When my parents dated way back when they saw different people at a time, but then again they weren't sexual with anyone. My parents were virgins when they married. But my question is in today's world do people prefer dating a few people at once or just one and why? And does this "dating" include sex? When you're young I find that you want to date more than one person because you're trying to figure out what you want. But then other people get mad because they "only want you." Anyone else confused about this?

I'm not good at juggling. I would rather deal with one at a time...but that is just me

Apparently one at a time is too many for me to handle. LOL

I see nothing wrong with going out of dates with multiple people as long as you have not committed yourself to any of them. You go on a date to get to know someone. If you go on a couple dates and find out you don't get along, then you just keep going. That's dating. Now since internet dating came along... it takes alot of the getting to know each part out of the way by the time you have your first real date.
I remember once this guy got real mad at me because he asked if I was only talking to him. I told him no. There's a few people online that I was emailing and such... but I hadn't actually met any of them. He refused to talk to me after that because he didn't want to get to know someone like me, someone that thinks it's ok to talk to more than one guy at a time.
I've never once cheated on anyone in my life. I don't consider online chatting with more than one person as cheating, or whoring, or anything else he called it.
Whatever... he was weird.

I agree with ^^, as long as you haven't made a commitment to anyone, that's dating.... as far as sex? IMHO - if you are having sex outside of a committed relationship, it's 'causal sex' - be careful and use protection!!!



p.s. this is why having a sexual history talk with your next committed relationship is important... for the health of all involved! (I am not in the habit of having casual sex)

agreed. And be honest. When I'm just dating people or trying to get to know them, I keep sex out of it.

What about BJ's? Are those considered "Keeping the sex out of it"? Because I think that BJ's are great for just dating...

yes thats out. You gotta earn those

Only one for me!!!

I think that it's ok to date more than one, especially when you're determining whether or not the interest is there. It's only when you discover that you're really interested in getting to know one individual that it's time to cut the stringers loose.

Thanks for the discussion everybody. I get tired of people who freak out if you just talk to other people online, too, or even just on the phone. It's crazy. I mean if you're involved or not with someone it's not a crime to have friends on the internet or in person. Hello? I don't get why people have such a problem with it. And I just have problems with casual sex because I need to feel something for the person if I'm going to become intimate with someone. I would prefer dating several people (without any kind of sexual contact) to know what I want, you know? (I agree with having to earn a bj...lol ) But today it just seems that either you have to be with one person or you just have to screw whoever comes around because they just want sex. I get tired of not being able to see what else is out there because the person I'm with is quite committed, but when I do try to look out there all people want is sex. Whatever happened to normal dating? Do people even date "normally" anymore?

I only date one person at a time because I try and focus all my energy on her... If I am on a dating site as this one I flirt with just about every woman on here I find attractive..ha! ...but if I was dating someone you wouldn't see me on here... I would be gone for a while... If it worked out you would never see me on here again... If it didn't then I'm back..ha! It's a respect thing for me...

Are you kidding?

One is enough. I couldn't even begin to imagine two

Cereal Monogamey

Monogamy ? thats good wood , never rots ,

Dating to me is getting to know someone, and finding out if you even like the person. I don't mind dating or getting to know more than one person, and I am up front about that with others. If things did get more serious later on, I would take that as it came and then not date others...jmo

I rarely have more than one woman on my mind at a time. For whatever reasaon, this just seems to be the case for me. I do respect the thoughts of others though. We just don't all think the same.

I think part of it for me is that I realize that I'm thinking about another woman, I must not have strong enough feelings for the first. Kinda like the was I eat a Thanksgiving meal. I finish one thing before I move on to the next. Others like to sample a bit of each, and some like to stir it all together and mix up the flavors.

One headache at a time!

Hey!!