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To broadcast or not to broadcast? When one faces the possibility of prejudice does one hide in the closet or wear it on ones sleeve? Honesty and understanding right from the outset breeds mutual respect amongst the worthy just in case the subject becomes unavoidable as it does sometimes. I own my schizophrenia, no one else, just me. One thing to remember - You have an illness but you are NOT your illness. 
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To broadcast or not to broadcast? When one faces the possibility of prejudice does one hide in the closet or wear it on ones sleeve? Honesty and understanding right from the outset breeds mutual respect amongst the worthy just in case the subject becomes unavoidable as it does sometimes. I own my schizophrenia, no one else, just me. One thing to remember - You have an illness but you are NOT your illness. awwww a flower. Thanks. I didn't really post the original message to get into a general discussion about mental illness which i seem to have done, just wanted to know what peoples reactions to it would be in a potential realationship. |
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I have occasional bouts of depression and have for as long as I can remember. I have never thought it something that I might need to seek professional help with until earlier this year when I had a really bad few days. I felt like everything I had worked for was falling apart and my world was coming down around me. I reached out to friend. I wasn't myself and it was not in the best manner. She got really angry with me over it and it lead to big fight and we didn't talk for many months. I have not had an incident like that before then or since then, but I wonder if it happened again if she would react the same way again.
Do you think it is unreasonable to expect someone to be able to look past an occasional incident and recognize that those incidents are not representative of the real person? |
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I've had a liftime with this illness, was wired that way in the womb. I was in remedial classes in elementry school, only to be told that I wasn't being challenged enough or he's a bright kid just daydreams too much. Thirty years ago they didn't have the medical advances they have now, my life may have been quite different if they had. Ya, I own my condition. Its not either if my parents fault, though they wonder if it was something they did. This condition or illness affects everyone that is close to you or that you would like to get close to. Having said that, no I am not my illness but it is always there ... hiding.
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To broadcast or not to broadcast? When one faces the possibility of prejudice does one hide in the closet or wear it on ones sleeve? Honesty and understanding right from the outset breeds mutual respect amongst the worthy just in case the subject becomes unavoidable as it does sometimes. I own my schizophrenia, no one else, just me. Never forget one thing...those that judge have problems too! I believe everyone of of us has some kind of mental problem...weither its being bipolar or smoking cigarettes...or over-eating....some are just more severe than others. You will be fine as long as you realize you have a problem and address it...its really no ones business unless you care to share it. |
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To broadcast or not to broadcast? When one faces the possibility of prejudice does one hide in the closet or wear it on ones sleeve? Honesty and understanding right from the outset breeds mutual respect amongst the worthy just in case the subject becomes unavoidable as it does sometimes. I own my schizophrenia, no one else, just me. One thing to remember - You have an illness but you are NOT your illness. awwww a flower. Thanks. I didn't really post the original message to get into a general discussion about mental illness which i seem to have done, just wanted to know what peoples reactions to it would be in a potential realationship. |
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I have occasional bouts of depression and have for as long as I can remember. I have never thought it something that I might need to seek professional help with until earlier this year when I had a really bad few days. I felt like everything I had worked for was falling apart and my world was coming down around me. I reached out to friend. I wasn't myself and it was not in the best manner. She got really angry with me over it and it lead to big fight and we didn't talk for many months. I have not had an incident like that before then or since then, but I wonder if it happened again if she would react the same way again. Do you think it is unreasonable to expect someone to be able to look past an occasional incident and recognize that those incidents are not representative of the real person? |
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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Sat 05/30/09 09:41 PM
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In all seriousness, I've wondered about that myself. I have acute depression and epilepsy that was diagnosed a couple of years ago after a lifetime of struggle. I was embarrased about it for awhile because of the stigma attached to mental illness. I've come to terms with it now but it still kinda makes me nervous about dating. Hell, its out there now so I guess we will both see what opinions come down this thread. Have been medicated since my diagnoses, would not even think of going a day with out them. I remember what it was like before, not goin there again. Yup it's a stigma thing for me too. If you have that whole deal under control, its really noones business, i wouldnt go broadcasting it until it was actually a factor. People dont show up going.. "I have hemmroids". empower yourself homie. If you feel good about it, do you, thats what its all about! |
