People who have been here for awhile tend to forget that there are new people signing up all the time -- and that your 4883rd "nice guy" thread is also somebody else's first one.

Call it short-sightedness, self-absorption, whatever -- it is kind of interesting when someone complains "THIS IS THE SEVENTY MILLIONTH TIME I"VE SEEN THIS TOPIC POSTED SINCE APRIL 24, 2007" and the OP just joined yesterday.

I guess new people are supposed to be psychic somehow and already know everything that's been posted before they joined.

Hey, and I've heard this argument: "They should at least take the time to read the forums and find out about what's been posted a lot already."

I agree with the first part -- I think everybody should read the forums for awhile before they post; it helps you get accustomed to the interplay, the ebb and flow, the cast of characters.

But as to making a detailed survey of everything that's been posted already? -- that's insane. I never did that. I signed up, read for awhile, and jumped in.

Look, people are people, so why should it be that new people get treated so awfully? (Sorry, had a musical brain cramp there.)

Give 'em a little time, let 'em learn. This is a damn good site, with lots of great people, and the LAST thing we need to do is drive the new good ones away by picking on them for trivial little piddly stuff that maybe we even did OURSELVES when we were new, right?

I look at it like this -- how would I want to be treated as a newcomer? And I think if we put ourselves in that position, and stop being so damn proprietary and territorial about everything (you know who you are!), we MIGHT just get some INTERESTING new people on this site.

Worth a try, huh?

sorry, i was taking life seriously for a bit...



relax... life aint so bad.

That's an awfully big pill!

There are a few ( not many) on here that just love to disagree & look for arguments, i just don't bother to reply back because they don't even realize that's what they do. Oh & there's also the 2,500 word responses

Think not of what the other is doing, saying, being!Only think of the self!It is much easier on the soul!

Thinking only of self is selfish... thinking of others is selfless!

welfare thread

People who have been here for awhile tend to forget that there are new people signing up all the time -- and that your 4883rd "nice guy" thread is also somebody else's first one.

Give 'em a little time, let 'em learn. This is a damn good site, with lots of great people, and the LAST thing we need to do is drive the new good ones away by picking on them for trivial little piddly stuff that maybe we even did OURSELVES when we were new, right?

I look at it like this -- how would I want to be treated as a newcomer? And I think if we put ourselves in that position, and stop being so damn proprietary and territorial about everything (you know who you are!), we MIGHT just get some INTERESTING new people on this site.

People who have been here for awhile tend to forget that there are new people signing up all the time -- and that your 4883rd "nice guy" thread is also somebody else's first one.

Call it short-sightedness, self-absorption, whatever -- it is kind of interesting when someone complains "THIS IS THE SEVENTY MILLIONTH TIME I"VE SEEN THIS TOPIC POSTED SINCE APRIL 24, 2007" and the OP just joined yesterday.

I guess new people are supposed to be psychic somehow and already know everything that's been posted before they joined.

Hey, and I've heard this argument: "They should at least take the time to read the forums and find out about what's been posted a lot already."

I agree with the first part -- I think everybody should read the forums for awhile before they post; it helps you get accustomed to the interplay, the ebb and flow, the cast of characters.

But as to making a detailed survey of everything that's been posted already? -- that's insane. I never did that. I signed up, read for awhile, and jumped in.

People who have been here for awhile tend to forget that there are new people signing up all the time -- and that your 4883rd "nice guy" thread is also somebody else's first one.

Call it short-sightedness, self-absorption, whatever -- it is kind of interesting when someone complains "THIS IS THE SEVENTY MILLIONTH TIME I"VE SEEN THIS TOPIC POSTED SINCE APRIL 24, 2007" and the OP just joined yesterday.

I guess new people are supposed to be psychic somehow and already know everything that's been posted before they joined.

Hey, and I've heard this argument: "They should at least take the time to read the forums and find out about what's been posted a lot already."

I agree with the first part -- I think everybody should read the forums for awhile before they post; it helps you get accustomed to the interplay, the ebb and flow, the cast of characters.

But as to making a detailed survey of everything that's been posted already? -- that's insane. I never did that. I signed up, read for awhile, and jumped in.

Look, people are people, so why should it be that new people get treated so awfully? (Sorry, had a musical brain cramp there.)

Give 'em a little time, let 'em learn. This is a damn good site, with lots of great people, and the LAST thing we need to do is drive the new good ones away by picking on them for trivial little piddly stuff that maybe we even did OURSELVES when we were new, right?

I look at it like this -- how would I want to be treated as a newcomer? And I think if we put ourselves in that position, and stop being so damn proprietary and territorial about everything (you know who you are!), we MIGHT just get some INTERESTING new people on this site.

Worth a try, huh?

I am seeing the negativity cropping up again.

Can you think back to when you were new? When the site was confusing? Or when you were frustrated with something?

Can't we just give a simple reply? Some words of encouragement. NOT chastizing or ridicule! If they asked for help and you can give advice, if not why not keep it to yourself

Now don't jump on me about free speech and all that stuff... free site... post whereever you want... blah blah blah

Can't you think for a minute about what other that don't post on the forums might think when they read your posts! That could be a potential date/relationship/friend and negativity might have scared them away!

Please stop and think for a moment. Reflect on yourself. Are there changes that you might make to make yourself more apealling for a potention partner? Could that be... being less negative on the forums?

That's understandable, Lex. By the same token, if some of these new people actually thought about their first threads they're creating -- I mean REALLY sat for a few minutes and thought about it -- do you think they would actually still post a "Does this site really work?", or "Has anyone met?", or "nice guy" thread, or anything of that ilk, honestly believing that that question hasn't been asked here before? I'm not trying to sound sardonic, but it's really all a matter of using one's own common sense.

Just an observation. No offense intended.