well I guess you meet someone here and you get into it too fast you are
bound to get hurt as I did just today the man thatsaid that he loved me
wanted me to change to suit his mood and I can not be who I am not so we
broke it off I don't think he really ever cared but I don't understand
why he would drive 500 miles to come and see me if he wasn't sure what
he wanted but I love him and I am lost now but I am not putting up with
someone who can not accept me for who I am to ba he couldn't relize how
much I truly loved him but sometimes life takes unexpected turns and we
are left sitting in the dark well sorry to have bother anyone I just had
to vent thanks for reading it tho

aw jen....been there hun...sit back, breathe, talk with friends and it
gets better

aw jen....been there hun...sit back, breathe, talk with friends and it
gets better

Sorry to hear that Jen, I agree with Brokenheart, just take a breath,
cry, yell whatever you need to do, this to shall past. What's important
is that ou learn from this. Take Care.

His loss Jenn...At least you know who you are!!!!!!!!

Jenn -- I went through the same thing twice last year, and it'a always a
mess and it always leaves you in kind of a daze.

I finally figured out that I was simply not being careful enough! And I
came to some conclusions in my mind about what I was looking for and
what it would take in order for me to be sure enough to ever actually
want to deal with anybody again.

Just don't rush into anything (that whole rebound thing is a problem!),
take your time, sit back, think about what YOU want and what YOU need
from a relationship, know your standards, know what's important to you.
Don't let anyone try to change you! Someone who loves you will be
willing to accept you as you are, and will not try to make you into
someone else....

And, hey, we all need to vent sometimes. That's one of the reasons we
have JSH!

They're exactly right, Jen. You're not alone, probably everyone here
has been through something very similar to this. Keep your chin up!

love is hard
i agree, it is his loss!

I'm sorry Jen
But this is just a thought
Try and look at it this way.
You loved him for who you thought he was
but he isn't the loving, caring, understanding, considerate man you
thought you knew. Yet so selfish and unkind that he could have
comprimised and been patient enough to get to know the real you (in
person)He'll never know what he's missing and you haven't lost a thing
in the end. Because someone like that isn't worth giving a chance. If
that makes sense to you.
Good luck

ty to all my friends here I am not going to mess with anyone out of
state anymore

Thats not the point hon. Every state has thier own jacks. It could be
your next door nieghbor!Drop a line if you want to talk!

i agree with poison- does not matter what state- 10 miles or hundreds of
miles.

Sorry to hear about your misadventure Jen
Some people just don't get it, men AND women.

Sorry to be a downer but 500 miles is just too much distance to try to
carry on a romance...100 miles is too much in my opinion but more
feasible. What ever happened to socializing? Sure on occasion it will
work out but it is rare....lot on here within 2 weeks of meeting someone
online fall head over hills inlove with a complete stranger...and end up
broken hearted. Some couples take years to fall inlove with one another
after they're married. Keep your search local, this way you can atleast
get to know one another in person.

Go to Winona or rochester, they have good guys there.... I know, im from
there lol

"Not everything is true"

Duh, ya just figuring that out? Sorry Jen, you're what, 25? That's
young, but not that young not to know that people lie and misrepresent
themselves. The distance isn't the issue, the guy down the street can do
the same thing. Be careful who you "truly love", make sure they're not
control freaks first.

Best Wishes jen