Okay, so there is this dude who has expressed interest in me for about a year now. He is best friends with my friend's husband. So there is some relay of information through them... i am told that he doenst like to kiss... WTF?
Who in their right mind doesn't like to kiss? AND if he expects anything more than friendship...how exactly is this going to work? I am a kissy type person... i do like him, but without kissing, what is there?
He won't make a move on me... at all... after A YEAR.
My friend says that he wants to take things slow... I know I should probobly have a conversation with him about this myself, but he is sooooo nervous around me, i couldnt put him on the spot like that... any suggestions? Thanks!

Kissing is icky!

he could be insecure about kissing. you women always talk about the first kiss and you can tell he loves you by his kiss....
that's a lot of pressure.

i am insecure when it comes to kissing. for me it doesn't happen often enough for me to feel like i'm doing it right. maybe he feels it's just better not to participate. like a sport that you aren't good at, you loose interest.
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IDK what his problem is but, I adore french kissing.

ok!! since u have said that u like kissing...do onething........
























kiss this guy goood bye

go to friends house and meet him there. talk like friends then come behind him and kiss him.

I agree with 74Drew...dude probably doesn't want to drop the ball, which makes it sound like he's really into you...it's good to know that some guys are trying to resuscitate chivalry by trying to "take things slow", but you also don't want to come off as a wuss...and we all know there's a thin line between confidence and arrogance

maybe he's gone out with women before that were terrible kissers so that's why he doesn't like it.

welcome to the community, hang out in the forums and enjoy the ride.


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i think it has to be really really bad for a guy to think it's bad. same as with sex.


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nobody is saying it...But I've a feeling....there is a tendency that this guy could swing the other way

oooh I don't know... I went out with a guy that was AWFUL at kissing. If he was the only person I've ever kissed, I would hate it too.

and he's "taking it slow" it's been a year and he hasn't even asked you out yet? How slow does he plan on going? Sounds to me like he's stopped.

ya'll got a point there... trust me i have gone over the... maybe he's A-sexual, or gay, but i really dont think so... i have great gaydar... there is no way he's gay.
i appriciate chivalry in this day and age, but COME ON! whats a gal gotta do to get some lip action!? Thats ALL im askin for! I dont want to sleep with him...

what i'm saying is that guys and girls have a different understanding of the terms terrible, bad, and awful. for us it has to be nearly painful or disgusting to be deemed bad. that's a bit of an exaggeration.


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And some people just really don't like it. If that's the case then it's something you deal with. Never go out with someone hoping to change them. Accept them or find someone else you will accept for who they are. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. If he really doesn't like it or doesn't enjoy it, it's not likely to change.

the phrase "asked me out" is kinda irrelevant here cuz we live in such a remote area... there is no place to take someone out, so we hang at friends houses, or my house, or his... and this we have done many, many, many times... he has had several oportunities to express any feelings he may have.

ohhhhh, so he's ok to kiss, but not to sleep with? man, see what we have to live up to?
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Perhaps he hasn't found his kissable match yet ... perhaps he is insecure ... perhaps he has been ridiculed ... perhaps he was with bad kissers ... perhaps he knows not what he is missing ...

I know what you're saying however... this was truly awful. Like wipe the slobber off all over my face, thanks alot for choking me, get off me cuz I can't breath, seriously your mouth doesn't have to be COMPLETELY open kind of awful.