Topic: How soon is too soon?
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Tue 06/02/09 12:11 AM

That really ticks me. You see I have hard time seeing - that waiting for the feeling to be there before deciding to tell that person what you feel. It has to be inherently there first before it is actually be recognized by the faculty of your own mind to make sense of it. Feelings is not something like a plant that need to be watered and nurtured. It's already there before you have concieved it!


Haven't you ever felt a feeling that you questioned? Have you ever thought you were in love and then realized you weren't? Do you want to tell everyone you date for a few weeks that you love them because one night you felt something really special?

Why do you get ticked at what others do that is not being done to you?


MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:13 AM
:tongue: This is like a cross between Wrestlemania,Saturday Night Live,and the Playboy Channel:tongue:

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Tue 06/02/09 12:14 AM
Not until you got here hun:wink: ... laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 06/02/09 12:14 AM

:tongue: This is like a cross between Wrestlemania,Saturday Night Live,and the Playboy Channel:tongue:


Don't forget those Barney Miller reruns! laugh

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Tue 06/02/09 12:15 AM
Edited by Winx on Tue 06/02/09 12:16 AM

That really ticks me. You see I have hard time seeing - that waiting for the feeling to be there before deciding to tell that person what you feel. It has to be inherently there first before it is actually be recognized by the faculty of your own mind to make sense of it. Feelings is not something like a plant that need to be watered and nurtured. It's already there before you have concieved it!


The issue is that it can be confused with lust and/or infatuation.
They are strong feelings and both affect chemicals in the brain. They are so strong that they can be confused with the feeling of love. It takes time to get past the stage of lust and/or infatuation. It takes time for love to develop and be nurtured. Love isn't an instantaneous feeling. Lust and infatuation are instant feelings. Love takes time to develop.

The same can be talked about with hate and anger. They are strong feelings too.



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Tue 06/02/09 12:17 AM


:tongue: This is like a cross between Wrestlemania,Saturday Night Live,and the Playboy Channel:tongue:


Don't forget those Barney Miller reruns! laugh
FISH!!!indifferent laugh laugh

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Tue 06/02/09 12:19 AM


That really ticks me. You see I have hard time seeing - that waiting for the feeling to be there before deciding to tell that person what you feel. It has to be inherently there first before it is actually be recognized by the faculty of your own mind to make sense of it. Feelings is not something like a plant that need to be watered and nurtured. It's already there before you have concieved it!


The issue is that it can be confused with lust and/or infatuation.
They are strong feelings and both affect chemicals in the brain. They are so strong that they can be confused with the feeling of love. It takes time to get past the stage of lust and/or infatuation. It takes time for love to develop and be nurtured. Love isn't an instantaneous feeling. Lust and infatuation are instant feelings. Love takes time to develop.

The same can be talked about with hate and anger. They are strong feelings too.





Game. Set. Match. laugh

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:19 AM

Not until you got here hun:wink: ... laugh laugh laugh
love You inspired me about the Playboy part:tongue:

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:20 AM


:tongue: This is like a cross between Wrestlemania,Saturday Night Live,and the Playboy Channel:tongue:


Don't forget those Barney Miller reruns! laugh
laugh

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Tue 06/02/09 12:21 AM


Not until you got here hun:wink: ... laugh laugh laugh
love You inspired me about the Playboy part:tongue:


blushing blushing blushing flowerforyou I love ya but not in the same way your girl loves ya.. I don't want my butt kicked... bigsmile

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Tue 06/02/09 12:23 AM



Not until you got here hun:wink: ... laugh laugh laugh
love You inspired me about the Playboy part:tongue:


blushing blushing blushing flowerforyou I love ya but not in the same way your girl loves ya.. I don't want my butt kicked... bigsmile
laugh

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Tue 06/02/09 12:24 AM
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Tue 06/02/09 12:34 AM
Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Tue 06/02/09 12:35 AM
Trust me. I took my time to response to your quote. It is not because I percieve it to be your pretension to be accurate or anything, but I want to make clear of you have obviously made completely unclear.

I am a laser beam. You are a flashlight. The former loves to penetrate precisely where the mark is, while the latter seems to be trying to go on about seeing, once again, the "woods for the trees." LOL





That really ticks me. You see I have hard time seeing - that waiting for the feeling to be there before deciding to tell that person what you feel. It has to be inherently there first before it is actually be recognized by the faculty of your own mind to make sense of it. Feelings is not something like a plant that need to be watered and nurtured. It's already there before you have concieved it!


