ok, here goes.

theres this girl that I have had fealings for for about 15 years. she Is single atm and so am I. The problome Is that we kinda sorta were related thru a marage a long time ago. the marage ended in a death of one of the 2 and now were not related at all. I guess you could say i was her step Uncle, but only a cuple years older than her. I have been out of her life for 12 years and been on the other side of the country for 8. i ran into her a few times and realy had to restrain myself from telling her how i feal. She was very happy to see me, she was a litle drunk and well, lets just say i know that there is a chance from her actions. I think there was always somthing there but it was always kinda forbidden, but you can sence things. were both all grown up now and I think i could make her very happy. I dont want to go throgh life regreting risks that I didnt take, but i am realy not sure how she would take this.
Im gona act on this, I need to know. but my question is, should I slowly start spending time with her, more and more and eventualy ease into it, or should I just throw myself on the table?
i dont want to wait till it is too late.

that just be a little to weird for me,I couldnt do it

I'd say slowly ease into it but let your feelings be known that way if she is not interested and there is no chance you will not be chasing dreams...

I would think going slow would be better as well.

It is a litle weird,

buts even harder to explain the big picture. It is just unfortunat about the curcomstances that we were put in when we were teens.

Don't tell her your feeling. It's too soon and you may freak her out. Take her out, have fun and see how it goes. If the two of you hit it off there'll be plenty of time to talk about feelings.

I want to see you throw yourself on the table.............




hope it's a sturdy one.

CREEEEEEEEEEEEEEPY

i think i'd be grossed out if i was the female in this situation. but to each his own.

get her drunk and go for it

You were only related thru marriage ,and arn't anymore ,so I dont see a problem. Go for it

Your asking here it is likely you know this relationship is REALLY going to COMPLICATE both of your lives.

That you say you met her when she was Drunk should be a red flag. You really need that kind of relationship?

You are single now and probably lonely but don't fantasize something that was no go in your teens as a possibility now just because you are feeling down and she gave you the eye when she was loaded. It means nothing. Chances are you are going to make a fool of yourself and ruin a friendship.

You want to date someone you might ask this long term friend to introduce you to someone nice who isn't a drinking buddy.

I see a jerry springer show in the making........

How old is said girl???

AMEN!!!

This will probably almost inevitably blow up in your face...

One word.......

Freaky-Deeky

If she doesnt blush and look at you like someone important to her just walked in the room, chances are she thinks your a chode and unless she is some ridicouls exception she will want nothing to do with your short and stout, if she is an exception she will soon loose general intrest in your chode, no chode go for it she loves you.............

Take her for a test drive. Joe dirt did.