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Topic: I screwed up
shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/14/09 03:57 AM
BIG TIME! When leaving my new bf (it's probably over now), my brain was soooo not working. The L word slipped out. I don't think he heard me but, I do think he read my lip's. I don't know what happened to me! No, I don't mean it, it just came out. How do I fix this? Now,he's avoiding me. Ya know, not calling when he say's he will. Any advice folk's?

Riding_Dubz's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:20 AM
Edited by Riding_Dubz on Sun 06/14/09 04:21 AM

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:21 AM


Dubz, I'm serious here.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:21 AM
Talk to him...really all you can do. Best of luck.

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Sun 06/14/09 04:25 AM
flowerforyou

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:26 AM
yeah what Dahmer said ... i mean Fear

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Sun 06/14/09 04:36 AM
I'm LOST

I'm LEAVING

I LEFT something in the car.

I'm making LUNCH.


OH, that "L" word........

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:39 AM

I'm LOST

I'm LEAVING

I LEFT something in the car.

I'm making LUNCH.


OH, that "L" word........
Yeah

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:39 AM

yeah what Dahmer said ... i mean Fear


It's the picture, isn't it?

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:43 AM


yeah what Dahmer said ... i mean Fear


It's the picture, isn't it?


Oh on , not at all bro drinker

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 06/14/09 04:44 AM



yeah what Dahmer said ... i mean Fear


It's the picture, isn't it?


Oh on , not at all bro drinker


Oh, good.

NiteOwl71's photo
Sun 06/14/09 05:11 AM

BIG TIME! When leaving my new bf (it's probably over now), my brain was soooo not working. The L word slipped out. I don't think he heard me but, I do think he read my lip's. I don't know what happened to me! No, I don't mean it, it just came out. How do I fix this? Now,he's avoiding me. Ya know, not calling when he say's he will. Any advice folk's?


What's to fix????

If you are going out, there MUST be some mutual attraction there. Love is a choice, and if knowing that his girl cares about him alot is scary to him, then, whether meant or not, he's DEFINATLY not ready for some of the bigger things that life can throw at ya`!

If you call him, once, and let him know that you noticed his change in behavior, and are really sad that a brain fart could change things so drastically. Then wish him well (and mean it), but leave it open for him to contact you. Then it's up to him.

One thing though, don't fret about him. He'll need to deal with it, just like anyone else.

Don't know if this helps or not, but I almost told a girl that I loved her one time. Luckily (or unluckily as the case may be) she started telling me about this guy she was seeing! LOL
We're still friends, but nothing more.

Anyway, Good luck

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sun 06/14/09 05:47 AM


BIG TIME! When leaving my new bf (it's probably over now), my brain was soooo not working. The L word slipped out. I don't think he heard me but, I do think he read my lip's. I don't know what happened to me! No, I don't mean it, it just came out. How do I fix this? Now,he's avoiding me. Ya know, not calling when he say's he will. Any advice folk's?


What's to fix????

If you are going out, there MUST be some mutual attraction there. Love is a choice, and if knowing that his girl cares about him alot is scary to him, then, whether meant or not, he's DEFINATLY not ready for some of the bigger things that life can throw at ya`!

If you call him, once, and let him know that you noticed his change in behavior, and are really sad that a brain fart could change things so drastically. Then wish him well (and mean it), but leave it open for him to contact you. Then it's up to him.

One thing though, don't fret about him. He'll need to deal with it, just like anyone else.

Don't know if this helps or not, but I almost told a girl that I loved her one time. Luckily (or unluckily as the case may be) she started telling me about this guy she was seeing! LOL
We're still friends, but nothing more.

Anyway, Good luck


Good Advice! How long have you been seeing each other?

NiteOwl71's photo
Sun 06/14/09 06:15 AM


Don't know if this helps or not, but I almost told a girl that I loved her one time. Luckily (or unluckily as the case may be) she started telling me about this guy she was seeing! LOL
We're still friends, but nothing more.

Anyway, Good luck


Good Advice! How long have you been seeing each other?


It wasn't really romantic or anything. She'd call aand need a ride somewhere for errands, and since I wasn't doing anything, I'ld take her. This really should be in another post. I only mentioned it to maybe get a smile or a giggle.

I have a tendency to fall into the friend or brother category with women, so I wasn't really all that surprised.

Raineynite's photo
Sun 06/14/09 06:22 AM
oops I would send him a email if you can explaining hey i meant i loved the moment or i didnt really mean it and i have a feeling you thought i did, im sorry and i hope we can be friends again so forth and so on.

Puffins1958's photo
Sun 06/14/09 06:30 AM
I've had that happen to me.
We were able to talk about it...he understood where I was coming from.

You will never know what he's thinking, I would definately talk to him. You never know.....


Good luck.

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/14/09 07:39 AM


BIG TIME! When leaving my new bf (it's probably over now), my brain was soooo not working. The L word slipped out. I don't think he heard me but, I do think he read my lip's. I don't know what happened to me! No, I don't mean it, it just came out. How do I fix this? Now,he's avoiding me. Ya know, not calling when he say's he will. Any advice folk's?


What's to fix????

If you are going out, there MUST be some mutual attraction there. Love is a choice, and if knowing that his girl cares about him alot is scary to him, then, whether meant or not, he's DEFINATLY not ready for some of the bigger things that life can throw at ya`!

If you call him, once, and let him know that you noticed his change in behavior, and are really sad that a brain fart could change things so drastically. Then wish him well (and mean it), but leave it open for him to contact you. Then it's up to him.

One thing though, don't fret about him. He'll need to deal with it, just like anyone else.

Don't know if this helps or not, but I almost told a girl that I loved her one time. Luckily (or unluckily as the case may be) she started telling me about this guy she was seeing! LOL
We're still friends, but nothing more.

Anyway, Good luck
That's very sound advice. Thank you.

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Sun 06/14/09 07:50 AM
Hey Ms.Shoesmonkey, firstly am no therapist. But seriously, if that ever happened to me, i'd take it from one ear and let it out from the other.

Point here is that we tend to speak words which we do not mean at all. However, if your BF takes such a trivial matter to heart, then i guess he's not meant for you. Afterall, love conquers all. So where's his love for you?

However, its up to you to decide, whether to talk to him or move on. Afterall, its your life thats involved here.

Goodluck lady.

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Sun 06/14/09 07:55 AM

BIG TIME! When leaving my new bf (it's probably over now), my brain was soooo not working. The L word slipped out. I don't think he heard me but, I do think he read my lip's. I don't know what happened to me! No, I don't mean it, it just came out. How do I fix this? Now,he's avoiding me. Ya know, not calling when he say's he will. Any advice folk's?

Its like this....

If he is that scared of the "L" word....

Do you really see a future with him???

If he had any sense, he would see it as a term of affection, not a term of commitment(which he obviously doesnt want)....

Sorry for being blunt....flowerforyou

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Sun 06/14/09 07:58 AM
Just explain, it happens sometimes. Hell people have said worse.

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