I am seeing the negativity cropping up again.

Can you think back to when you were new? When the site was confusing? Or when you were frustrated with something?

Can't we just give a simple reply? Some words of encouragement. NOT chastizing or ridicule! If they asked for help and you can give advice, if not why not keep it to yourself

Now don't jump on me about free speech and all that stuff... free site... post whereever you want... blah blah blah

Can't you think for a minute about what other that don't post on the forums might think when they read your posts! That could be a potential date/relationship/friend and negativity might have scared them away!

Please stop and think for a moment. Reflect on yourself. Are there changes that you might make to make yourself more apealling for a potention partner? Could that be... being less negative on the forums?

"F" off

Stop by the "flirting" thread, Tanya......we all just have a love-fest in there.

Oh when did this happen!

I said something recently on a soapbox rant just like this

I started it the other night.......

Tanya I remeber when I was new here and you were the first one to make me feel part of the "family"

I agree with you on this. A little kindness goes a long long way!

Awh! I didn't know that! You are absolutely lovely, I am glad that you are still around!

is this another....some people need welfare thread

It's a tough crowd. I understand. It takes a while to trust new people... I get that! It's the internet. I remember it seemed a little off putting when I first got on here, but I stuck it out.

Now at times I feel like an outsider, because I don't post on every thread or participate in all conversations. But I am still here.

Still around...I know I,m old but gees

You know I didn't mean it like that... we just don't cross paths as much!

People who have been here for awhile tend to forget that there are new people signing up all the time -- and that your 4883rd "nice guy" thread is also somebody else's first one.

Call it short-sightedness, self-absorption, whatever -- it is kind of interesting when someone complains "THIS IS THE SEVENTY MILLIONTH TIME I"VE SEEN THIS TOPIC POSTED SINCE APRIL 24, 2007" and the OP just joined yesterday.

I guess new people are supposed to be psychic somehow and already know everything that's been posted before they joined.

Hey, and I've heard this argument: "They should at least take the time to read the forums and find out about what's been posted a lot already."

I agree with the first part -- I think everybody should read the forums for awhile before they post; it helps you get accustomed to the interplay, the ebb and flow, the cast of characters.

But as to making a detailed survey of everything that's been posted already? -- that's insane. I never did that. I signed up, read for awhile, and jumped in.

Look, people are people, so why should it be that new people get treated so awfully? (Sorry, had a musical brain cramp there.)

Give 'em a little time, let 'em learn. This is a damn good site, with lots of great people, and the LAST thing we need to do is drive the new good ones away by picking on them for trivial little piddly stuff that maybe we even did OURSELVES when we were new, right?

I look at it like this -- how would I want to be treated as a newcomer? And I think if we put ourselves in that position, and stop being so damn proprietary and territorial about everything (you know who you are!), we MIGHT just get some INTERESTING new people on this site.

Worth a try, huh?

i'm really good at that so..is there any women who like men that do that

I know ..Iwas just joking.Maybe I was out in the sun too long today

That's almost as bad as being a 'nice' guy!