In this thread I hope to find out why woman do certain things,that men tend to not understand,recently I was on a date with someone I met at my work,a very nice young lady,before we had dated we had always seemed to be able to talk about various subject matter,but while we were out on our date the conversation kept veering towards my dates appearance,such do you like my blouse,do you like my hair this way,or always mentioning about something that is cute to them,I have also had this occur while I have been in long term relationships with a woman,how many times must a man compliment a woman on a given basis,I had a relationship once of almost 7 yrs,so I felt a compliment every once in a while was approiate,since we had been in a relationship for so long but she still complained of me not complimenting her enough,why the sudden change with my work friend after we only dated once,sometimes it's really hard to say the right thing,no matter how old I become I tend to understand woman less and less,please don't get me wrong I adore woman,but sometimes I just don't understand why they need that constant reinforcement about their appearance.

sounds like either low self esteem on her part and needed validation or just likes hearing compliments. not all women are like that. for me....compliments are nice but when done too often kinda makes me think

why is it so hard to compliment?

Don't you just love insecure women? I usually love them for about one night.

here's my opinion... she probably really liked you alot and was trying her best to impress you. She prob didn't realize that all she needed to do was be herself.
Not all women need to be complimented on a constant basis. In fact, it gets a little annoying after awhile. If you do it ALL the time, then it seems to mean a little a less.

Because my cigarette falls out of my mouth when I open it.

I dont think Ive ever asked a guy if my blouse was nice or my hair looked nice. Thats like asking Big Bird about fashion1!!

I think a compliment now and again is nice.....if its sincere. Now tell me Im pretty!!!

I agree with you,compliments loose meaning when you give them out constantly,as a former girlfriend of mine stated don't say you love me if you don't mean it.

Your a goddess Gypsy

Awwwwwwwwww I needed that thanks!!

I just couldn't help it. Lose and you're.

I think a better question is.. why do you seek out insecure women?

It may not be intensional, and many of us have a picker that is broken, I am no exception.


There are definitely alot of different women out there that arent like that.. Id say, weed em out better, and find someone who is more independant.

Also, quite possibly you could take it as a compliment, and see that sometimes a woman wants to look her best for you, and please you, and likes to point out she is making an effort for you *hint* hint*


She likes you.

This may not always be the case, but quite the possiblity.

I prefer the occasional "hi beautiful" as opposed to constantly telling me how cute I am I honestly can't say that I have ever asked my dates opinion on my blouse. On a first date I would happy with something like "you look great, ready to go have some fun?"

No the dress doesn't make you look fat, your fat makes you look fat!

I think if I get a fatter man I will look thinner!!!

So, say things when you mean them. Simple.

This is one of the reasons I prefer a skinny woman, me= big her =skinny together we can be average

That begs another question,why after just one date with a woman they have already made their minds up about where the relationship is going,I like to take things a bit slow first,there have also been instances where after the first date,and the woman likes you,that you can only see them and to date another woman makes them upset.I think it takes a man a little longer to know if he wants to see a woman exclusively.

I agree, people are so wierd, and possessive.

It would even benefit THEM to see others, and take their pick.

because women think ahead far more than men do. Men, typically, are far more scared of commitment than women are. Men think of right now... tomorrow. Women wanna plan for the future. It's just in our nature.