I have to disagree with a lot of things here. I think both sexes want
the "friends with benefits" option. I myself, I totally disagree with
it...this is why, someone always ends up getting hurt in the long run.
PLUS why have sex with someone that you are not emotionally connected
with?
Also in todays society, both parents have to work. When I was growing
up, my mom was able to stay home~~BUT I do believe its deep inside the
child of which path they choose to take. My parents had 5 children, none
of us are alike. It doesn't matter if your parents are home with you or
not, you are going to do what you want to do!
I think some people fear commitment...or they play on the "what if this
doesn't work out" I do believe that both male and female are both guilty
of that one

I agree with oldsage, it's all about respect. If you don't respect
yourself, then you can't possibly respect your partner. IMHO, respect
is based on trust and understanding and a willingness to accept the
other person for who they are, warts and all. If you can't accept
someone for who they are due to their looks, beliefs, attitudes,
behaviors, moral character, etc., then IMHO you have no business being
with that person and certainly no business climbing into bed with them,
as you're only setting yourself and the other person up for trouble and
possible heartache down the road.

Just my 2 cents...

SheNerd :)

I think Lori said it fight! This does happen on both sides. It really
boils down to, what you're willing to accept! Some people are willing to
COMPROMISE their lifes, by falling in love with an idea; a vision that
brings joy to their heart! Then, when the dream is over, we're left a
little confused! Everyone here, knows they are due respect, but, some
SETTLE for a little less than acceptable! We can make our life a lot
simplier, if we just not settle for less. I'm human, too, and I have
been, DRAWN TO A FEELING, rather than true sight!!! We are HUMAN!!! What
do you expect?????

One thing I REALLY meant to comment on;
there ARE gentlemen out here. My mother raised two, so I KNOW, there
are, at least, TWO!!!

MOST MEN WANT TO HAVE THE CAKE AND EAT IT TOO YA-NO??? THATS JUST A MAN
FOR YA!!!! VERY FEW GENTLEMAN LEFT THSES DAYS!!!! AND I HAVE FOUND
THAT MOST MEN WHO JUST WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS...ARE
MARRIED!!!!

TONYA

I agree with people are in love with a idea. That is one of our biggest
down falls as humans.

Tonya, you are an amazing woman. You have nothing to hang
your head about! ANY man would be happy with a woman like you. Read your
poems, saw your anger, you are special!!! Someone will appreciate you!!!

I agree that someone needs to be home with small kids, but I don't see
why it has to be the woman's place to do so.

And regardless of that, even if both parents work, they're not at work
24/7, so what does a woman working outside the home have to do with the
decline in teaching kids how to behave properly?

From my observation, it just isn't being done, period, and has nothing
to do with the woman not being a "homemaker."

the behaviour problem

is to much govt interferance

if you do this i am calling cps

but hey

when i heard that i got a small bag out

told them to fill it with what they wanted

while i call them for you

when they get here you will be leaving with them

and that was ussually all it took for a long time
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and the large number of single parent households also have a lot to do
with it as well

but hey what do i know

There is nothing wrong with it as long as your up front with it but
there are a lot of men an women that use people to get what they want.
it's just learning how to get to know someone and where they stand and
this is why I'm up front with who I am and what I'm looking for.

steve you would gladly revert? I have a question what do you do when
your a single mom working 60+ hours a week trying to survive and you
have 2 kids one of which your trying to make into a man and you have no
options to stay home? Womens lib didn't bring us where we are economic
conditions have if your in a single or dual parent home most jobs don't
pay enough to survive. single parents most definitly can't make it in
most areas w/out working what seems to be round the clock and dual
parent homes if mom were to stay home there may as well be no dad
because he will be working 60+ hour weeks if not two jobs and then it
may as well be single parent home. Old days are great unfortunattly
they are not an option and the idea of respect being taught at home is
true however little men learn to respect women from bigger men mom can
preach till she's blue in the face about not hitting sussie but if dad
hauls off and backhands mom guess what eventually johnny will too. Kids
learn by example yes mom plays a large rule but no matter how you cut it
johnny will 9 times out of 10 treat his wife or GF the same way dad
treated mom.

My, haven't we gotten a little off topic here? I was thinking I could
find me a FWB here in this thread......


ducks.....

Because it's cheaper, LOL.



Izzy

In my case I lost everything in my divorce and gained all the bills. I
also payed child support for 8 years ( which Im not complaining about,
they are my kids and it was my responcibility) but Im gunshy when it
comes to commitment, Im just getting out of the financial hole divorce
out me in and the hurt emotionaly that you go through

thank you passionart....your words are very kind!!!!
<<<<< for you!!!!

mikey i didnt know you were online!!!!

You're very welcome, baby!!!

sanna

I know where U R coming from..seems thats all i get..guys are affraid of
commitment, but care, but also need to get theyre rocks
off..christ what happend to masterbation? lol..men love sex,
plain and simple and theres nothing u can do about it..thats y i dont do
"friends with bennies" anymore..screw that..i want a true relationship
with someone..not just sex!!!

I HEAR YOU SWEETS!!!! AMEN GIRLY!!!

I am looking for a gentlemen myself...

I agree both men and women do that. Not all men are that way.