IMO...LDR's are not for the faint of heart, jealous people, or the insecure. It takes a LOT of communication & trust...but most importantly, you gotta have that "face-time"...I don't care how broke you are...save those pennies & spend as much time as you can together until one or the other can relocate.

The Internet can be a crazy &/or wonderful place for bringing people together...I have made some of my best friends here & have met a wonderful man on the Net... So many things can conspire against a couple from getting together...whether it be money, distance, family obligations, etc... But for me...I'm willing to take that chance & endure the lonely times...because the alternative would be living without my ...

Tried it before, several times.

Never again.

me too

Hmm... Certainly wouldn't be what I'd look for, and I'm just a college student at this point, so there's not really money to travel except when I'm forced to take winter break away from campus. But, I'm the kind of person to make online friends, and I kind of like to just let things happen. To see what's natural. Where life takes me. Because... I don't know what life's plans are for me; I try not to be that arrogant. :D

So I was looking for someone on another website... I put I was looking for "hang out." Never been on a date, it's never been my thing... so I thought "hang out" sounded best. There weren't many local options, so I figured out real quick that that was a dead end, lest I just wait. Thus, of course, I expanded my options. I just wanted to meet someone!

I found someone who I really, really liked, who was looking for "friendship." Perfect. She asked me on a date before long, rainchecked! Later we had a discussion that we wouldn't do a "relationship" without meeting in person and having our date first. I don't know if that means we'd do a long-distance "relationship." (I put that in quotation marks because I've never dated anyone before, and "relationship" to me has meant "friendship" or a way of "relating" to others for six years now.) But if face-to-face is ultimately the kind of relationship we'd want, then that's the foundation our relationship needs.

But we have a friendship for now. It's great. At this point, I don't know if either of us would even want a "relationship"... so even if we met in person right now, it would take time. Therefore, I think it's best we just continue to get to know each other for a while without meeting in person.

I think I'd be okay with LDR, but it would be a little scarier. If she meets someone else, in person, a) I wouldn't know unless she told me, and b) that person would have an edge on me given the proximity. She told me she is "highly sexual." I'm kind of the opposite... she is the only person I have ever agreed to go on a date with. And I wouldn't be surprised if she's the last. So yeah... scary. That's why... I'd really, really want to trust her before agreeing to a "relationship."

The long distance thing only works if the two people involved can both handle it. This is not the case I would imagine, more often than not. No physical contact, not even talking sex, makes it kind of disconnected, IMO.

for me it simply hasn't worked. theres a stage of progression that gets skipped over so that the bond can continue to grow naturally.
when, while heading home from work you want an impropmtu 'let's grab pizza' or 'that contract just went through, let's go celebrate'.
by the time you've arranged time off, purchased and waited on flight /drive time the intensity of the mood has passed.

in a nutshell, you (i) can't flow when spontaneity isn't possible.gotta be able sometimes to just reach out, touch and be touched

ya know??

I am still trying to figure it out!

Will let you know in another month

Agree!!