Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is.

To me if you're afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was.

I win again.

No......thats retarded!!!

Actually NO... If someone THINKS they feelsomething and choose to keep those feelings in check until they are sure so that they don't mistake lust and great like for love... I call it SMART...

That to me, from what you said, is merely a symptom of temporary paralysis based on previous experiences of having the opposite reaction of what you expect would be the right move which in turn caused fear of doing it again later for another person you wish to tell that you love him.

blah blah blah.............get a room and get it over with!!

In a non-circular manner, no it's preferring to be careful and not just let feelings go that may not have a place next week or next month... I'd rather keep a feel good feeling to myself and be sure before I hurt someone by saying something that I might change my mind on later b/c I later find out they have horrible habits or beliefs that I know I won't be able to live with, etc. But as I said "that is me" and the other was someone else.. I think each person should do what works for them and not be judged for it...

The thing is... just HOW do you know you've actually got REAL feelings for someone before three months? For all you know, you're simply dealing with infatuation, which is hardly an indicator of a "real" relationship. The truth is that you only START to know if the person you're dating is "the one" or just a flash in the pants after around three months (or more).

And that's the problem with most dolts nowadays- everybody wants everything now now now... they don't wanna wait and TRULY get to know someone- it's all about the instant gratification. They don't take the time to actually think about whether or not that person they're shacking up with is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their waking lives with. They rush to start with the dating... they rush with the marriage... and they rush with the divorce. And THEN they wonder why there are so many divorces out there.

And much like your mother and her choice of mates, you lost. Again.

The problem lies here is that feelings are what they are. If you start to intellualize the feelings that you have, then you will inevitably resort to by crushing at the very heart of the feelings, and that is something I think is counterintuitive of what suppose to be what the purpose why feelings are made out of; moreover, when the object of your feelings is presented to you, why deny the feel of that object by thinking about it instead of acting on it?

To me, you have a severe case of seeing the woods for the trees.

You must see through from the heart, not from the mind.

Feel dammit! Not think!

<------puts on the hindu yoga music............

If you want to have a honest relationship with someone doesn't that require being honest about the feelings you have?

Telling someone you love them is relative to how both of you define love.

Unfortuneately the word is pretty generic and means many different things to people. Seems wise to me to give a relationship enough time to know how the person you have feelings for defines it?

What would seem more important is do you know how the person will react to you having such serious feelings?

Just because you have a feeling doesn't require that you share it.

Not to be impolite. But your sense of syntax and meaning of the word infatuation is erroneous. Maybe you ought to look closely to the word limerance first before you wrongly apply that meaning into the word infatuation. Totally two different and incompatible meanings of two entirely different words altogether yo.

1) I did not ask for a psycho analysis from a psycholigist let alone an opinion pusher 2) I did not tell you how to feel or what to do with your feelings so you should not tell me how to feel or what I should do my feelings...

limerence (plural limerences)

1. (neologism) An involuntary state of mind which seems to result from a romantic attraction for another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.


n·fat·u·a·tion (ĭ-fāch'ōō-ā'shən)
n.

1. A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction. See Synonyms at love.
2. An object of extravagant, or short-lived passion.



Both apply and neither are indications of true "love". Both can take place early in a given relationship. Hence the "three month (or more)" rule.

You lose again. Please go choke on a tire.

That came out of left field.

First of all: I am not telling you how to feel; 2nd, I am telling you to stop thinking about the feelings and feel; 3rd, you are entitled for your own opinion, but that doesn't mean I can't provide what I think are my insight of what your opinion is; and lastly number 4, I don't care for psycho-analysis or whatever the other one is. Mine is entirely devoted to philosophy. Not these silly schools of thoughts that you mistakenly think I am advocating.

Made you look into the dictionary didn't I junior?

Trust me. You don't really want me to make a rebuttal of this. You will look lost after I trample over your attempt to play sophistry on me.

Nobody wins. Nobody loses.

That's not what the forums are about!

Winx. I am just having fun. And misstina precisely see the humor of this. :)