Ok I have already found out that having a 7 year old daughter at 52 will most likely keep me single and alone for the next few years and thats cool.
But.....we are the sandwich generation so what about aging parents that live with some of us in our 50's. Deal breaker also? Wish mine were still around but they aren't, but would love to hear the comments on this one.
Lets see I am not doing well here; I am widowed, I have a small child, I smoke, I am not Barbie, I won't have sex on the first date.
I dont ride harleys, I dont have provocative pics on my profile and I am thick (love that new phrase). Maybe I should just go back to bed and or go get a BOB. LOL not on your life I am not a quitter he is out there and I love a challenge.
Thoughts anyone???

The child is a plus in many ways. You may find the smoking is more of a deal killer. No sex on the first date is not a issue. Neither is the Harley or the pics. Personality is the sales pitch.

Aging parents are a part of life and a normal part at that.

We were raised with different ideas about family responsibilities.
We had more respect for our elders & family, than it seems most have now. I think you should look for friends first & let the "relationship" thing, take care of itself.

I have one child left at home who will be 15 soon. Believe me, I have had many men tell me they want to be free to run when and where, and they want their lady to be able to do that too. The good thing is, they let you know fast how they feel, so there is no waste of time on either person's part. I haven't heard the term thick...hahaha. Well, I am thick also. Men have told me, you are pretty even if you are heavy, but then they run off with the slim ladies. Shrugs. I agree with you, there is someone out there for all of us. I am not sure about meeting him in a personal's site, but I think if it is meant, it is meant, no matter where you are. And pssst... go ahead and buy that bob

Hello,
Where I live, smoking would be the deal killer. And...who wants to be Barbie? I haven't met any Ken's lately. I think we are too hard on ourselves. Everyone has something that would be a "deal killer" for someone else. I think that if I am meant to be with someone else it will happen. If not, I hit the lottery once with the husband I had, so that's pretty good! (He passed away in 2002).

Hi Cinann I haven't seen you here before, so welcome!
You were very lucky to have had a loving relationship. I see so many here in the forums who have had that, and I feel sad I haven't...but who knows about having it in the future! Smoking is a deal breaker for me. I was married to a smoker and now I have asthma (the dr said it was 95% probable that is how I got it because he was a chain smoker). I have some good male friends who are taking care of their parents..and that just fills me with awe. You know that type of person has to have plenty of love, patience, and respect. Those are great qualities for any kind of a relationship! It tells someone that they believe in committment, it shouldn't scare someone off.

Thanks and hello too.
I think there are lots of good people out there but we stay at home being responsible for the ones we care about, doing our jobs well, taking care of our homes. Don't feel bad because you are a good person. Don't let someone push you into something you don't want to do. The "sex on the first date" is crazy. I got a lecture on "living in the real world" when I said no on a date. It made me realize that I had to look in the mirror and be strong in my convictions. I know I would appreciate that in someone I meet so there must be someone out there who feels the same.

Cinann, welcome & hope you enjoy it here.

Don't let anyone blow smoke & get you to compromise your values.
It for sure won't last.

Be youself, make friends & have fun.

Could be just your job I have felt that at times :) Your pic is cute. If my mom was living with me I would never pick a man over her. She is one of those moms everyone loves. And If a guy didn't like oh well on my own as I see it anyway.

The only one it scares off is the ones that don't want commitment anyway so no loss :)

Thank you for the great feedback. I have found myself in the caretaker role several times in my life and I do feel that it is what I do best. the pay is terrible but the rewards for the heart and soul are countless. Yes, that is one good thing with the guys they are very upfront about anything that they can't handle and what they are looking for. Too bad some of them write such heart warming profiles only to find it was all trash talk. I agree that the smoking is the biggest deal breaker and that is on MY to do list. I think Caitlen(my daughter) would win most of their hearts before I would. She is my angel and no one comes between her and I. Have a great day everyone.