You really have no choice. Unless you want to continue lying to yourself about who you really are.

So if you've developed really serious coping mechanisms...are they lies or are they survival tools?

The " coping mechanisms " are neither one.

It takes resilience to maintain an honest self....old habits are comfortable...'safe'....and yet deadly to your Self.

It takes strength to face your fears......and watch them dissolve around you.

fear is the most insidious, and crippling of all the emotions...

F alse

E motions

A ppearing

R eal.....


and the 'bandages'..(coping mechanisms) we use to hide the hurts/fears are treating the symptoms...not the cause.


How do I know this?

Because we are talking about me...now...right now....unravelling the bandages.

cope1  /koʊp/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [kohp] Show IPA verb, coped, cop⋅ing.
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–verb (used without object) 1. to struggle or deal, esp. on fairly even terms or with some degree of success (usually fol. by with): I will try to cope with his rudeness.
2. to face and deal with responsibilities, problems, or difficulties, esp. successfully or in a calm or adequate manner: After his breakdown he couldn't cope any longer.
3. Archaic. to come into contact; meet (usually fol. by with).

–verb (used with object) 4. British Informal. to cope with.
5. Obsolete. to come into contact with; encounter.


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–noun Psychology. an adaptation to environmental stress that is based on conscious or unconscious choice and that enhances control over behavior or gives psychological comfort. Compare defense mechanism (def. 2).

JAG.......what to do if you know for a fact that your picker is broken?

Head directly to the nearest " Picker Repair and Resale " symposium and find yourself a new picker that better suits your needs.

Or....you could just kick yer picker a couple of times and see if that gets it straightened out.

I've been beat up enough! I think I'll find one at a garage sale.

I wasn't saying you should kick YOU...just kick yer picker to get it back in line. LOL

But a garage sale should work too..lmao

JAG..I'm here for advise. You said if I couldn't find a wiseman to come to you soooooo

Tell me if you will what the hell I'm supposed to do with myself on yet another Saturday night in my cave?

Leave the cave. Go for a walk. Kidnap random stray animals....

Whatever floats your fancy. lol

get out of the cave

take a walk... stray animals, more mouths to feed

I was fine..now I'm depressed..thanks for nothing.

I just said " kidnap " the strays. I said nothing of feeding them...lmao

lmfao.. you better be careful for what you wish for there JAG.. some lonely little doggie, or kitty may just adopt you, and you will be useless against its powers of cuteness, and adorability.

That's how I wound up with Winston....lol

He was a stray that showed up where I work and I wound up bringing him home.

Why is it that the most ridiculous things are sometimes the easiest to understand if we let ourselves?

JAG, why is THE MAN always tryin to keep us down?

Because there are times it takes a while for us to stop seeing it as ridiculous.

Until we do, we can't actually work the problem.