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In all seriousness, I've wondered about that myself. I have acute depression and epilepsy that was diagnosed a couple of years ago after a lifetime of struggle. I was embarrased about it for awhile because of the stigma attached to mental illness. I've come to terms with it now but it still kinda makes me nervous about dating. Hell, its out there now so I guess we will both see what opinions come down this thread. Have been medicated since my diagnoses, would not even think of going a day with out them. I remember what it was like before, not goin there again. Yup it's a stigma thing for me too. If you have that whole deal under control, its really noones business, i wouldnt go broadcasting it until it was actually a factor. People dont show up going.. "I have hemmroids". Oh i'd NEVER date someone with hemorroids ;) 
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I have occasional bouts of depression and have for as long as I can remember. I have never thought it something that I might need to seek professional help with until earlier this year when I had a really bad few days. I felt like everything I had worked for was falling apart and my world was coming down around me. I reached out to friend. I wasn't myself and it was not in the best manner. She got really angry with me over it and it lead to big fight and we didn't talk for many months. I have not had an incident like that before then or since then, but I wonder if it happened again if she would react the same way again. Do you think it is unreasonable to expect someone to be able to look past an occasional incident and recognize that those incidents are not representative of the real person? People freak out occasionally, as long as your not a danger to yourself or others, and you function otherwise just fine, isolated incidents shouldnt be a big deal. |
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In all seriousness, I've wondered about that myself. I have acute depression and epilepsy that was diagnosed a couple of years ago after a lifetime of struggle. I was embarrased about it for awhile because of the stigma attached to mental illness. I've come to terms with it now but it still kinda makes me nervous about dating. Hell, its out there now so I guess we will both see what opinions come down this thread. Have been medicated since my diagnoses, would not even think of going a day with out them. I remember what it was like before, not goin there again. Yup it's a stigma thing for me too. If you have that whole deal under control, its really noones business, i wouldnt go broadcasting it until it was actually a factor. People dont show up going.. "I have hemmroids". empower yourself homie. If you feel good about it, do you, thats what its all about! |
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I have occasional bouts of depression and have for as long as I can remember. I have never thought it something that I might need to seek professional help with until earlier this year when I had a really bad few days. I felt like everything I had worked for was falling apart and my world was coming down around me. I reached out to friend. I wasn't myself and it was not in the best manner. She got really angry with me over it and it lead to big fight and we didn't talk for many months. I have not had an incident like that before then or since then, but I wonder if it happened again if she would react the same way again. Do you think it is unreasonable to expect someone to be able to look past an occasional incident and recognize that those incidents are not representative of the real person? People freak out occasionally, as long as your not a danger to yourself or others, and you function otherwise just fine, isolated incidents shouldnt be a big deal. Only a danger to video game enemies. 
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Edited by
gayfifer
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Sun 05/31/09 06:03 PM
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been there, done that
my days of being florence nightingale or a punchbag are over! |
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Not a positive experience for you then?
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Not a positive experience for you then? absolutely not but hey i gave it a go. |
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It is a dealbreaker for me. I work in forensic psychology and prior to that I worked in a treatment setting for those with severe and persistant mental illness. So for me, it's just too close to my work. I also know if there was decompensation, I am simply not willing to deal with the stress and heartache of that. But then again, I'm not willing to join the military either.
Just my preference. |
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what's decompensation?
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Decompensation
"Decompensation is the functional deterioration of a previously working structure or system. Decompensation may occur due to fatigue, stress, illness, or old age. When a system is "compensated", it is able to function despite stressors or defects. Decompensation describes an inability to compensate for these deficiencies. It is a general term commonly used in medicine to describe a variety of situations. In psychiatry, decompensation is the deterioration of mental health in a patient with previously maintained psychiatric illness, leading to a diminished ability to think and carry on daily activities. This includes loss of memory, both long term and short." http://dic.academic.ru/dic.nsf/enwiki/267197 |
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That does sound a bit like joining the military actually.
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It is sort of like an outbreak... it requires hospitalization usually, med adjustment, etc.
Meds can suddenly stop working for no reason. They don't know why psychotropic meds even work in the first place. |
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