Is to love someone unconditionally to be blind to their faults, or extremely forgiving?

Neither, dahling!!

Then what is it?

Extremely stooopid!!!

How come?

both

could be

Unconditional love=

You love them no matter what they do or say.

But their "faults" (I prefer areas of development) and forgiveness are separate. I love my son, but am hardly blind to his faults. I bring them up all the time, I provide positive and negative reinforcements to change his behaviors all the time. I forgive him when he says he is sorry. I do not excuse his behavior, compensate for it, or ignore it.

Unconditionally loving someone doesn't mean you have to be a doormat. That is the misconception.

First of all, just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be with them. Strangley we do fall in love with those who are not meant to be with us. Call it the chemical reaction in our bodies or whatever but the feeling of love doesn't mean you have to suffer with an abusor for example.

My observations here of course.

You reach a time in life where you are not blind anymore

Or stupid!! You just will not put up with what you don't want or like!

you can love someone and accept their faults I can love someone uncondionlally mostly i'm not accepting lying and cheating

Lee, I can accept someone if they watch nothing but Gunsmoke. I cannot accept someone if they act out episodes of Gunsmoke. Thoughts, quirks, behaviors, lifestyles....they are all different and all have levels of acceptability and boundaries that each of us define.

All of that is not encompassed in unconditional love.

I did not talk to my father for a period of time after high school. I never ever stopped loving him. It just hurt me too much to have him in my life.

Makes sense?

Very true when it comes to a child. For no matter what my son or daughter was to ever do my love for them would never change. I may be disappointed in what their choices were but my love would always be there.

But....when it comes to a partner unless that partner gives that love back with the same respect that love will slowly fade.

So can you love someone unconditionally sure you can until they break that trust you have within that love.

Unconditional love - I thought I was capable of it and found out that some acts and words are beyond my forgiveness and tolerance and I had to love myself enough to walk away. This revelation within myself helps keep the wall around me from tumbling down.

This word has been used against me many times throughout my life. Sad to admit, I have chosen the blind route and have also chosen the extremely forgiving putz in my past. In the future, my eyes are open and my heart is guarded as I relearn what unconditional love really means to me and what I am willing to tolerate and forgive in its name.

This post hits me right in the gut, Mirror!

well im done trying to figure out men, they have more problems than women do, and they are not always honest

trgirl: I find women have many, many, many more problems than men. & , i find them not to be honest, most of the time. So, MirrorMirror, i am soooooo, soooooo forgiving of this all, and most of the time. (Do not get me wrong, i have found a few ,on this site very honest.)

neither, I'd say its more like selectiveness

a person selects and choses what they will put up with and what they wont put up with.

a person selects and choses what to forgive and not to forgive.

just because you love chocolate

does not mean you will like every piece in a box of chocolates

they do have different centers (insides)

so tho you love the chocolate you may not care for the added amenities


and yes


love is like a box of chocolates (in best forest gump voice)