I’ve never used this blog before but I’ve been wondering a few things and just wondering if anyone has an opinion or any answers…
First of all, let me say I have never been in love. I’ve been close a few times but they turned out to be duds! I am of the persuasion that I will fall in love only once when I believe the guy is truly worthy of my heart and loyalty. And with that said….

What is it that men want? I know that all men are different…blah, blah, blah. But seriously, I’ve met a lot of guys, friends, dates, friend’s boyfriends, etc. and most of them are commitment phobic…that is until they meet “THE ONE” Who is the elusive one…??? I know I don’t have a lot of room to talk since the longest “relationship” I’ve had since my ex-husband has been 3 months. I know, pitiful! Okay, so maybe it’s the same for men as it is for women. But I can’t believe that love is just soooo hard to find. I can’t believe that finding a good guy is soooo obscure. Perhaps I have expectations that may too high…but shouldn’t they be if you’re willing to eventually give your heart to that person???

Just wondering….

The way I see it is that you can go one of two way's,one is to find some as close to the one as you can, and adjust. or you keep looking for the one until you find them. this is where patience, comes to play. my self I am not looking right now, it's fishing season, in the fall I will look for an activity friend. (with benefits, would be nice but not a deal breaker.) Because, I am child free and want to stay that way, I don't think I will find any one that wants the same things as I do. Or has the same interests as I do but you never know. Hope this helps.

It is the woman who meets their standards, their expectations. They will never tell you, but here is my advice:

If you meet a guy and he says he is not looking for a relationship, he just wants to date: He's NOT that into you.

Men place women into categories: Women they'd have sex with (or let blow them) and women they'd date. Then the third is women they wouldn't do either one with....

If you meet a guy and he's into you, you will know it.

not every men is like that.

There is no "One", few people understand this, this why your friends turned into duds and I fall asleep during s&x; It is an issue of working on the relationship with some frequency. What is the frequency, Kenneth?

Like what???

like having 3 categories. I only got one category. True, that I've been with women who was just a one time encounter, but that was an attempt to find someone.

I'm curious as to why you would get married if you were not in love?

As for what I look for in a woman.......simply something that makes her different from everyone else. I may not really know what that is until she does it, or says it, etc. Just something that separates her from the rest.

You only have ONE category?

Please explain.

I'm gonna quote you what you wrote:



I don't have those categories. I don't know why it's hard to believe.

Hmm, ya, Blah blah blah is the answer!

What is your one category?

I was 17....kind of a shot gun wedding. Live and learn! I got a wonderful, gorgeous daughter out of it!

that's good to know! But I'm aware there are really good guys out there...just not good for me, at least not yet! Thanks

If I meet a guy and he wants a relationship right when he meets me...I'm going to be the one running for the door! I expect to date for awhile and then within a couple of months if one of us have doubts...it's time to move on. Thus, the 3 month dileama. lol!

LOL...I only got one category and there is no grouping. I want to be with someone, and to tell you the truth, I haven't been with woman for many months, I'll try not to sound like someone who want to impress, but I could have the chance if I wanted to. I just don't play games anymore.