To tell the truth, I don't even watch TV anymore. I get any and all of my TV jones action from THIS website-

http://www.surfthechannel.com/

- which has practically EVERY TV show, movie, cartoon, and documentary in its database! I'm sure they even got episodes of "trueblood", too!

I'll check it out.. thanks.. Hey what's that im program you told me about months ago that you can use for all im programs and it's more stable?

There are a couple-

- Pidgin
- Trillian
- www.meebo.com

I kind of switch off between Pidgin and Trillian, as both are pretty good. They'll handle any and all IM protocols you use (gtalk, Yahoo Messenger, MSN Talk, ICQ, smoke signals) in one program.

Pidgin has been a wee bit strange with its servers though, so your mileage might vary with that one.

Meebo is an ONLINE version of the same thing as Pidgin and Trillian, except there's nothing to install (you're going to a website).

I was thinking of trying it out.. well now one of them.. LOL

(((OC)))

hello ((((((Prncs)))))

how are you hun?

I heard Im AMAZING!!

You are dahling, you are...

I was thinking about california today. Sorry I cant give you a specific date. My stress levels have been through the roof lately........and I dont want to meet anyone when Im so down. But I am still thinking......

Oh......and I meant to email you today but I was so busy with fathers day. I hope you didnt take it the wrong way.......about your son etc.

You're still coming??? I can't wait...

I do know what you mean.. I've been very down the last few weeks and the events of the last few days didn't help but standing up and putting my foot down seemed to have a bit...

I didn't take it the wrong way, Gyps you are you and your delivery at times is funny but you're always kind... You said what you thought and you are right

I know I didn't respond for a bit and when I went back there were a few so I kind of did a blanket thank you.. I was going to email you as well but I had to get ready to take my son to D&B's.. Vincent called and we were talking for quite a while.. He's such a good soul as are you my friend...

Well........I thought maybe I sounded a bit harsh. I can be that way sometimes...but I mean well!

<-----no expert on child rearing either but we all need help from time to time and to say its ok to be feeling the way we do. Kids!!!

I was thinking about california today.......like **** it!!! Just go.......but I need to be more "me" and I havent been. I sometimes miss "me".........happy me.......and I dont want anyone to see "stressed" me.

Perhaps you can be but I rarely see it AND I know you have a big mushy heart

You're right KIDS!! I pray the recent events change him and his respect level.. If not I've gambled and lost and that will kill me but he knows how much I love him...ck

I know what you mean.. I haven't been myself in a few weeks either.. I really want that back too... Take your time b/c I understand and I'll be here whenever you decide to come..

Ya well stand your ground......he is a big boy. What were we doing at 24????? I know I was living on my own, paying my own bills, getting into trouble gaaaaaaaaawd I had fun!!

I remember my own mom kinda giving me the hint too.....to get out and be a grown up. Before that point I think I really expected them to keep me forever!!!

and heres a good one I used to use on my own parents.........

"I didnt ask to be born!!! You have to support me till I die"

I went out on my own on and off from 17-21, then got married and had him and his brother by 23... I was glad to get away from home and have my own life, my parents helped me when I needed it but there were rules and expectations especially of respect.. I know I've made it far to easy for my sons but I wanted them to always know I was there and would help them in any way I could.. But that didn't include how he's treated me.. I'm not good at tough love and this is killing me, but maybe that's been the problem, maybe tough love will work.. I sure hope so..

You know princess........guilt makes us do many things. But the one thing I do know is that you are doing them NO favours by spoiling them with lavish gifts. It will not bring back their dad or the guilt you feel from the divorce.

Things to me are just "things"......by saying no sometimes you are actually showing them more love than giving them things.

Someone once told me......you need to teach your children to be a grown up. That is your role as a parent.

You're right Gyps and that person was very smart.. The gifts is only part of it, the saving his azz every time he got in trouble or did something stupid may be the bigger issue..

ya we love our kids too much. But we need to let go and make their own mistakes and learn from them themselves. Isnt that what we did?