I joined a Fathers rights groups today that I was very impressed with. One of the items we are going to the Senator with is that the parent receiving child support needs to be held accountable in showing the expenses. Its about the time the person getting the money shows where it goes!

I have no problem with that. I never had a problem if my ex asked to know where it went. the support is for the child to be taken care of

Great idea!

I know there are some mothers that use the child support to party with then can't pay bills to take care of the kids. sorry but I don't agree with that and have little respect for them

I have to keep receipts for SSI for him so it wouldn't bother me to have to keep receipts for that too. No biggie

yea right...most men do not even pay child support...I don't even wanna hear it...

AMEN!!! I battled mine in court for the $75 a week he was ordered to pay 15 years ago. I never took him back to get it increased.. so when he chose to go to court.. and it was upped to $105 week and he had to pay insurance... i had them tagged his wages( as he never paid anyways) and said... seeeeeeeeeeeee shoulda paid the $75 and called yourself lucky. $100 a week is very easily proved with rent, food, water, electricty clothing etc etc etc

Your gonna hear it, where do you get most? Please share specific and accurate information on your statement.

I am one that pays without question. I deserve the right to know that my money is going to the right places and she be held accountable to it. THere are too many privelages to the person receiving the money and not enough to the ones paying it....Period

child support?

I never pay it

there are dead beat dads....but there are dead beat moms too. and there are those that misuse the support that they do get

Yes, they don't realize that housing, electric, gas, water, gasoline for driving them around, and lots more is increased for the woman when they have a child.

And I dont have housing, electric, gas, water, gasoline, clothes to buy, food, extra curric activities etc to do either?

And what is this "They" stuff?

sorry but I support the dads that do get the shaft alot. i know many of them which is why i didn't want to be one of "those" women. my ex did pay child support but we agreed on a fair amount

And that is so important that both parties be fair, becuase the system is far from being fair for sure...

Good to see you are a level headed woman and not a greedy one

nah...i like the simple things in life anyway. i think i'm too independant for the men i tend to meet. but it sure made things easier after the divorce to work together. there are people on both sides and both sexes that take advantage and make the good ones look bad IMO

Do you really think that the child support payments really pays everything to support the child? I think if most men would keep their child for one year and pay everything, they would not complain as much as they do!

What parent pays for everything????? I would gladly have my daughter full time!!!! As a matter of fact, I am putting my case together now to get her 100%. The difference is I will be civil and want her Mother to pay only what she should pay for and not expect her to pay a bunch of money that isnt needed from her!

Child support payments should be fair where BOTH parents are responsible and accountable. Child support should not require the paying parent to pay so much, in fact the parent receiving the money for some reason feels they deserve more. Not sure why, it took two to make the child, both parties should be paying equally

I'd have no problem with his receiving a bank statement highlighting all his deposits and the expenses incurred. I keep one account for just this purpose.

However, it'd be nice to also sit down and have a talk with his accountant to see how much money he's hidden away in an effort to lower his reported income so that he doesn't have to pay as much support as he probably should!

So, if the child is being taken care of in both homes, happy and nurtured in both homes, your expenses are measured and maintained, and all is well. Why does his income warrant the thought process of more money to you?

Because the courts here are quite concerned that the child has similar lifestyles in both parents' homes; in other words, the child shouldn't live like royalty in the wealthy parent's house, yet just exist in the other's.