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Topic: Would you...
aztmom's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:30 PM
Marry someone even if you weren't in love with them?


ledi180's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:31 PM
noway noway noway noway noway noway

no photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:31 PM
Um... no.

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:32 PM
I won't marry anyone...regardless.

aztmom's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:33 PM
What if it meant you could not ever have to be alone, always have a roof over your head and someone that would be a good Dad for your kids.

areumine's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:35 PM
is this the dilema your in?

ledi180's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:36 PM
Still NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

I make good money and own my home, don't need any help with that. I'm a single mother - my daughter has never know a 'father' but has many uncles and love ones. Making that kind of commitment, marriage, for some selfish reasons, isn't anything I'd EVER do.



What if it meant you could not ever have to be alone, always have a roof over your head and someone that would be a good Dad for your kids.

aztmom's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:36 PM
Sigh.....yes. This person has been a friend for over 15 years. Hard to think of him in any other way.

areumine's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:36 PM
youll also be a very depressed wife

mistarr's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:37 PM
Only if I was paid to

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:37 PM

What if it meant you could not ever have to be alone, always have a roof over your head and someone that would be a good Dad for your kids.


My answer still stands. Being with someone but miserable is just the same as alone, you can put forth effort to have a roof over your head even if it isn't the roof you want, they can still be apart of the kids life.

aztmom's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:38 PM

youll also be a very depressed wife



That I'm good at...did it for 16 years.

areumine's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:39 PM
your setting your self up for failure because you already know you dont love him, some people think that you can learn to love someone. this is a myth, in most cases most people who are in love felt that way within the first few dates.

LouLou2's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:40 PM
Never. Nothing is worth living in a marriage with lop-sided love...nothing. It is not healthy for either one...but it is a cruel existance for the one who truly loves the other. BT-DT

aztmom's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:41 PM

your setting your self up for failure because you already know you dont love him, some people think that you can learn to love someone. this is a myth, in most cases most people who are in love felt that way within the first few dates.



That is my fear. I would love the "fairy tale". You know the man that loves you for who you are. You love him and you are best of friends, white picket fence...yada yada.

Winx's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:42 PM
Edited by Winx on Thu 05/14/09 06:46 PM

What if it meant you could not ever have to be alone, always have a roof over your head and someone that would be a good Dad for your kids.



N O !




no photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:43 PM
Never. Children from one parent households can turn out just fine as long as they have other positive and loving male role models around.

(and vice versa for the males who are raising children alone flowerforyou )

In my opinion, it wouldn't work, one or the other would eventually find someone that you did connect with on a "love" level.

feistybaby's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:44 PM
You need a wake up call. First of all if you are miserable which you will be if you marry someone you don't love. Your children will know you are miserable and they will be miserable and so will the man you marry. Why on earth would you sentance not only yourself but the people you care about to that kind of existance? Get real.

areumine's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:45 PM




That is my fear. I would love the "fairy tale". You know the man that loves you for who you are. You love him and you are best of friends, white picket fence...yada yada.



but that doesnt add up, you said you dont love him. you may be "in love with the idea of being in love"

aztmom's photo
Thu 05/14/09 06:45 PM

Never. Children from one parent households can turn out just fine as long as they have other positive and loving male role models around.

(and vice versa for the males who are raising children alone flowerforyou )

In my opinion, it wouldn't work, one or the other would eventually find someone that you did connect with on a "love" level.


Good Point!

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