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I met this girl a few weeks ago through a mutual college club. We talked at a couple of events and at the last one I invited her to a party that my friend was throwing (we invited just about everyone in the club too). She made me a drink at the party, which was pretty strong and my friend jokingly said she wanted to get me drunk and I said I wish (her friend heard this and laughed so I am assuming she heard about this comment later).
The next day I saw her and asked for her number (after she gave it to me she gave me a little elbow nudge which I took to be very flirty) So I call her to make a date and ask her to dinner saying i know it is a bad time due to finals and she is getting kicked out the dorm right after them. She agrees and says we can work something out. I call her 5 days later to ask when her last final is and we agree on that night and she says she will call me when she finishes her final. I think she is into me, but I still have some doubts. The first call when I asked her she didnt answer her phone and called me back a couple hours later. She didn't sound herself even before I asked her out. I am not sure if she was nervous or not. When I first said I wanted to take her to dinner she asked "with other people?" which threw me off. Am I getting mixed signals? |
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 Don't trust her
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Give it some time, see what happens Its not like she was going to drop her panties right there for you. Finals and all and she has to move out of the dorm after wards? Maybe she is preoccupied? what have you got to lose by waiting a few days? see what does or does nor develop? and here is your bill. 1 lollipop please.
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the worst thing you could do is rush. relax. and if you cant, just fake the relaxation. desperation never looks good. you want to appear to be in control of things, for some reason girls like that.
take it slow and pretend that it isnt a big deal. |
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Well, its more like I have kind of been out of the dating game for a few years, and I am an engineer so I tend to over analyze things. Also since she is moving for the summer I dont have long to spark her interests.
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I met this girl a few weeks ago through a mutual college club. We talked at a couple of events and at the last one I invited her to a party that my friend was throwing (we invited just about everyone in the club too). She made me a drink at the party, which was pretty strong and my friend jokingly said she wanted to get me drunk and I said I wish (her friend heard this and laughed so I am assuming she heard about this comment later). The next day I saw her and asked for her number (after she gave it to me she gave me a little elbow nudge which I took to be very flirty) So I call her to make a date and ask her to dinner saying i know it is a bad time due to finals and she is getting kicked out the dorm right after them. She agrees and says we can work something out. I call her 5 days later to ask when her last final is and we agree on that night and she says she will call me when she finishes her final. I think she is into me, but I still have some doubts. The first call when I asked her she didnt answer her phone and called me back a couple hours later. She didn't sound herself even before I asked her out. I am not sure if she was nervous or not. When I first said I wanted to take her to dinner she asked "with other people?" which threw me off. Am I getting mixed signals?  She is making you an "option"
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Thats what I have been doing the whole way. I wanted to call sooner after we agreed to go out because we didn't set a date, but I waited. I am not planning on rushing, I am just trying to get it off my chest to help me relax.
