I have been with my ex boyfriend for 3 years. He got a job in Houston and told me before he left that I was not physically attractive anymore. I love him so much that I want him back. What can I do?

wake up and move on.


you love him? he just told you that you weren't attractive and yet you love him. what a backward world we live in. if i tell a girl that i find her attractive she runs the other way. this guy tells his girl that she's not and she wants to chase after him to get him back.

when did i end up in the twilight zone?


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dress nice, work out, make yourself as pretty as possible...

But it sounds to me like he's already gone. Too much trouble to go chasing someone across state borders who isn't attracted to you. I think it's time to move on. There are plenty of guys out there that would think you're attractive.

In all honesty, Dump his sorry ass for even saying that. I am totally serious, You would think that after 3 years of being together he would be able to see all your beauty. I glanced at your photos when I seen this forum and before I read the forum and wonder why anyone would think they are not attractive. Do you not feel attractive, if not ask your self what it is you would change. I see a lady with a very beautiful smile and very beautiful complextion and I dont lie, perhaps she is a little heavier then she should be. That is a very easy task to overcome. I had a friend of mine, he could barely walk, 400 plus pounds, people made fun of him, even his so called friends, everyone except me. I watched him start walking for excercise trying to lose weight. He walked past my home everyday for at least a year and 1/2. the first weeks you could see him strugle, sweating terribly, the pain in his face as he barely moved along. 1 1/2 years later he was around 150 lbs totally in shape, his walk was as fast as most peoples run. He maintains his shape today, we talk all the time about his previous life, and he said that is something he will never go back to. We talk about something else, one of the reasons he worked so hard to lose the weight was he wanted to have some pretty lady to share his life with him. As luck would have it, he never got the pretty lady, infact he is still single, the weight was not the issue as far as he is concerned now about not having someone. He just hasnt found the right lady yet. Sweetheart you are a princess, all women are and should be treated as such. If you were a top 10 beauty queen over night would your boyfriend love until the next beauty queen came along, if so, and I already know this, you arent the won with the problem he is. You have a beautiful smile dont let anyone take that from you.

Barry

Thank you all for your advice.

Hi, I'm Mahan and I'm Mahan... (We're bipolar) and we both think that you are mighty fine looking!

You look pretty darn physically attractive to me. If your former boyfriend doesn't think so, then that is HIS problem and it certainly shouldn't change your own perception of yourself, and will definitely not change the perception others have of you.

besides, you can't make someone love you. they either do, or they don't.

Such a person is not worthy of your friendship, let alone affection. His loss. Find someone new who is capable of treating you with kindness, love and respect! The faster you get rid of him the better!

hey u didn't exactly fall out the ugly tree now did u? strikes me this was just an excuse. the bad news is u can't stop lovin him til ur ready to stop lovin him good luck x

You'll get over it when you are ready. You experienced a loss!
Unfortunately it might hurt for a while.
I have to take my hat off to Buckme.
We deserve to be treated like that princess, we treat THEM well.
And that's not an 'even steven' thing. It comes naturally with the right person. The wrong person keeps score. (UGH)
And you are a very attractive young lady!
You will do well here.
Get your freak radar tuned up!
Cheers.

i can't add a thing, buckme said it all!!

You are still you. Weight can be changed, figures toned, hair colored and cut, skin moisturized and toned. Beauty, the glow, comes from within.

Most likely, nothing about you has changed in three years. Most likely, he has either moved on or found someone new. Why? Perhaps it was a problem in the relationship; perhaps it was a problem within him.

Do your best not to look back if he truly doesn't want to work it out. Be well.

Why do women wanna be with jerks?

Why don't you forget him and find someone that loves you no matter what, inside and out?

It doesn't matter if WE think you're beautiful. YOU have to think so.

The question is, how do YOU feel about the way you look? If you're happy with you that's all that matters. Why give this guy who treated you like crap the power over you to make you feel bad about yourself? And in saying something like that he was treating you like crap.
Beauty is as we perceive it, and it shines from the inside out. You have to be happy with you, that confidence always comes out and enhances the outter parts.
And why in the world would you want someone who has no respect for you or your feelings????

Hi, Is it just possible that this guy is turning out to
be a control freak? Teling you things that are Not true
about yourself, then tossing you aside. You running after
him. Should he take you back, you will be absolutely under
his thumb. IMHO this sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

I think everyone pretty much covered everything...

First and foremost... LOVE YOURSELF! KNOW YOURSELF! BE YOURSELF!
Once you do that the 'right' person will come into your life!

Everyone said it pretty much dump him because your a beautiful young woman

Why go to all that trouble...she needs to find someone that loves her just the way she is and would never say something so mean