Let's have a drink!
Can you hang out with a Man,an just be friends?

What is wrong with being friends with a Man?

Most men being at 45 yrs or older,an having the attraction of being with a women for her friendship or a relationship?

They want the woman boby to be perfect ,but they know it not,we are not young,but they want us to be smart, an take care of ourself!

As women: we seek for trust.

Seek for someone we can communicate with.

Sex???That is a question left at hand? No ??? HERE.

I sit here, an i ponder...I read alot,an i have to deal with the younger generation of life,an i hear,an see many things.
But most men at my age...Are scared of relationship...Why?

Don't worry,there is not much in my area to offer anyway,just question i have???

Like everyone else, some of us are afraid to trust again.

No clue why they are scared of relationships. That seems to be all I want right now and I hope that does'nt change when I'm older. That would really suck. I really look forward to sitting on that park bench at 70 holding my wife's hand.

All of my friends except one are women. We hang out with each other and have fun as friends and there is no sexual tension.

There are quality people out there and they may take awhile to find, but they're worth looking for.

most of my friends are guys...I get along with them better.

Can i ask why?

I can't speak for men of the age of 45 + plus but I do know that communication as well as trust are the keys to any friendship regardless of their sex.
What difference does it make what you look like? Friendship sees not these things.
However if you can't hold a simple conversation the future of the friendship will be dead in the water anyhow.

Don't think so quickly. Start simply with the communication and trust you desire. To many thoughts at once lead to a lack of trust and dwelling.
Things just have a way of falling into place I've noticed

Not sure if this helps or makes sense to you for that matter but please enjoy your night.

I'm not scared. I'm pretty happy. Just overcautious with trust issues. Too many not compatible crazies out there. And I didn't see psycho compatible in my profile.

Nor did I see vanity driven vaginal aptitude in my profile.

But I looked. The compatibility has to be there and it isn't. I'm 43. Single. No kids. Doin ok. I'm not out to be a daddy, nursemaid, hand holder, butt wiper, nor some delusional medeival knight in shining armor or prince charming who is willing to be turned into a frog peon peasant servant by some crazy person with a queen complex. That's not my style. I'm adventurous and like to travel and enjoy my freedom. I can't do that with a woman with a bunch of little anchors around her neck that limit her freedom. Ooops! Gotta pick up little bobby from soccer practice! The choices we make in our life dictate our future. I chose to be a little more free than the next guy. I chose not to be al bundy or peter griffith.

Once again I have to say what no one else will say; why is it that men cannot be friends with women? Here is the answer. Women who say that they just want to be friends are looking for the non-relationship relationship. The non-relationship relationship looks like this; the two of them go out, the man pays. Every single time the man pays. While out on the town should another woman show interest in the man, his "friend" the female will pretend to be his girlfriend so the other woman will go away. She has girlfriends who are single, but she never makes introductions to her "friend" the man. On and on this goes until the man says he wants a sexual relationship; at which point the woman will say, "But we are just friends." If you ever hope to have a relationship then you must avoid all versions of the non-relationship relationship, because the woman will drag this out for years, or until she meets a man who treats her poorly, then she will have no time for her male "friend", unless he wants to listen to her complain about her new man who treats her poorly.

Been there, done that. Got old. Fast. Felt like less than human. Like a pet.

Silly stupid games on ONLY their terms. That's what I mean by vaginal aptitude.

An the Pet is going to die of lung cancer,an 25% of the lungs have been cut out.But with this person you feel total comfortable ,an before knowing this ,an then knowing you feel the same.when you feel,that their life might end soon?

All give, no take in the "Just freinds" relationships. All their needs, wants, codependency issues, psychoses, neuroses, personal problems, mechanical problems, technical problems, and every other little issue must be addressed and taken care of immediately. But you call her with a problem and its "Oh, I gotta go, no time to talk, bye".

You might be the Pet?

"Every single time the man pays" is bull.....I go out with guy friends that I have no romantic/sexual feelings for and I have been known to pick up the check just as many times as the guys do. If they see women they think are pretty, I try to get her attention and see if she wants to get to know a few really good guys.


Oh....and I have a man who treats me like I am a treasure, and I treat him like the piece of my heart that I lost....

Eileen I am happy for you, obviously you can be just friends with a man and some ladies can; however your experience is not my experience, for every wonderful person like yourself there are hundreds of head cases running around in skirts.

I have many male friends and there is never any weirdness ... I love them and they love me ... nothing romantic.

"Every single time the man pays" is bull.....I go out with guy friends that I have no romantic/sexual feelings for and I have been known to pick up the check just as many times as the guys do. If they see women they think are pretty, I try to get her attention and see if she wants to get to know a few really good guys.

I agree, when I go out with a man friend, I will pick up the tab too, don't expect them to pay all the time. I would also introduce them to some woman if they were interested and I knew her. It is called "being a friend." I don't consider my male friends "my possessions." But I guess many do.

Eileen, Artgurl, and Marie, you ladies can be my friend anytime. But you represent a small portion of the female population. If a man goes looking for a woman who will pick up the check, he is not a man and he probably lives at home with his mom, thus explaining why he wants to friends. I know that you ladies are the genuine article, but this is the here and now, and I am not trying to have an expensive non sexual relationship that leads me nowhere. Maybe I generalize too much, but I tell the truth.