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so my ex boyfriend from not that long ago..(4 months ago...but we only dated for 2 months)
decided to text my best friend..and ask why exactly i broke up with him.. his exact words *i figured since you two are close..that maybe she confided in you and told you something she wasnt telling me.i want to know what it was that made her fall out of love with me* i did love him..i did.there was always something kindof off though.for some reason i just couldnt be myself around him.i honestly thought he was too good looking for me..and his friends were the kind that i didnt feel comfortable around... im not trying to sound stupid.. but really all the people he hung out with were gorgeous.. i def felt out of place... so i tried to just tell myself that i was crazy..and to get over it.. but i couldnt.. and thats not fair to him if i dont feel comfortable around him.. and i started to feel like just close friends after a bit too.. i dont totally know what caused it either.. but to be fair..i broke it off.. because he deserved to be in a relationship with someone that could feel the same way he did. BUT NOW...he wont leave it alone... and it bugs me :( and it makes me sad.. and i dont know what to do about it.. meh... |
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but to be fair..i broke it off.. because he deserved to be in a relationship with someone that could feel the same way he did. huh? |
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well maybe he see's you different than you see yourself,beauty is from the inside .plus i seen your profile and your a pretty girl,so i woiuld talk to him and let him know how you felt and maybe you will see yourself the way he does ...good luck
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Well, I'm guessing if you posted this you're asking for advice. It sounds to me like this is on you. I mean, it seems to be more about how you are feeling about yourself, rather than something he did or said to make you feel bad about yourself, would that be correct? Most of us women have to work on our self confidence from time to time. Take the time to do that.
I notice at first you say "there was always something kinda off". I think you should explore that more. |
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quitter
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but to be fair..i broke it off.. because he deserved to be in a relationship with someone that could feel the same way he did. huh? how do you not understand that.. i....broke..it ...off...because...he..deserved...to..be...in...a ...relationship..where...the...feelings...were...mutual... better? |
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Well, I'm guessing if you posted this you're asking for advice. It sounds to me like this is on you. I mean, it seems to be more about how you are feeling about yourself, rather than something he did or said to make you feel bad about yourself, would that be correct? Most of us women have to work on our self confidence from time to time. Take the time to do that. I notice at first you say "there was always something kinda off". I think you should explore that more. well it pretty much means i was never really myself around him.. that was the "thing" that was always off. im normally a goofball..and like to joke alot.. and i felt i couldnt do that around him.. now maybe then i shouldnt have pursued a relationship then.. but i didnt realize it till later... |
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quitter thanks for that |
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Let it go.
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so my ex boyfriend from not that long ago..(4 months ago...but we only dated for 2 months) decided to text my best friend..and ask why exactly i broke up with him.. his exact words *i figured since you two are close..that maybe she confided in you and told you something she wasnt telling me.i want to know what it was that made her fall out of love with me* i did love him..i did.there was always something kindof off though.for some reason i just couldnt be myself around him.i honestly thought he was too good looking for me..and his friends were the kind that i didnt feel comfortable around... im not trying to sound stupid.. but really all the people he hung out with were gorgeous.. i def felt out of place... so i tried to just tell myself that i was crazy..and to get over it.. but i couldnt.. and thats not fair to him if i dont feel comfortable around him.. and i started to feel like just close friends after a bit too.. i dont totally know what caused it either.. but to be fair..i broke it off.. because he deserved to be in a relationship with someone that could feel the same way he did. BUT NOW...he wont leave it alone... and it bugs me :( and it makes me sad.. and i dont know what to do about it.. meh... Either let it go, or tell him...only two viable choices here. |
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*sigh*...thanks
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You had low self esteem around him because of his good looks and felt unworthy, and because he knows he is good looking he is wondering how you could not want to be with a hunk of man like himself.
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You had low self esteem around him because of his good looks and felt unworthy, and because he knows he is good looking he is wondering how you could not want to be with a hunk of man like himself. heh..pretty much on the spot.. i always feel unworthy in my relationships.. its a self esteem thing..that im trying really hard to fix :( it sucks... |
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You're a smart good looking girl. You have no need to feel selfconsious about anything.
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You had low self esteem around him because of his good looks and felt unworthy, and because he knows he is good looking he is wondering how you could not want to be with a hunk of man like himself. heh..pretty much on the spot.. i always feel unworthy in my relationships.. its a self esteem thing..that im trying really hard to fix :( it sucks... |
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You're a smart good looking girl. You have no need to feel selfconsious about anything. ive heard that before.. i wish i could change my mind..by just being told that.. i wish it were that easy.. uhggggg frustrating |
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he's tryin to push up on your friend,
he's a guy right 
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You had low self esteem around him because of his good looks and felt unworthy, and because he knows he is good looking he is wondering how you could not want to be with a hunk of man like himself. heh..pretty much on the spot.. i always feel unworthy in my relationships.. its a self esteem thing..that im trying really hard to fix :( it sucks... thank you.and yes this is exactly why im not looking for anything.. and have only "dated" recently.. lol as corny as it may sound...i need to love myself before i let anyone else love me... its so true.. and i have a long road ahead of me.. |
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I have a hard time being myself if I really care about them and don't want to blow it.
In this case you've already said goodbye to him-so the pressure is off-you can't blow it! Sounds like he is still interested and cares... So sit down and have an honest chat with him. If he can deal with it and help you a bit-great. If not then at least he has some closure and you have some practice at opening up and sharing your feelings. But yeah, you still need to work on the self esteem and learning to really love and appreciate yourself! |
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he's tryin to push up on your friend, he's a guy right my best friend is a gay guy.. so i dont think so :) |
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