Yes,sometimes,I am sad,thinking it will never happen.

I know how you feel... Im sending you a hug

Thank You...

You are welcome anytime... Im in the same boat so i feel your pain..But anyway tomorrow is another day!

I just assumed that we all (mostly) feel the same way.

That's basically been my situation since last August.

As much as I would like to find someone, I know the odds against it are astronomical. I'm not against someone coming along, but I stopped looking a long time ago.

so there you go rose, everyone agrees.

it's just a feeling/phase that comes over everyone from time to time. The best cure seems to be going to bed.

why acknowledge defeat - things happen when they are supposed to happen not when we want them to.

I am not looking, but would welcome someone in my life.

I went through a decade of thinking that way. I desperately needed to do it and it did wonders for my self respect and truly knowing who I am. I figured why waste my time over and over again knowing that the chance of finding somebody worthwhile was slim in my age group. I dated all types of women, you name it and no luck. I decided that building lasting friendships was the key.

Once I had healed though, it was hard as hell to start wanting to see people again, but I broke through and now I am the best of everything I have ever been.

Ive been on a hiatus of sorts for about 4 years now....I guess that is sorta giving up. But its given me time to know what kind of person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

ty to everyone for their posts. please don't get me wrong....i don't feel sad, lonely or anything but relieved and relaxed. maybe because I'm not missing something I feel like it's a strange phase.

I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to make anyone feel like I'm lonely or sad. and I would hug everyone that does feel that way. every time before I have felt sad or lonely and like I'm missing something in my life...I just don't feel that now and it's a new feeling.

everyone for contributing

I know exactly what you are saying. To tell you the truth, I get mails, winks and so on, I wink back , mail back and try to be creative, but at the same time, I don't know what to do with the person. Especially if they are 500 miles away. I mean it's nice that someone looks me up and sends me something, but at the same time, I don't know what to do with them. I keep asking myself the question "Am I looking for somebody? " and usually the answer is, when I go to a party or travel and so on, I do envy the couples, but 5 minutes later, I'm already back in my own world again.

atlantis...i know what you mean. the only difference is...i don't envy or really have any feelings when i see another couple. if anything i might think "how sweet" but that's about it

What it usually comes down to, that the person feels this way has bigger problems , requriring more attention and the love-stuff kinda falls behind.

nah...don't need attention either. i'm perfectly happy doing things myself too

Absolutely. Although I do it to myself. I have been single for a few years, I dont date, but then again I dont try. I have actually only asked one woman out on a date, and it took me over a year to build up the nerve to do that. I am not a people person, I am very anti-social which is why I am on line. Here I can interact with people without actually meeting anyone. I am bitter and cynical, I admit it. It is probably unfair of me to not give anyone a chance, but I dont want to hurt anyone or be hurt by anyone. So I am in self imposed exile. I dont think I will meet anyone, because I dont think I will allow myself to meet anyone. I will hide behind the excuse of "I'm just not ready".

I don't think it's really giving up. If you're happy being on your own for now, just go with it. There's nothing wrong with that at all. You know what they say.. when you stop looking for/trying to meet someone, it will happen.

I'm perfectly fine doing things on my own. I have met someone that I like, but he's not close by. So, while seeing how that might go, I'm still happy doing things on my own here.

A person can be happy being single and not worrying about meeting someone without having other, bigger problems.

Yep, I screw most of them up on my own...then the one's that could have worked get screwed up by something else...either or, no point in going into a losing situation.