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Well, its more like I have kind of been out of the dating game for a few years, and I am an engineer so I tend to over analyze things. Also since she is moving for the summer I dont have long to spark her interests. ya cant rush these things. developing a relationship cannot be rushed. no matter what. end of story. maintain interest and keep your fingers crossed. if she is into you, you will know. she will also help keep things together if she is as well, however, long distance can do very funny things to people. i did an LDR for 3 years, and it didnt work. we ended up hating eachother for it. just be careful. |
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Well, its more like I have kind of been out of the dating game for a few years, and I am an engineer so I tend to over analyze things. Also since she is moving for the summer I dont have long to spark her interests. Maybe she's being as cautious as you knowing that she's moving... Priorities are usually dealt with a little better by women... |
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Well, its more like I have kind of been out of the dating game for a few years, and I am an engineer so I tend to over analyze things. Also since she is moving for the summer I dont have long to spark her interests. ya cant rush these things. developing a relationship cannot be rushed. no matter what. end of story. maintain interest and keep your fingers crossed. if she is into you, you will know. she will also help keep things together if she is as well, however, long distance can do very funny things to people. i did an LDR for 3 years, and it didnt work. we ended up hating eachother for it. just be careful. Like I said, I am not wanting to rush, just make a good impression. She would only be gone 2-3 months. She is coming back in the fall so it wouldn't be a long distance thing. |
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Edited by
alternativa
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Tue 05/12/09 06:04 PM
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She made me a drink at the party, which was pretty strong and my friend jokingly said she wanted to get me drunk and I said I wish (her friend heard this and laughed so I am assuming she heard about this comment later). When I first said I wanted to take her to dinner she asked "with other people?" which threw me off. Am I getting mixed signals? If I had been told a man made this comment, I would be a bit leery of you as well. I think her asking "with others?" was due to her being told what you said. Just because she's interested in you and in going out with you doesn't mean she wants to hear that you'd like her to get you drunk (and take advantage of the situation). I think she is interested and does like you, but is watching her back a bit now because of what you said. |
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She made me a drink at the party, which was pretty strong and my friend jokingly said she wanted to get me drunk and I said I wish (her friend heard this and laughed so I am assuming she heard about this comment later). When I first said I wanted to take her to dinner she asked "with other people?" which threw me off. Am I getting mixed signals? If I had been told a man made this comment, I would be a bit leery of you as well. I think her asking "with others?" was due to her being told what you said. Just because she's interested in you and in going out with you doesn't mean she wants to hear that you'd her to get you drunk (and take advantage of the situation). I think she is interested and does like you, but is watching her back a bit now because of what you said. Well, the number and everything came after that. Not to mention I said it as a joke. I am not that kind of person, but she doesn't know that. I am pretty sure her friend took it as I meant it, which was a joke but that I was into her. |
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Then maybe it's this...
the first time you invited her to do something, you invited others and she is wondering if you're really interested in her or if you're just inviting her to do things with others as a group again. Wondering if your interest is friends (invited to a group thing) or possibly more (getting to know her alone). |
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Well, its more like I have kind of been out of the dating game for a few years, and I am an engineer so I tend to over analyze things. Also since she is moving for the summer I dont have long to spark her interests. ALL engineers over analyze. Glad you can see it |
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 Maybe I read that wrong. Sounds like she is saying that she just wants to be on the "safe side", in case your a psycho or something.
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You're over analizing. Go out. Have a good time. See where it goes. One thing, if she made you a "strong" drink, she may be a drinker and thought it wasn't that strong.
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too early to tell. she gave you her number so she was at least interested enough in you to want to talk again. the "with other people?" comment could mean that she was 1) joking, 2) feels more comfortable with a group until she gets to know you better, or 3) wants to make sure that she has one-on-one time...
 this requires much much much more analysis. or none at all. just ask her what she'd like! talk to her on the phone! it's fun to get to know someone new whether it turns into LOOOOOOVE  or not! hope it turns out to be LOOOOOOOVE!   |
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You're over analizing. Go out. Have a good time. See where it goes. One thing, if she made you a "strong" drink, she may be a drinker and thought it wasn't that strong.  Good point. Dont "overthink" the stuff a chick says in that situation
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Well, its more like I have kind of been out of the dating game for a few years, and I am an engineer so I tend to over analyze things. Also since she is moving for the summer I dont have long to spark her interests. ALL engineers over analyze. Glad you can see it Yea, I totally know it. At least in situations I can play it off, but it still goes on in my head. As for the strong drink, she isn't a drinker at all. She didn't drink at all at the party and admits to being a lightweight. |
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too early to tell. she gave you her number so she was at least interested enough in you to want to talk again. the "with other people?" comment could mean that she was 1) joking, 2) feels more comfortable with a group until she gets to know you better, or 3) wants to make sure that she has one-on-one time... this requires much much much more analysis. or none at all. just ask her what she'd like! talk to her on the phone! it's fun to get to know someone new whether it turns into LOOOOOOVE or not! hope it turns out to be LOOOOOOOVE! Yea, you and everyone else is right. I should just relax, but she is one of those "I thought she was too cute and possibly out of my league" girls and so I am pumped about it and nervous at the same time. lol |
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