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Topic: At a cross roads...
redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 06:54 AM
ok heres the thing... yes I know I have said I am completely happy with Randy an I am...but I can't stand in here in NJ anymore. I wanna go home, we talked about it an he pretty much said the ball is in my court.. to do what I think is right. I have no clue what to do. He said we can be good friends if I go back, as much as I wanna go back to Oh.. I cant stand the fact of losing him, he is my everything. I am so lost, I'm torn between him an going back home. What do I do? brokenheart tears

wannacuddlewthme's photo
Sun 05/31/09 06:56 AM
Go home

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 06:58 AM
why would you go home?

Gossipmpm's photo
Sun 05/31/09 06:58 AM
Go back home for awhile. Maybe being back home you'll discover what you really want:heart:

njmom05's photo
Sun 05/31/09 06:59 AM
How far away is home? I do agree NJ sucks, but which is more important to you?

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:01 AM
Home is Ohio. The the thing... both are important to me. I can't just go home for a while then come back.. I have a job now so I can't do that. an I'm afraid if I did go home I would later see it was a mistake to leave him.

Etrain's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:03 AM
Home is where the heart is...New Jersey sucks...but Ohio sucks too...so follow your heartdrinker drinker drinker cheers

wannacuddlewthme's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:03 AM

Home is Ohio. The the thing... both are important to me. I can't just go home for a while then come back.. I have a job now so I can't do that. an I'm afraid if I did go home I would later see it was a mistake to leave him.
Then you shouldnt even have these thoughts...If your scared of leaving...

njmom05's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:05 AM

Home is Ohio. The the thing... both are important to me. I can't just go home for a while then come back.. I have a job now so I can't do that. an I'm afraid if I did go home I would later see it was a mistake to leave him.

Ohio isn't terribly far away, but are you both willing to do the distance relationship thing or will it end if you leave? I know for me, my family means the world to me, but if I was truly in love with someone I couldn't let them go.

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:07 AM


Home is Ohio. The the thing... both are important to me. I can't just go home for a while then come back.. I have a job now so I can't do that. an I'm afraid if I did go home I would later see it was a mistake to leave him.

Ohio isn't terribly far away, but are you both willing to do the distance relationship thing or will it end if you leave? I know for me, my family means the world to me, but if I was truly in love with someone I couldn't let them go.
our relationship would pretty much end, just be good friends. we did the ldr before I moved out here, don't wanna do it again.

Thats were I'm lost at, I love him an don't wanna let go but I wanna go home sooo bad. I miss everything bout ohio an my friends/family. Im not happy here.

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:12 AM
Im tring to fit into this mold an its not working. frustrated I hate life at times.... everything is soo confusingwhat

lnghntr's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:14 AM
if you are not happy there it will probably come between the two of you eventually...maybe try moving to a different part of town?

njmom05's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:18 AM
Is he willing to move to Ohio with you? Sounds like you really have your mind made up to go back home. And I do agree, if you are that unhappy the relationship is going to suffer badly.

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:21 AM
I asked him that an he said no he can't move away from here.. its everything he knows... I know the feeling. He has moved for women before an hated it. so he understands where I am coming from.

I want to go back home but I know if I do the pain from losing him is gonna be deep an gonna hurt for a while. Hes more then just my lover.. hes my best friend.

Moving to a differ part of town in not in the question now. dont have the money for it.

wannacuddlewthme's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:24 AM

I asked him that an he said no he can't move away from here.. its everything he knows... I know the feeling. He has moved for women before an hated it. so he understands where I am coming from.

I want to go back home but I know if I do the pain from losing him is gonna be deep an gonna hurt for a while. Hes more then just my lover.. hes my best friend.

Moving to a differ part of town in not in the question now. dont have the money for it.
Where in ohio do you live?

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:24 AM
northest... by canton/arkon

wannacuddlewthme's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:26 AM

northest... by canton/arkon
Oh..blushing im southern ohio...was gonna say we could oh nevermind

lnghntr's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:27 AM
What it boils down to then is
Lose him and move back home? Hurts for awhile but most of us have been through that before and it does get better..or
Stay there and be misserable and lose him anyway,because if your not happy thats goin to come out in the relationship.

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:27 AM


northest... by canton/arkon
Oh..blushing im southern ohio...was gonna say we could oh nevermind
we could what?

redhead44613's photo
Sun 05/31/09 07:28 AM

What it boils down to then is
Lose him and move back home? Hurts for awhile but most of us have been through that before and it does get better..or
Stay there and be misserable and lose him anyway,because if your not happy thats goin to come out in the relationship.
true...

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