need some advise...

It has recently been predetermined that I have an autoimmune disease, and the medical team is still trying to put the correct reasonings to it. I notified my boyfriend of 6 months about what is going on and now he seems to be more distant but yet when we are able to talk, he says he misses me and how much he loves me. I went to see him last weekend (before the medical predetermination) and it seemed a little ackward. There are quite a few things going on outside of my medical issues that is causing stress in our lives and i'm not really sure how to take the 'distant' responce that I'm getting... any thoughts????

so confused

Sounds like he doesn't know how he feels but he doesn't want to break your heart either

Maybe he is scared he could get something, or just isn't sure what to do because maybe he is also confused as well.

But what do I do?? I've tried talking to him about it but he says everything is okay

I've explained to him that it's not contaigeous (sp??)... it's just my body's cells aren't liking each other...

alot of guys that i have ran acorss didnt know how or didnt want to deal with a person with a medical issue
i have had problems with my kidneys for over 26yrs they think longer and i have been on dialysis for 4yrs.. i have ran acorss a few guys that it didnt bother them.(one naming my bf) but others dont know how to deal with it for some of them get scared.. im not out and wanting someone to pay my way. for i can do that myself

There probably isn't anything that you can do hun. Just focus on your health

^^What Queene123 said^^

EXACTLY!!!

Here is my 2 cents worth: First off you have to stop fretting about others at this time. You need to concentrate on you and your diagnosis. Second, just like you need time to evaluate what is going to happen in your life now, give him time to also come to grips with whats happening to you. (Pick a time in your heart, a week,a month or two or what ever feels comfortable) He will either come to you in that time or he will have decided to bolt. Then you will know what to do from there. If he bolts, he made a decision. The best of luck to you.

Thank you... I appreciate the feedback. I'm just freaking out because of the whole situation. Just got the news this past Tuesday.

All you can do is take care of you and when he is ready to come around he will if not maybe you should find some one else.

Love and Light for you

Hmm.. not sure what else to say then. Maybe he just doesn't understand the whole thing very well.

All you can do is call him or write him and ask him right out what is going on with the whole relationship etc, between the both of u.

Your profile says 'Married'

Don't freak out over your medical situation. I was diagnosed with Lupus almost 5 years ago and at the time I thought it was a death sentence. It isn't and I am sure yours will be ok too. Just wait until you get all the facts and focus on you for right now. If he is there at the end of this then he was worth having-if he isn't then he wasn't worthy of your love. I wish you the very best of luck!

i.e. the other quite a few things,,,?



I guess I'm not the only skeptic, thanks m m 3

Same thing happened to my secretary. Over time the meds stabilized everything, and she is leading a happy life.

he may feel awkward because he thinks you feel awkward. or maybe he's just never had to deal with someone close having a problem like that and he's scared, confused or just doesn't know what to think. don't read too much into it.

I was married for a couple of decades - got diagnosed with a medical condition (non-contagious). He got busy not being around.. my health got worse, and I was so very hurt that he wasn't there for me. Eventually, we divorced.

Know what happened? My health improved - ALOT. Seems a good part of my problem was that I was not taking care of myself, or my own broken heart. Don't get me wrong, I do not believe we inflict illness on ourselves, but I do believe we sometimes forget the importance of taking care of ourselves.

Walk through the uncertainty, walk through the fear, and allow your character to be true to who you are. If he's got it in his character to be there for you, he will be.