Topic: Long distance relationships...do they work?
Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 05/20/09 04:55 PM
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nikki_cole's photo
Wed 05/20/09 04:59 PM
they 100% do NOT work...says the girl who got her heart broken. I could do it...he couldn't. Evidently the wait to see me drove him to going to the movies with some chick he just met...and then swapping naked photos with her. That was fun. Glad HE was having a great time. I didnt find out til I had traveled 12 hrs and spent over a grand to see him. GRR



but Im not bitter!bigsmile

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Wed 05/20/09 05:00 PM

I guess the best advice I could offer is to keep your expectations low and your appreciation for the times you do get to see each other high.

I'm in a very happy long distance relationship, and have been for a couple of years.

I always look at it this way: I'd rather have this guy in my life, and not see him nearly as much as I'd like, than to have any other man and be with him all the time. It certainly isn't for everyone, and it most definitely isn't conventional, but it seems to work quite well for both of us.


That is great advice, thank you! I'm happy that your relationship is working out so well. Do you ever talk about moving closer to one another? Do you get to the point where long distance just isnt' enough anymore? Sorry if I'm nosey!

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Wed 05/20/09 05:50 PM
I wish you luck...But they defintely don't work for me.

7z3r05's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:52 PM


they dont work


Maybe you never tried.. or really wanted them to????huh


i sure have. went through 3 years of it only to have it crumble in my hands. a lot of heartache and a lot of money spent ,and for what?

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Wed 05/20/09 05:55 PM
you or him will have to eventually relocatenoway

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Wed 05/20/09 05:56 PM
Happy for those that can make it work. It's definitely not for me.

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Wed 05/20/09 05:56 PM
Once in a great while they do work. Personally I stand a better chance of winning the lottery.

TxsSun's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:57 PM

They are soooo hard! Sometimes I wonder if I am cut out for it. I feel disgruntled much of the time. When we are together it's really great, but the in-between times are hard.

Any tips for making it a little easier? Any success stories out there? Thanks!


I think trust is the number one key in a LDR.

eileena9's photo
Wed 05/20/09 09:21 PM
I am very happily in a LDR.....We have total trust in each other and know that we are meant to be together and we will be soon. We have been calling, texting and talking on Messenger for the past two years....we spend the nights on the phone listening to each other sleep. It sounds silly, but that is the only way I can get a good nights sleep anymore.

Good luck with yours.

TexasScoundrel's photo
Wed 05/20/09 09:34 PM
A long distance relationship is the same as having a pen pal. Don't expect it to be anything else.

The1WhoLuvsU's photo
Wed 05/20/09 09:37 PM

They are soooo hard! Sometimes I wonder if I am cut out for it. I feel disgruntled much of the time. When we are together it's really great, but the in-between times are hard.

Any tips for making it a little easier? Any success stories out there? Thanks!
If we have a chance of actually meeting then it could work with me.

auburngirl's photo
Wed 05/20/09 09:37 PM
They are the bomb! :banana: Eventually someone does have to move, so you need be prepared for that.

eileena9's photo
Wed 05/20/09 09:43 PM

A long distance relationship is the same as having a pen pal. Don't expect it to be anything else.


There are a few on here that have worked out just fine......

Tigerman & Fallenangel
bad_girl & sharpshooter
eileena9 & TheCaptain
shuttergal & AntonK
Wolfsprit & SandyLou

And a few that came to the site already in a LDR, that are great examples....

papersmiles & Quiet_2008
pink_lady & Dan99

I apologize to any I have left out.....brain is fried....

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Wed 05/20/09 09:47 PM
Most people can't even get short-distance relationships to work out, so what makes you think that LDRs would?

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Wed 05/20/09 10:40 PM
Not for me thank you.

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Thu 05/21/09 12:06 AM
Does not work for me at all...

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Thu 05/21/09 12:22 AM
The one that actually does the moving to another location, lets say 1,000 or more miles away has the burden of just the stress of moving, the expense of moving, finding a new job, finding new friends etc. The one expecting all this should be helping in everyway they can. whoa

papersmile's photo
Thu 05/21/09 03:31 AM

They are the bomb! :banana: Eventually someone does have to move, so you need be prepared for that.


Why does someone HAVE to move?

If it's working as it as, and travelling isn't a huge, financial expense, why does someone have to uproot?

I have a friend, whose wife lives in Austria, with their children, and has for probably about 20 years. They all come back to Canada during the summer and he flies out every three weeks or so.

I think it takes two pretty strong-minded, independent people to make this sort of a relationship work, but it can, and does.

nnason's photo
Thu 05/21/09 04:02 AM
yes long distance relationship normaly work if ony there is ture luv mark de word ture luv cos for me i feel i can go extras mile for someone i luv and cheris.