I was dating a girl for a while that I truly loved, and I know she loved me back. But she couldn't commit to a relationship because she'd had miserable luck with all the boys that preceeded me. Eventually I had to let her go because I knew she wasn't going to give me what I needed, no matter how much we both wanted it.

So my answer to your question is when you feel your love interest will not even attempt to meet your needs, no matter how small or great, that's when its time to throw in the towel. And that goes both ways.

When I have done all that I can and see nothing in return.

When you said "couldn't commit to a relationship," did you mean that she literally does not want a relationship with you, or that she couldn't agree your acceptable terms of what the relationship shall be?

"Mirror says you rock Thoughtfulthug"

He is my newest friend

She wanted to be friends with benefits. Things got complicated when she got back with an ex boyfriend she didn't care for out of obligation and was still trying to have a real relationship with me on the side. I tried to make it work for a while, but I wouldn't lie with her while she was officially taken and eventually it hurt too much to be around her to try and make it work any longer. The guy left eventually and she was trying to get back with me for almost two years, but losing her the first time almost destroyed me and I am not strong enough to go through that again. It also really hurt that even though I know she loved me, and she knows I loved her, she couldn't give me the validation or closure I needed by telling me how she felt.

I gave up on a 26 year relationship when staying would have forced me to give up what little I had kept of myself. I don't give up on those I love easily, but I doubt I'll ever give up so much of myself for a relationship again. I'd rather be alone and still have 'me' than be with someone and lose myself again. From now on, those I make a priority must make me a priority also.

When they don't call you back, which is what happened to me back during Christmas holiday last year.

QUOTE:

smile How do you know when to give up on a guy/girl?

You just have to remember that when it is time to face certain truths you show face them head on and not wait because then you will be Hurt and Heart Broken like me.

Usually it is not that simple. Some people just can't have the capacity to articulate what they feel, so they resort to inaction by not telling anything.

Well it took me a long time but I eventually figured out that she was afraid of how she felt for me. I think she was frightened by the fact that she always wanted to be with me and would do pretty much anything I asked without thinking. I know that sounds conceited but this girl, years later, will openly stare at me whenever I'm around and this is after two years of not speaking. It was very unfortunate and it hurt a lot, but I had to accept that I had no future with her and let it go.

Yeah...there's a point, where you feel it with every fiber of your being, it's time to throw in the towel.

When you start to see the pattern that you're always giving more of yourself than they are. When it happens consistently, odds are that it won't ever change.