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and these are the days of our lives Ain't that the truth....my life has been a soap opera for quite some time now...care to join? 
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Armored body condom, with a chasity belt underneath...
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I was not even going to comment on this thread BUT I seriously feel like I have to. Here is a question that I really think YOU need to ask yourself...have you noticed that you are messing with men that are already taken? Your boyfriend is married and your ex has a girlfriend so many hours away, so they are both CHEATING to be with you!! Now, in the end there is going to be someone that comes around that is going to be better then you..so they are going to end up CHEATING on you. DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND this?? OH MY GOD, I can not handle everyone being so nice about all of this when the real problem here is FIND YOUR OWN MAN!! Maybe that might be a start?? I don't understand how people want us to feel sorry for them when everything started out with cheating!! It is just beyond me! Now IF this guy is being mean to you and has raped you...what the hell are you doing going back to him? You said he was a freeloader and he doesn't do anything for you but give you great sex BUT yet he raped you!! In all honesty...you need to go and talk to someone!! I think if you are still on your parents insurance, you should make an appt with your family doctor and talk to them about depression! Good Luck I have been with guys who were single but were far away from me. I couldn't deal with the distance. If you have read any of my posts you'd know I have 3 mental illnesses, an addiction, and severe physical knee problems. No, it didn't all start because of cheating. Honestly though your comment didn't anger me because it was misguided because you don't me and haven't read anything I've posted in the past or even looked at my profile. Women who have been in abusive relationships understand how hard it is to deal with these issues. Those who haven't been there do not. When you don't understand something you don't have a right to judge it or assume you know what's what. True you made good points, but I've already either crossed them, tried them, they didn't work, or I cannot use them. Thanks for the try I guess? 
I didn't try to anger you, I was trying to get across to you that being with someone that was taken was not a good thing. If they can not stay in a committed relationship with someone else, do you really think they are going to commit to you, that was my question. I have read MANY of your post but I have decided not to voice my opinion. I don't feel that I am misguided at all, I feel that you are the one going down the wrong path. I truly hope you find the help that you honestly do need. Actually I have been in an abusive relationship, it was my very first relationship. BUT my parents noticed what was going on and they MADE me get the hell away from him. Plus I thought more of myself then to have to put up with someone disrespecting me. I think when you realize that you are worth something...then you will wake up and walk away from the terrible situation that you are in. Trust me, sex is not everything! You are still a young lady and you think sex is a big thing and if you have great sex that is all you need...trust me, IF YOU CAN NOT GET ALONG OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM, ITS NEVER GOING TO WORK!! I wish you luck but I really don't think you are going to leave this guy because I think you have low self-esteem at this point. You need to look into that mirror and realize that you are worth more then what you are getting!! |
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I was not even going to comment on this thread BUT I seriously feel like I have to. Here is a question that I really think YOU need to ask yourself...have you noticed that you are messing with men that are already taken? Your boyfriend is married and your ex has a girlfriend so many hours away, so they are both CHEATING to be with you!! Now, in the end there is going to be someone that comes around that is going to be better then you..so they are going to end up CHEATING on you. DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND this?? OH MY GOD, I can not handle everyone being so nice about all of this when the real problem here is FIND YOUR OWN MAN!! Maybe that might be a start?? I don't understand how people want us to feel sorry for them when everything started out with cheating!! It is just beyond me! Now IF this guy is being mean to you and has raped you...what the hell are you doing going back to him? You said he was a freeloader and he doesn't do anything for you but give you great sex BUT yet he raped you!! In all honesty...you need to go and talk to someone!! I think if you are still on your parents insurance, you should make an appt with your family doctor and talk to them about depression! Good Luck I have been with guys who were single but were far away from me. I couldn't deal with the distance. If you have read any of my posts you'd know I have 3 mental illnesses, an addiction, and severe physical knee problems. No, it didn't all start because of cheating. Honestly though your comment didn't anger me because it was misguided because you don't me and haven't read anything I've posted in the past or even looked at my profile. Women who have been in abusive relationships understand how hard it is to deal with these issues. Those who haven't been there do not. When you don't understand something you don't have a right to judge it or assume you know what's what. True you made good points, but I've already either crossed them, tried them, they didn't work, or I cannot use them. Thanks for the try I guess?
I didn't try to anger you, I was trying to get across to you that being with someone that was taken was not a good thing. If they can not stay in a committed relationship with someone else, do you really think they are going to commit to you, that was my question. I have read MANY of your post but I have decided not to voice my opinion. I don't feel that I am misguided at all, I feel that you are the one going down the wrong path. I truly hope you find the help that you honestly do need. Actually I have been in an abusive relationship, it was my very first relationship. BUT my parents noticed what was going on and they MADE me get the hell away from him. Plus I thought more of myself then to have to put up with someone disrespecting me. I think when you realize that you are worth something...then you will wake up and walk away from the terrible situation that you are in. Trust me, sex is not everything! You are still a young lady and you think sex is a big thing and if you have great sex that is all you need...trust me, IF YOU CAN NOT GET ALONG OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM, ITS NEVER GOING TO WORK!! I wish you luck but I really don't think you are going to leave this guy because I think you have low self-esteem at this point. You need to look into that mirror and realize that you are worth more then what you are getting!! I'd be able to leave him if I met anyone decent around here other than him, but any of the other guys I've met around here are not any better than him. My parents do not care about my situation. My mom doesn't believe he's done anything bad to me and my dad said that if he were to hurt me again to tell him and he'd do something about it (that was like 5-6 months ago?). I no longer tell my dad the bad things about my bf. I don't talk to mom about him anymore. I guess you were lucky that you had parents who intervened. If I do come across someone better than my bf though, I'd be able to leave him easily. I've been alone before (taken breaks from my bf when he's an extreme jerk) so I could get out. I just need to find someone better, but around here it's like trying to find a needle in a haystack. You may be right that I may never get out. I don't know. I hope someday I can. |
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Girl you need to get yourself some professional help. Writing your woes on a chat line isn't gonna do it for ya. You need to build up your self worth and those guys you've been hanging around with are only going to make things worse. Get over the addiction to what ever you're on, get some schooling, get a job, get out of the house and make something of yourself.
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Girl you need to get yourself some professional help. Writing your woes on a chat line isn't gonna do it for ya. You need to build up your self worth and those guys you've been hanging around with are only going to make things worse. Get over the addiction to what ever you're on, get some schooling, get a job, get out of the house and make something of yourself. I'll toast to that. |
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and these are the days of our lives Ain't that the truth....my life has been a soap opera for quite some time now...care to join?
You create your own reality. No one else. You are no victim.... the decisions YOU make create your life circumstances... tough....but true. |
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and these are the days of our lives Ain't that the truth....my life has been a soap opera for quite some time now...care to join?
You create your own reality. No one else. You are no victim.... the decisions YOU make create your life circumstances... tough....but true. And until she wants things to change...nothing will change. I think she sees the situation in a different light then what everyone else does, so honestly, I don't think anyone is going to be able to help her. |
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