I found out in the last couple months that my wife has been having an online affair with another man. She spends all her time on Facebook playing Texas Hold-em and acting like a teenage ****. It has gotten so bad that the whole marriage is at stake. I have two sons (8yrs and 4yrs old) who are innocent and crushed by their moms neglect.

And I am just supposed to sit and let her be on the computer all day and night, without saying a word, and let her selfishly push her family away.

This whole ordeal has totally ruined a 9 year marriage and family of 4. And the sad part is that she actually thinks her online friends from the UK are honest, caring, good intentioned people. She shares family details which put my kids security and mine at risk.

It got to the point, that the other night, I decided to just go and cut the phone cord to the modem. This set her off, and in her drunken rage in front of the children, she beat me up. She pushed me into the wall, punched me in my face and broke my glasses, totally going psyco...while the kids were crying in fear!!

I told her I was going to call the police on her if she didn't calm down, and then she pushed me out the door.

I went on a little drive, and when I returned, she was on the phone to the cops!!! She told them that I had hit her and that I had destroyed the computer and that I had punched her...All lies...

so the police came and arrested me! I was in jail for 5 days...now facing 2 d felony charges and 2 class a misdomeanors.

The cops wouldn't even listen to my side of the story. Now I can't even talk to my children and have to live in an apartment until this whold court thing is over.

I'm at my wits end. I pray that this may be the beginning to an end of a horrible 9 years of hell.

Thanks for letting me vent. Nobody else to talk to besides myself at the moment. Just trying to stay sane.

Andy

get a divorce

I am sorry for all your drama sweetie that is why I have never remarried...I can feel ya pain...

Get confirmation of your injuries, if you can. Even though male spouse abuse is way up, it is hidden and it is assumed that the male is the abuser.

i tell you what smack the ***** up

Yeah, Smack the ***** up

Kick her to the curb son

Mix some Nair in her shampoo. Mix some melted Ex-Lax in her hot chocolate. Spread some hot chili powder in her underwear. Glue all her credit cards together.

The police believed her without proof of injury and without the computer being destroyed? Cutting the line is way different than destroying the whole computer. Sounds like you need a good lawyer. wow.

I don't mean to be rude or minimize your need for some listening ears........but if you are going to have to go through the court system with all this, talking about it online is probably not the best thing to do. You never know what can be used these days against you.

take her hiking, and push her off the cliff.!! jk bro sorry to hear yur married to a nasty skank.!!

Divorce?

It's unfortunate that you had to go through that.. I am just perplexed at why if it only happened about a week ago and you're so devastated, why are you looking for a new woman already? Would seem to me you're not as hurt as you claim... Perhaps there are a few more holes in the story which is why the police didn't listen to your story.. I don't know Indiana laws but I would think they would look for proof of bruises on her, that seems logical no?

Your story is my biggest fear because I know one day that is exactly what is going to happen to someone so dear to me.

He was warned by co-woorkers he was marrying a woman he should not be involved with but she was young, pretty, available, and he was lonely and wanted a family. She was pregnant immediately.

A bridezilla and neglectful angry Mother she has made all kinds of excuses for fighting with everyone from her family, his, neighbors, bussinesses, employers, and her children's playmates, teacher's, even doctors. She lives on the computer. If anyone crosses her they are likely to be flipped the bird, sworn at, spit on, slapped on, hair pulled, pinched, punched, flopped on, or threatened. He is terrified she will take his kids if he divorces her. She keeps him peniless and and alienated every friend he has. He makes excuses for her rough behavior with the children because he wants them to be able to defend themselves. One child is incredibly submissive and the other a bully.

Yes this is a dateing site and I have not read the OP's profile but you talk to friends or employer you are likely to be shut out. For a man to find a program who will support him is nearly impossible.

I don't know what the solution is because it is not like people who conduct themselves show the whole bad self and they become masterful in making excuses and finding a reason to move when their behavior becomes noticed. As a retired social worker I can tell you it is extreamly difficult to document.

good point, why come on a dating site so quickly?

sorry to hear you going thru this...

good luck, your gonna need it...

but things usually don't *start* with an affair, it's just a symptom....

Dont worry, been through a yucky marriage and divorce myself...

SHELL get what she deserves in life in return. 100%

I would just urge you, no matter HOW much you end up loathing her, and trying not to hate her, please,

NEVER RETALIATE!

I never did, and Im glad for it. There IS justice in this world, and if you keep on being decent, you may not be able to see it at all times, but there IS reward in just being you, and doing the right thing.

People ALWAYS reap what they sew.

I try my best to do the hardest thing when I have an enemy, or someone who I feel so much hate for, and I try my best to pray for them.

Some believe if you do this everyday for two weeks you will be free from the upset, and bad thoughts.

If you believe in spirituality or a higher power, all this pain, problem, upset, anger, hate we may have, etc. BLOCKS US from it.

A true test of you is happening right now. I pray that you get through it, and truly understand the lesson in all of this.

I hope you walk THROUGH it, and not pain in fear.

Good luck my friend.

Confirmation of injuries can be as simple as pictures, but medical documentation is better.

Next time she assaults you, be sure to call the police and make a police report.

However, not to minimize the abuse that you experienced, but you might want to look at your actions. Cutting the phone cord to the modem is also seen as abusive behavior.

I would suggest filing for divorce, family and individual counseling and seeking out family members that would be willing to care for the children during this time.

Divorce her it's only going to keep happening!