Haven't you ever felt a feeling that you questioned?

Yes or no. I am not sure what you mean. If you mean "questioned" as by scrutinizing it, then no because that would deny the feel of the feelings.

Have you ever thought you were in love and then realized you weren't?
I don't decieve myself of what love is actually is.

Do you want to tell everyone you date for a few weeks that you love them because one night you felt something really special?
Not everyone. Kinda a strange premise to say everyone I'd dated and then go on about seeing if I had one night of feeling that I love them all. That is impossible.

Why do you get ticked at what others do that is not being done to you?


Maybe I don't go on about being a victim of past failures. I don't know your life history, but...



MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:39 AM
devil There can be only onepitchfork

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:39 AM
:tongue: I am the sun and you are the stars:tongue:

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Tue 06/02/09 12:42 AM


That really ticks me. You see I have hard time seeing - that waiting for the feeling to be there before deciding to tell that person what you feel. It has to be inherently there first before it is actually be recognized by the faculty of your own mind to make sense of it. Feelings is not something like a plant that need to be watered and nurtured. It's already there before you have concieved it!


The issue is that it can be confused with lust and/or infatuation.
They are strong feelings and both affect chemicals in the brain. They are so strong that they can be confused with the feeling of love. It takes time to get past the stage of lust and/or infatuation. It takes time for love to develop and be nurtured. Love isn't an instantaneous feeling. Lust and infatuation are instant feelings. Love takes time to develop.

The same can be talked about with hate and anger. They are strong feelings too.



To me lust is a primal urge. It is not what I percieve by what the convention of what everyone else says on that matter as characterized as a feeling at all. Infatuation is mainly consist of intrusive thinking, or neurosis that is caused by the brian maybe. But I am not an neurologist to make that claim. So usually I find comfort that both can be the after-effect of the due process of what goes on in the brain, but love is an entirely different matter itself when it is something of an idealized feeling of something perfect and eternal. And sadly, can wither away when thinking about it may indeed make the feel of the feelings deteriorate to nothingness.

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Tue 06/02/09 12:45 AM

:tongue: I am the sun and you are the stars:tongue:

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:45 AM
drinker I wish this planet was more like Endor,home of the Ewoksdrinker

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 06/02/09 12:45 AM


:tongue: I am the sun and you are the stars:tongue:



:heart: You are the wind and I am the leavesflowerforyou

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Tue 06/02/09 12:47 AM

Trust me. I took my time to response to your quote. It is not because I percieve it to be your pretension to be accurate or anything, but I want to make clear of you have obviously made completely unclear.

I am a laser beam. You are a flashlight. The former loves to penetrate precisely where the mark is, while the latter seems to be trying to go on about seeing, once again, the "woods for the trees." LOL





That really ticks me. You see I have hard time seeing - that waiting for the feeling to be there before deciding to tell that person what you feel. It has to be inherently there first before it is actually be recognized by the faculty of your own mind to make sense of it. Feelings is not something like a plant that need to be watered and nurtured. It's already there before you have concieved it!


Haven't you ever felt a feeling that you questioned?

Yes or no. I am not sure what you mean. If you mean "questioned" as by scrutinizing it, then no because that would deny the feel of the feelings.

Have you ever thought you were in love and then realized you weren't?
I don't decieve myself of what love is actually is.

Do you want to tell everyone you date for a few weeks that you love them because one night you felt something really special?
Not everyone. Kinda a strange premise to say everyone I'd dated and then go on about seeing if I had one night of feeling that I love them all. That is impossible.

Why do you get ticked at what others do that is not being done to you?


Maybe I don't go on about being a victim of past failures. I don't know your life history, but...





Ok you want to go there again? I was really asking sincerely to see your point of view.. Obviously you're not capable of a decent conversation if someone doesn't agree with you but has their own way of thinking..

I was not saying EVERYONE you dated... I would hope one wouldn't feel those feeelings for every person they dated...

You're a laser of nothing except talking in circles thinking you're smarter than you are.. Even proven wrong you keep going like one of those annoying wind up toys...

Who's asking anyone to go on about being a victim of past failures? Why must failures have a victim? I've not been a victim of anything.. I take responsibility for my actions and I guard my feelings closely so that I do not hurt others... I prefer to take my time to get to know someone and see what's there.. I may really really like them, but I don't ever want to confuse lust and infatuation for love THAT is why I do not jump to use those words..