As long as I don't have to hear the word "domesticated" every 6 minutes,
a little compromise is fine....

will i not hang my undies on the door knob to dry?,,,yes,,,that's about
it though

@Glenn

thanks Riardo

Hummmmm actually I pretty much expect all to accept me as I'm for I will
accept them for who they are and sure no one is perfect. Now at times
there may be something small that is no big deal and well if they expect
me to change that does go two ways also. But.... the way I see it is if
they cannot accept me for who I'm then it is really not me they are
looking for. For if I have to change to please them then am I really me
anymore but being shaped into what they want.



Best to accept others for who they are or move one. Cause they will
never be happy with themselves if not allowed to be who they really
are..

Anyone that loves you must accept you the way you are.
This is the only way I can explain this...read it..

me as you find me –
Do not try to make me over.
Don't try to create or destroy anything about me.
I have lived with me longer that I have with you.
I am satisfied with me.

I can change –
But it must be because I want to change.
I have no problem with me now,
And I have no problem with you maintaining
Yourself as you are.

You can create an awareness –
And, you can create an atmosphere
In which I may develop and become
Better able to meet your needs;
To be better able to understand my shortcomings,
And to better utilize gifts I may possess.

You cannot carry my load.
But, you can share your knowledge
And your understanding in areas where I might not be capable, in roles
where I may not be so readily equipped;
And you can challenge me to go far beyond my means.

It is important that you not try
To make me anything but what I am,
What I want to be, or what I am capable of becoming.
Before you, I was me.
Please let me stay, as I want to be.


Copyright 1980-2003 by Charles B. Whitehurst, Sr..

I say accept me as I am

By doing that it allows me to be me and live my life as I see fit as I
would do the same for them....I can't see myself being anyway other then
who I am and I like me today

There's a reason why we fall in love with someone. To try and change
that person, would be defeating the idea of your love! I won't change
her, and neither will I CHANGE!!! There is something called compromise
that comes to mind. Instead of drinking the juice out of the bottle,
I'll use a glass!!!

I accept me as I am with all my imperfections...So I would expect others
to accept me the same way!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What is it we fall in love with?

Is it a reflection of us?

Is it the qualities we see in another, that we feel are ours as well?

Or is it what we aspire to be?

So do we change, or attempt to change another, because our aspirations
were too high?

Do we need to reduce the other, for them to conform to our own
standards.

You be you, and I'll be me, and I don't require a clone of me..

With the thought that no one is perfect, it comes down to, are you
willing to accept these faults. If you can, kool!!!

I guess I'd be willing to change to help a relationship grow, as long as
it worked both ways.

Yes I think if your going to date someone, learn acceptance for the most
part..


otherwise you might stab them with your dinner fork cuz you cant stand
the way they chew their food either.....lol

If you start having a build up of frustration.....ouch!

when my wife started to include the "m" word in an occassional
conversation bout 6 or 7 months into our first yr of datin i told her
that if she could put up with me for 5 yrs then she'd know the true me &
things would probably work out.

that was 13 yrs ago..... i think... maybe 14. hell i quit countin.

even tho i keep tellin myself how much i miss my freedom, i turn around
& say she's the best thing that ever happened in my life.

that is except for learnin bout rosie & her 5 sisters.
& drinkin
& fishin
& chocolate
& king size paydays
& warm socks on a cold night when ya gotta take the dogs outside

IMHO, compromise when it comes to little things is a normal part of any
relationship, (i.e., where to eat, which movie to see, etc., etc.).
However, I don't believe compromise on deeper core values should be
necessary; if it is, then it's time to take a long hard look at yourself
and ask yourself why you're in a relationship with someone who has such
different core values. I'm not saying relationships between polar
opposites can't work, (i.e. James Carville and Mary Matalin), but IMHO
it takes a lot more effort, effort that most people generally aren't
willing to expend.

Just my 2 cents...

SheNerd :)

after 2 marriages.. I have learned to finally be me.... I say this...
and I've said it a few times before...


~I am who I am...Take it or leave it..
If you can't accept me for who I am...
Well then Fu Ck U!~

If someone special in my life was uncomfortable with some of my ways?..I
would be willing to listen to her opinions. Changes happen all the time.

iam sure i would change alot for some one special
being single is different from being commited

I would change, depending on what it was that needed to be changed. Like
for instance, I can be jealous on occasion and I know my partner doesn't
like it. So I already am aware that I need to work on that........It's
just hard when you think you have something good......And then it blows
up in your face, which has happened to me many times......So I'm not too
optimistic right now in the relationship dept. unless proven otherwise.