. Granted they are also her choices but that is a parent's job. Since you seem like a fairly functional person evidently she has done something right guideing you.

The whole idea of trying to embarrass your Mother out of trying to match you up is probably a lost cause. If you say she is a drama queen maybe you are just "entertaining" her by trying to one up her. Wouldn't be the first Mother Daughter team to compete. Something you might win here and there but in the long run you know you win and so does she. There is something to be said for giving and old broad a little "grace". Some day you will be proud of yourself for it.

Either way go have a fun family holiday. Chances are the guy is actually a "good sport" and it will be a family friend who can help you keep and eye on the folks when the time comes. The folks that suggest you might actually have fun or add some new friends is right.

Hey some nice photo's can't hurt. I can think of about 2.3 million foster kids that would die to have a parent that cares enough to chip into their future.

P.S. She probably knows you are on line. These days parents are a lot more computer savey than they always tell their adult children.

No, you set a boundry by saying you dont like that, and dont want it, and that it doesnt feel comfortable, and thats it.


You have a spine, and you tell people what you require.

Oh no, Mom is still holding out that a miracle will happen and I'll give her "blood line" grand babies. Although, it is not physically possible... hence the "miracle" comment.

And as for knowing me, she doesn't and never has. She knows what she wants to know, made up or real.

On the religious aspect, she "told" my family we were becoming Catholic when I was 12. Although I went along with what I was told to do as a child, I never really conformed. However, as an adult, I chose my own path, much to her regret. That's not going to change. Period.

The biggest thing for her is control. She is a control freak to the Nth degree. Always has been. Now that I have severed the ties of her control, she still strikes out from time to time in an attempt to regain that control. Ain't happening!

I honestly don't want to embarrass my Mom, but sometimes there comes point when you have to resort to drastic measures. I'll gauge things when I get there. I'm going down Thursday evening to Texas and we'll see what happens by Saturday.

She also knows I'm online. She just thinks I need to be on a "wholesome" site, rather than the "sludge of the earth" (her words, not mine) that I'm currently surfing.

I'm doing my best at looking at this positively, but this isn't the first time she's done this. Last time was extremely uncomfortable for everyone involved except her.

Ever go to a family outing and it turns into Night of the Living De-ad, with all these old people shuffling around you going "When you gonna get married?"

I don't recall that ever happening to me. If they had tried I would have had to say thanks but no thanks.

Too bad I can't fake being a scrungy punk rocker and meet your mom and happily announce that you and Chainsaw are an item...





"Hi MOM! Love your house! Can I sleep over?"

I don't have any family, but for years, one of my friends tried to fix me up with his wife's sister. She was "nice" -- i.e., bland, pleasant in a totally innocuous way, but about as interesting as broken guitar strings.

I finally got out of it by explaining how awkward it would be for everyone when the sister and I broke up -- people taking sides, that sort of thing.

I guess it worked because no one has bothered me about that for ages.

But if I had a friend who knew someone who was actually compatible, I would welcome some assistance....!

Aww, can't you just pretend to be a psychopath for one weekend? She's an excellent cook!

That's what makes Phuque's idea so interesting ... it might just become less comfortable for your mother.


Not that my mom would ever try to "fix me up", but the basic meddlesomeness is why I don't mind living most of the way across the country from my family. I only have to see them once (maybe twice) a year.

Oh, I've lived most of my adult life across the country from my family for a reason. I still live almost 3 hours away. That way no one can just "pop in". There is a method to my madness for living in Oklahoma.

Mom's always try to help in the dating part of their child's life. I would just grin and bear it, but you never know what could turn out. It has happened to me and still is. Mom's always want what is best for their children.

I don't want to offend you in any way ...
but........

the placement of this in the conversation has some amazing comedic value.

Other than that I'm sorry for your lack of parental units.
I hope life has supplied some sort of adequate replacements.

Lmao and now seee I had the vision of showing up in a Nun's Habit instead either way would blow her mind.


OMG if I ever did that to one of my kids they would never come around me again. I may be blunt and ask them all kinds of questions at times but I never interfere with what they choose to do in life.

I will admit I do say what I want to and have made even my son blush at times. But...........they know Mom is here if they need her regardless if I hit it off with who they choose or not I will always be pleasant to them. hehehehe well most of the time