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Topic: Is it bad...
motowndowntown's photo
Thu 05/28/09 06:51 PM

Get a job at a daycare center.

I know you watched your nieces, but trust me, as a mom to 2 toddlers, babysitting is NOTHING like having your own. It's not 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, for a couple of months during the summer. It's 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

It's exhausting.

Ever have a long day and come home and just want to relax? As a parent, you can't do that.
Enjoy choosing when to go to bed? Not an option when you have to rock an infant for hours because they can't get to sleep.
Like being able to get up and go whenever you want? Try adding 30-60 minutes onto everything, allowing time to pack up a diaper bag and get a kid ready.
A 10 minute trip to the grocery store suddenly becomes 30 minutes.
Have an extra ~$800 a month for daycare, or does your BF make enough to allow you to stay home (with the extra mouth to feed)?
Do you have the space for everything a baby needs?
Good health insurance?
What happens if you have a child born disabled? Or the child becomes disabled later?

I know you said you're going to wait, and whether you do or not is your business. And I'd be lying if I said all of the hardships aren't worth it, because they so are. And you can never be truly ready because parenthood is unlike anything you've ever experience. I'm not telling you to wait, I'm just saying to REALLY think about everything before you do take that step. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.


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darkowl1's photo
Thu 05/28/09 07:07 PM
Edited by darkowl1 on Thu 05/28/09 07:09 PM

Get a job at a daycare center.

I know you watched your nieces, but trust me, as a mom to 2 toddlers, babysitting is NOTHING like having your own. It's not 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, for a couple of months during the summer. It's 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

It's exhausting.

Ever have a long day and come home and just want to relax? As a parent, you can't do that.
Enjoy choosing when to go to bed? Not an option when you have to rock an infant for hours because they can't get to sleep.
Like being able to get up and go whenever you want? Try adding 30-60 minutes onto everything, allowing time to pack up a diaper bag and get a kid ready.
A 10 minute trip to the grocery store suddenly becomes 30 minutes.
Have an extra ~$800 a month for daycare, or does your BF make enough to allow you to stay home (with the extra mouth to feed)?
Do you have the space for everything a baby needs?
Good health insurance?
What happens if you have a child born disabled? Or the child becomes disabled later?

I know you said you're going to wait, and whether you do or not is your business. And I'd be lying if I said all of the hardships aren't worth it, because they so are. And you can never be truly ready because parenthood is unlike anything you've ever experience. I'm not telling you to wait, I'm just saying to REALLY think about everything before you do take that step. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.


amazing, and you're right!!! i raised a child with asbergers(light autism), for ten years, and he was worth three hyper kids anywhere else, and healthcare? well, hundred thousand at least beyond normal, special schooling as well, and the mother was constantly very sick, almost died 4 times, so i had two to look after.....constantly.
don't know what it was like for you, but i can somehow relate a little.

hats off to mothers, and single mothers for stickin to it....and mr. working moms like i was!!!!

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Thu 05/28/09 07:17 PM
I think buying a doll is the perfect thing to do.

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