Are some of you not romantics at all? Why would you automatically dis-include anyone not close to you for a relationship? How do you know your perfect match isn't eight states away? But since you're so stubborn and won't try a long distance thing, you settle for someone within driving distance. What a sad tale that is!!!!!

Especially when you're settling for "second best".

There are hundreds(perhaps thousands) of "perfect matches" in this world for me, dandw..... the chances I will find one nearby is just as likely as finding one far far away

I'm not sure that it's necessarily sad, stubborn or even close-minded. Many people know exactly what they can handle or what is possible for THEM and they act accordingly. Nothing wrong with that. Yes, maybe that does narrow the pool for some people but we all have to make choices in life, based on our own set of priorities, and we have to live with the choice. As long as someone's ok within their own skin, that's all that matters

Maybe I see things as I do because I feel like there's a right one for everybody. Not that there are several right ones. I mean if you look at your past relationships, while something good came out of them most likely, they obviously weren't the "right one" because things didn't work. Maybe I'm just an idealist?

I agree with you. I was not looking for another relationship. I had decided if it was to be, UPS would have to just deliver him to my front door. Sometimes things happen that are meant to and I for one, wouldn't let the distance stand in my way.

What if I met my singular "right on" when I was 12......

or perhaps they died at a young age or

perhaps they don't know I am the "right" one.

If there is only one singular "right one" the odds of meeting are enormous .....if not statistically impossible.....

I wanna date someone in a different country


russia maybe

I don't need a Pen Pal

Just a side thought to that. I was married and my husband died. If he were the only one for me, ever, then I'd be made to be alone since the age of 35. I, like you, always wondered if there was just one person for us all. I don't believe that any more. How could I?

Also, with regard to the distance thing. Sometimes relocating just isn't possible if there are young kids in school to be considered, a well paying job that one has been at for many years. I do see that it is a lot to consider.

But see I don't think your right one would have died at a young age..or if they didn't know you were the right one, then obviously they weren't...

Thank you!!!!!

Are you looking for someone to "f**k" or someone to have a relationship with?

Well if that's all it would be to you then no you shouldn't have one. But if you possess the capability to truly care for someone, then it would be worth it.

i just wanna man i don't care where he is

I think that was probably very hurtful to her. And frankly, you owe AuburnGirl an apology.

That being said, and I think this discussion is going a little off-topic but I think there are many "right" ones in our life. They are right for the moment, for a while, and if we are really lucky, for the rest of our lives. I'm divorced but I have no regrets with my ex, he was the "right" one at the time and in many ways, is still the right one, though the nature of our relationship has changed drastically. He's the "right" very good friend. Many people walk in and out of our lives, they sometimes stay, sometimes not but they all serve a very real and "right" purpose. To narrow your view of "right" or "soul mate" to such an extent, THAT seems sad to me

my bad i forgot to say female

I wanted to try one. A couple years ago, this girl from Russia (Svetlana) started e-mailing me. I don't exactly know how she got my e-mail address but it couldn't be more beautiful. She really started falling head over heals for me and fast. It made me feel so good. She sent me pictures and told me about her daily life. She was so beautiful. I started to fall for her too. Well, shortly into our e-mailing romance, she got upset because she wanted to come over here and meet me and possibly live over here. But an unforeseen circumstance arose. She was broke......didn't have the money. Well, I did and I was very excited about seeing her. So she gave me her address and I sent a pretty substantial certified check over to her. Mext thing you know, I never heard from her again. This took a long time to get over. I don't know what happened but it had to have been bad. She was so in love with me, that I know if she was still alive, she would contact me.