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Topic: No relationship??
romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:28 PM
I am just curious...as to why when someone is hurt they never open up again. Why is it that we can't see everyone is not that same person that ripped our heart out. I consider myself a very nice guy who is just looking for some one to spend the rest of my days with. Every time I meet someone new they always have issues with a serious relationship. I know that this is something that is worked in as you go through getting to know someone . But, how do you deal with it when they aren't willing to open up to you.They say time heals everything but, come on we are not getting any younger. So my question is ...How do you deal with someone who isn't ready for serious relationship, But , wants to see you in a romantic way?

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 06/02/09 08:29 PM
Because when you do get over being hurt, and open up again, and you get hurt AGAIN, it gets to be to much to handle over and over. One can only take so much disappointment before they give up.

earthytaurus76 Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6603	Tue 06/02/09 08:29 PM
run.

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:32 PM
back again huh jill :)

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Tue 06/02/09 08:33 PM
Well, two choices. You either see them in the romantic way they ARE ready for, or you don't. Probably depends on how long you are willing to wait to help her to open up and generally that only comes with time. She will begin to trust the longer she is with you. You can not rush healing of any kind.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 06/02/09 08:33 PM
back again huh jill :) I can leave now

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:34 PM
I told her what you said Jill. Basically I called it quits. she was just not able to let me in. It is a shame though, I liked her alot. We had alot in common

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 06/02/09 08:35 PM
I told her what you said Jill. Basically I called it quits. she was just not able to let me in. It is a shame though, I liked her alot. We had alot in common and once she realizes that she's letting to much go because she's to scared... then she'll be back. Otherwise... she won't get over it and stay scared, and well... that's not something you wanted to stay with did you?

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:35 PM
well I thought about that healing thing. But, i just don't think I can handle liking her alot and hardly seeing her and emotionally cut off

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Tue 06/02/09 08:37 PM
when people are ready to open up again...they will. everyone heals differently and at different times. but it needs to be on their time. if you can't wait, then you have the decision to either move on or stay

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:37 PM
I do kinda think I am trying to rush it . I guess no one knows the person they just meet to decide on a relationship.But to hear I don't want a serious relationship is diffrent I think. Could be wrong

suncandy25 Joined Sun 01/18/09 Posts: 348	Tue 06/02/09 08:37 PM
I'd say if you liked her that much you would be willing to hang in there longer and gain her trust more. With time and trust she will open up more.

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:39 PM
Just wonder if I was too hastily to decide that she was bad news . Rather then give her a chance to open up.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 06/02/09 08:39 PM
I do kinda think I am trying to rush it . I guess no one knows the person they just meet to decide on a relationship.But to hear I don't want a serious relationship is diffrent I think. Could be wrong worst thing you could do is rush her

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 06/02/09 08:40 PM
Just wonder if I was too hastily to decide that she was bad news . Rather then give her a chance to open up. I don't think you decided she was bad news.

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:41 PM
That is what I am thinking. I am rushing things. But like I said gives a weird feeling for someone you like to say . I can't commit to you.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Tue 06/02/09 08:41 PM
I am just curious...as to why when someone is hurt they never open up again. Why is it that we can't see everyone is not that same person that ripped our heart out. I consider myself a very nice guy who is just looking for some one to spend the rest of my days with. Every time I meet someone new they always have issues with a serious relationship. I know that this is something that is worked in as you go through getting to know someone . But, how do you deal with it when they aren't willing to open up to you.They say time heals everything but, come on we are not getting any younger. So my question is ...How do you deal with someone who isn't ready for serious relationship, But , wants to see you in a romantic way? Patience.

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:42 PM
Just wonder if I was too hastily to decide that she was bad news . Rather then give her a chance to open up. I don't think you decided she was bad news. well what do you think I decided?

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Tue 06/02/09 08:42 PM
OK I'm really leaving you now

romancingu Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 126	Tue 06/02/09 08:43 PM
OK I'm really leaving you now So you think I did it as a threat? lol Not me...