Hey,

I recently become a christian and I have a very big question. I learned from the 10 commandments that we should not have sex before mariage.
I must say, it is easy to talk than to act.
How do you do that? How can anyone not having sex for years?

Thanks

even worse

I dated two men who were virgins at ages 26 and 30. They took their chastity very seriously.

So, that's what bringing up the cross, it is.

i know the bible states we should not have sex without mariage, the opertive word is should but not cant or dont. the bible is are layout of what we should do but god himself knows we all fall short to the glory of god and he knows we will sin. i even know pastors and other christians who are married now but before they got married they even slept together.

hello suzette my good friend

Just don't enjoy it, then it will not be sin

not in the big 10, sorry. read them again.

it does say: Thou shalt not commit adultery. Adultery is an affair.

Question: "What does the Bible say about sex before marriage / premarital sex?"

Answer: There is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage. The Bible undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but is sex before marriage considered sexually immoral? According to 1 Corinthians 7:2, “yes” is the clear answer: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the “cure” for sexual immorality. First Corinthians 7:2 is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside of marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God

I know that sex is a gift from god to married couples and that we shouldn't have sex before marriage. But he also gave us free will to make our own decisions for our life. and by dying on the cross to wash away our sins. It is nice to know that by accepting him into our life/heart that we will have eternal life no matter what.

He had to make people wanna get married some how

Sex is beautiful between a man and a woman who are married.Outside of marriage it often destroys a relationship. God wishes for us to stay pure and holy as He is holy. What a beautiful thing.

im 23 be 24 next month and im still a virgin and i dont know if its just bad luck with girls or w/e but ive had girls who has a problem with me waiting til Marriage we all Fall short of the Lord but we should Thrive and i wouldnt want to have sex without the Romance and Intimacy and Bond of Marriage.

OK then, as a Christian single, how many have ound themselves having sex efore you were married?

Another question: If God ment sex to be enjoyed in marriage and to procreate. Should sex be avoided by those unable to father or give birth to a baby or too old to become pregnet.

What is more sinful, having a baby out of wedlock or abortion? Think about it.

Ron

Well I suppose then that people should be having less children? Because that divorce rate is pretty high, MAYBE they should stay together in an unhealthy relationship, and have kids..

yeah, kids will make it better...


weeee! idealisim.

Perfect relaionships, and marriages arent out there. How about children who are motherless, and fatherless? Both parents are soooo supposed to be there, well, if theyre not, we shouldnt remarry, and be with someone else?

So its important to have both parents, but then a sin when the one parent leaves, or you must divorce them, because theyre abusive of the relationship, or you, so you should still remain single?


Marriage doesnt guarantee spiritual joining in the name of the holy spirit.

Im having sex, and I do not ever want marriage. Marriage guarantees nothing, been there, its not magic. The day after the ceremony, and money spent, are two of the same people, nothing changes, except now, you are both legally tied.

Get married if you like, I have nothing against it.

Not for me.

Yes I think both of those types of people should parent.

And, if God gives us children as a blessing, then how could it be a sin to be pregnant maried or unmarried? I dont believe God allows a woman to be pregnant if he didnt want it to happen.

"To err is human, to forgive Devine."

While its pretty clear, that pre-marital sex is not encouraged by our church, yet we often fall prey to our human weaknesses.

Now if this happens, we need to repent for our follies. We need to turn back to the Lord, seek his forgiveness and make good our wrong doing.

Now, how do we make up for our sins? We need to stand up and accept the responsibilities for our actions. We turn to the person we had sex with, marry the person and start a new-life with the Lord.

The Lord is ever-forgiving. He will never condemn us, the way we condemned him to the Cross.

What did the Lord say? "Let the man who has not sinned throw the first stone at her. Then he turned to the woman and said.....Woman go and sin no more"

The Bible says that pre-marrital sex is "fornication"(KJV).
Compromise with Scripture tends to be disastrous.
I've learned this lesson. I lost a woman I deeply cared for.
And I have no intentions of repeating this mistake.

This has been a very good discussion. I just resently broke up with this guy for this very reason. He wanted to have sex i said no that I wanted to wait till i was married needless to say it did not go over very well I know the Bible says we are to wait, but i will say if he had been more patient i probably would of eventually. I really did love him (no thats no excuse but there it is). And It is very hard to not have sex when u are with someone u love. I dont know what I will do when i Find someone, guess we'll see.

God meant sex to be enjoyed. Song of Solomon helps make this fact clear. God blesses sex and the intimicy and pleasure from sex within the context of the marriage covenant. God created sex. Not only is it okay to enjoy it, but God wants us to enjoy it...but only within the context of the marriage covenant.

God is life and the creator of life. I don't know why some people are fertile and some people are not. But I do know that all children born, in or out of wedlock, are a gift from God. God gave us commandments regarding monogomus sex our wives or husbands to protect us from some difficulties and hardships in life.

The Bible does speak of this. But not as we see it. For 1 fornication is can only be done before marraige not after.

So what is fornication?

Also is thier any wedding ceremonies mentioned in the bible where wedding vows are said before people?

Is thier any piece of paper that says you are married?

Thats how we define marriage is that darn piece of paper thats worth nothing these days.

So how can anyone say that sex before the marraige ceremony is wrong if they have already committed to each other? Just themselves as Yahweh knows our thoughts and hearts better than we do.

If my memory serves me right the verse you quoted is speaking of widows if they burn it is better to marry as the thought is the same.

Then Yahshua speaks of Eunechs who devote themselves to Yahweh.

Like a Deacon or Elder is only to have 1 wife as he has enough on his hands doing the work.

We see the problems Abraham had.


So if a couple lives together as husband and wife, devoted without the piece of paper we see as marraige that the state wants.

Are they Sinning?

Blessings of Shalom...Miles