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Topic: Yet Again!
Cutiepieforyou's photo
Tue 06/23/09 04:35 PM
I have not been on that much lately and have not witnessed the negativity. I do feel that it is important to make new people feel welcome. Every one of us was new when we first joined. I think this is a great site. Let's try and keep it that way.

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 06/23/09 04:37 PM

I have not been on that much lately and have not witnessed the negativity. I do feel that it is important to make new people feel welcome. Every one of us was new when we first joined. I think this is a great site. Let's try and keep it that way.


I'll start coddling them from now on.

auburngirl's photo
Tue 06/23/09 04:37 PM

People who have been here for awhile tend to forget that there are new people signing up all the time -- and that your 4883rd "nice guy" thread is also somebody else's first one.

Call it short-sightedness, self-absorption, whatever -- it is kind of interesting when someone complains "THIS IS THE SEVENTY MILLIONTH TIME I"VE SEEN THIS TOPIC POSTED SINCE APRIL 24, 2007" and the OP just joined yesterday.

I guess new people are supposed to be psychic somehow and already know everything that's been posted before they joined.

Hey, and I've heard this argument: "They should at least take the time to read the forums and find out about what's been posted a lot already."

I agree with the first part -- I think everybody should read the forums for awhile before they post; it helps you get accustomed to the interplay, the ebb and flow, the cast of characters.

But as to making a detailed survey of everything that's been posted already? -- that's insane. I never did that. I signed up, read for awhile, and jumped in.


That's understandable, Lex. By the same token, if some of these new people actually thought about their first threads they're creating -- I mean REALLY sat for a few minutes and thought about it -- do you think they would actually still post a "Does this site really work?", or "Has anyone met?", or "nice guy" thread, or anything of that ilk, honestly believing that that question hasn't been asked here before? I'm not trying to sound sardonic, but it's really all a matter of using one's own common sense.

Just an observation. No offense intended.



I said something very much like this on MY soapbox rant recently drinker But now, I uh...just don't care

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Tue 06/23/09 04:37 PM

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Tue 06/23/09 04:38 PM


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awwww crap

never mind

franshade's photo
Tue 06/23/09 04:40 PM
Edited by franshade on Tue 06/23/09 04:41 PM
Pulp Fiction :thumbsup: - quiet

I haven't seen these threads, however, but I have seen various threads reminding people to be 'nice' to newbies

flowerforyou

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 06/23/09 05:20 PM

Pulp Fiction :thumbsup: - quiet

I haven't seen these threads, however, but I have seen various threads reminding people to be 'nice' to newbies

flowerforyou


That's because there are so few threads that anyone actually gets attacked much less because they are new, but tons of 'be nice to newbies' threads. I'm blunt, period. No matter how many posts someone has up, I'm the same person. If a regular were to do it (and they have) it wouldn't change my response. New, old, in-between, I don't care.

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Tue 06/23/09 06:36 PM

Hey Lex, Thanks!
I'm new here, and I Joined the site so I could participate in the Forums, not to get picked up by some Random Hot Man who lives half way across the United States.
At the moment I'm content with simply adding my 2 cents here and there, and Flirting with Eileena, Rara and their Crew. Eventually, when I have paid my Dues, and my Bills, I may elect to start a Thread or Two of my own.

I am as Sarcastic as the next Northerner, and very often type in Accents... That doesn't mean that I'm ignorant, and don't have a Grasp on the English Language, (or a Copy of Brother Websters....)

That just means that the way I type fits my mood.
I say that now, because I plan on being part of this Community for a good long while, and am wondering exactly how long the "incubation period" is...


I really don't think there's any sort of mathematical formula or anything....!

It's more about getting yourself out into the forums and interacting with people. I've seen newbies come in who made a real impact (and it could be positive or negative; but the negative ones tend not to stick around so long) right from Day One. Post count can have an impact, I suppose, but that's really only a reflection of how much of a "presence" you choose to be, and it's not even always a GOOD reflection -- there are people here who have a LOT more posts than I have, and I know little or nothing about them. Mainly because they tend to post in the forums I rarely, if ever, read.

But watch out for Eileen....that one is a World Class Stalker!

And if you see her, tell her to leave some more Pepsi in the bushes out back.


tanyaann's photo
Wed 06/24/09 06:15 AM

Thank you Tayaann for this thread.




Thank you!

auburngirl's photo
Wed 06/24/09 06:17 AM
It is clearly not possible for some people.

tanyaann's photo
Wed 06/24/09 06:18 AM

It is clearly not possible for some people.


I know. But there are those that seem to jump on the bandwagon. And that sometimes what maybe funny for them or comical might not be to someone new.

ForeverStumpy's photo
Wed 06/24/09 06:25 AM
When I joined a little while ago...people made me feel Very welcome and made me feel all warm and fuzzy!

Lilypetal's photo
Wed 06/24/09 06:39 AM
I have many friends that don't appreciate a sarcastc remark or playful taunting. When I meet people in person, I take the time to get to know them a little before I decide how to treat them. I know people that I can laugh at and call an idiot. I know people that if I treated them the same way, they would hate me or cry. Take the time to get to know people on these threads before you decide if they can handle being called names or spoken to sarcastically. Simple as that.

ForeverStumpy's photo
Wed 06/24/09 06:42 AM

I have many friends that don't appreciate a sarcastc remark or playful taunting. When I meet people in person, I take the time to get to know them a little before I decide how to treat them. I know people that I can laugh at and call an idiot. I know people that if I treated them the same way, they would hate me or cry. Take the time to get to know people on these threads before you decide if they can handle being called names or spoken to sarcastically. Simple as that.
Four paws up for you!

HeyBeautiful88's photo
Wed 06/24/09 07:11 AM

I have many friends that don't appreciate a sarcastic remark or playful taunting. When I meet people in person, I take the time to get to know them a little before I decide how to treat them. I know people that I can laugh at and call an idiot. I know people that if I treated them the same way, they would hate me or cry. Take the time to get to know people on these threads before you decide if they can handle being called names or spoken to sarcastically. Simple as that.


That is Good Advise Lily.
The problem with typing is that those who are reading your statements cannot Hear it when there is a *smile* on your face, or if your words are *dripping with sarcasm*... It's hard to express how you intended your words to be heard sometimes.

tanyaann's photo
Thu 06/25/09 08:29 AM
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MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Thu 06/25/09 08:35 AM
(((Tanyaann))) flowerforyou :smile: flowerforyou

*Treat people like you would wish to be treated yourselves.

*The worst weapon we have is our tongue.

*The best ship to board is the friendship.

*Make love not war.




tanyaann's photo
Thu 06/25/09 08:38 AM

(((Tanyaann))) flowerforyou :smile: flowerforyou

*Treat people like you would wish to be treated yourselves.

*The worst weapon we have is our tongue.

*The best ship to board is the friendship.

*Make love not war.







waving Hi MsTB! flowers

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