my boyfriend is probably the sweetest, most considerate, most patient and thoughtful person alive. i mean seriously. i can't even go into the many gestures of thoughtfulness he's done which make him quite an extraordinary person.

BUT

i don't find myself falling head over heels for him, even though he's my ideal boyfriend.

what's wrong with me?

just now he called my cellphone and i decided not to answer because i don't quite feel like talking to anyone right now, and he proceeded to leave a message which he said was meant to brighten up my day a little. and then he started singing "unchained melody".

instead of being touched and teary eyed as i'm guessing i should've been... i found it hilarious and just a touch awkward.

what's wrong with me?? is this normal? will it pass?
he and i have only been a couple for a month.

(no i'm not gay)

Yep its normal..Your not attracted to him...Cuz hes nice..

It is not normal at your age. I doubt it will just pass. It is normal when you are a cranky geezer like myself.

(love the kitty pic) :)

maybe you think its too soon, maybe hes contacting you more than you want or are used to??? just a couple thoughts????



and p.s. you are not an awful human...

orr

maybe i really don't want a boyfriend...

You are SO my emotional twin!

I'm the same way in relationships. I can find people I adore, but never really seem to go as deep in feelings as they do.

I thnk it's a chemical thing. I can have strong feelings for people, but just haven't found the one who matches me in a 'body chemistry' type of way yet.

I've not had the patience myself, but maybe if you stick around it will build?

what's wrong with me??
nothing

is this normal?
yup

will it pass?
nope, usually not, but sometimes it may, and perhaps eventually you'll really fall for this guy, but that stuff doesn't happen very often...extrapolating, I forecast you'll eventually lose interest and move on, but he won't..

roco

This is my fault

perhaps i'm subconsciously comparing him to the inreachable standard that is patsy?

perhaps it's not the one that matches but the one that doesn't match..were you ever smitten by someone that is different from you

roco

Often

maybe...

but if it doesn't...is it fair to keep him hanging on with a girlfriend who doesn't appreciate him as much as he deserves?

Might be a phase. In every serious relationship I've ever had I've come to a crossroads where I struggled with whether the relationship really was what I wanted.... whether this person was really worth the effort for me. In most cases I've pulled back a bit, re-evaluated, and decided that it really was what I wanted and I found myself fully committed to the relationship and in a different level of 'love'.

I think most people go through this. And frankly, his response to it might be what makes or breaks the relationship

I don't think it makes you an awful person, just human... be honest with him and yourself... is all I can add...

Likewise; I often fall for the most attractive, intelligent, and compassionate person...sometimes it is reciprocated.

roco

I am just like youre boyfriend and the problem is he is to nice. Ive learned that you cant always be 100 percent nice and that there are times to be serious and take control at times . So it aint gonna work .

Do the right thing. At least inform him of how you feel...
Anything else is just dishonest and selfish

i will reflect some more on what you're saying here.