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Alright, I will be the first to admit I’m not a huge catch for anyone. I’m not as attractive as I’d like to be and girls aren’t clammering to get with me, but I was told today that I was “Too picky” when it comes to relationships. So here’s my question, if you had the chance to date a girl/guy that you have a mild interest in, someone that you think a relationship wouldn’t last or you find unattractive in some way just enough not to consider to date, would you drop your standards just to give it a try?
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dude, your first problem is in the first line. who's going to want to be with someone who says "i'm not a huge catch for anyone. i'm not as attractive as i'd like to be and girls aren't clammering to get with me"?
even if it's true, you don't have to say it like that or out loud for that matter. no one wants to be with someone that no one else wants. your standars aside, you need to change your way of thinking about yourself. and as for your question, no i wouldn't drop my standards. but then again, i'm sort of a black and white person. i either find them attractive enough to date or not. there's no maybe ground for me. get your head straight. . . . |
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dude, your first problem is in the first line. who's going to want to be with someone who says "i'm not a huge catch for anyone. i'm not as attractive as i'd like to be and girls aren't clammering to get with me"? even if it's true, you don't have to say it like that or out loud for that matter. no one wants to be with someone that no one else wants. your standars aside, you need to change your way of thinking about yourself. and as for your question, no i wouldn't drop my standards. but then again, i'm sort of a black and white person. i either find them attractive enough to date or not. there's no maybe ground for me. get your head straight. . . . You said it perfect there Drew 
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I've done it before and will never do it again. It's not worth it. You'll just end up finding more about them you dislike and what could have been a good friendship would be sabotaged. If you're only mildly interested they'll just annoy the hell out of you.
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welcome to the fold grendel.
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You said it perfect there Drew thanks, just trying to help. . . . |
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Edited by
darkowl1
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Thu 04/23/09 10:50 PM
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what can make you attractive is to go with what you know, that is positive, and build on that. Drew's right, but hit you with a hardline. get everything you can about the way women think, written by women about women, and your thinking and outlook will change, for it's merely what you say, that can make a woman turn her head, and how you treat her, and entice her. and try not to give everything you've got and put it on a shiny platter for her to see right away. if you have more questions, i'd be glad to help, sincerely, owl.
this should be fun research, for it's about what you really want. |
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Thanks Drew
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life.
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life. What can I say, I was at the lowest point of my life at the time, too young to know any better, and no one was around to slap the crap out of me. |
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life. What can I say, I was at the lowest point of my life at the time, too young to know any better, and no one was around to slap the crap out of me. sometimes that's what you need. there should be an almight hand that reaches down from the heavens and b!tch slaps people whenever they're about to do something stupid. then again, we'd never learn from our mistakes. . . . |
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life. What can I say, I was at the lowest point of my life at the time, too young to know any better, and no one was around to slap the crap out of me. soo...sitting you down gently and talking logic to you would not have helped?  
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wow, I have to say we are told beauty is in the eye of the beholder .. trust in that..{ for example,, you may think I am beautiful another may think i look like crap } which is right which is wrong .. but if you are telling people you are not beautiful they are not even looking because they have it in there mind what you have already said ... My advice to you would be let the beholder see you some will like the way you look some will hate the way you look ..its all okay its called choice ...and everyone has style of there own and choses what they are attrated to it may just be your nose or maybe your eyes or it could be the way you carry your self .. there are endless possiabilty that a person can be attrated to ..from your head to your feet to the way you say hello to goodbye .dont judge your self or put your self down . it all starts with you and ends with you how you see your self how you love your self .. then and only then will you know how to truly love another and see another for who they are...
good luck in finding your self love |
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yes i agree it sometimes needs to be a douable slap for us stuborn women lol
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TrSmith
 DarkOwl  How's it goin' ?
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life. What can I say, I was at the lowest point of my life at the time, too young to know any better, and no one was around to slap the crap out of me. yes i have to agree sometimes it should be slap with the right hand then woth the left hand some of us just dont lesson the first time lol  |
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wow, I have to say we are told beauty is in the eye of the beholder .. trust in that..{ for example,, you may think I am beautiful another may think i look like crap } which is right which is wrong .. but if you are telling people you are not beautiful they are not even looking because they have it in there mind what you have already said ... My advice to you would be let the beholder see you some will like the way you look some will hate the way you look ..its all okay its called choice ...and everyone has style of there own and choses what they are attrated to it may just be your nose or maybe your eyes or it could be the way you carry your self .. there are endless possiabilty that a person can be attrated to ..from your head to your feet to the way you say hello to goodbye .dont judge your self or put your self down . it all starts with you and ends with you how you see your self how you love your self .. then and only then will you know how to truly love another and see another for who they are... good luck in finding your self love sure is, 'cause, you just can't help what turns you on  
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Edited by
darkowl1
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Thu 04/23/09 11:15 PM
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life. What can I say, I was at the lowest point of my life at the time, too young to know any better, and no one was around to slap the crap out of me. sometimes that's what you need. there should be an almight hand that reaches down from the heavens and b!tch slaps people whenever they're about to do something stupid. then again, we'd never learn from our mistakes. . . . but drew, you're very smart, and you learn fast from what i've seen. what good would a slap do you, but make you defiant and pissed off? no? yes? you've got a hell of a lot of heart, and why hurt that? that's what made you strong, your heart and compassion. pain only puts up barriers and hardens us, makes us weaker. and not lets us see what's really there. |
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hey sharpshooter
doin good! and wanna laugh.........nice post!
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Yes, I have dropped my standards, in fact I married one. Biggest mistake of my life. What can I say, I was at the lowest point of my life at the time, too young to know any better, and no one was around to slap the crap out of me. sometimes that's what you need. there should be an almight hand that reaches down from the heavens and b!tch slaps people whenever they're about to do something stupid. then again, we'd never learn from our mistakes. . . . but drew, you're very smart, and you learn fast from what i've seen. what good would a slap do you, but make you defiant and pissed off? no? yes? you've got a hell of a lot of heart, and why hurt that? that's what made you strong, your heart and compassion. pain only puts up barriers and hardens us, makes us weaker. and not lets us see what's really there. thanks owl. i've always been smart enough to learn from others' mistakes. that's not saying that i haven't made some of my own. i've just been lucky that i was able to get out before any major damage was done. i'm just talking about a b!itch slap to bring us back to our senses. love can blind us to what is really there. and loneliness and fear of loneliness can convince us that what is there isn't a major flaw and is worth tolerating. sometimes a good wake up call is called for. IMO . . . |
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