when does adorable persistance cross over into crazy stalker style?


gotta guy who won't take no for an answer ...

I'm outside your window...PLEASE?!?!?!

No, but really, that would be your sign.

When you start asking yourself these questions.

I don't think there is a line that gets crossed, the FBI use the term "Inadequate Personality", he was probably crazy all along, but since he was unsuccessful, his weirder sign is starting to show.

Lower your standards & change your status to Taken

oh girl I hear ya been there and done that...it does get crazy every once and a while...I just wanna scream why so serious....

I've been persistent in the past because of how deeply I felt about someone. But here's the thing, if he really loves you, he cares about your happiness, so much so that he would give you space. Someone who truly cares about you is willing to you give space where as a stalker is just obsessed about you and pursues his own interests. At least that's the way I see it.

ok what is the difference between stalking and just being persistent..where would you say he has crossed the line...

I had that lotsa times

Ya say. F;:k off !

And block em!

If you've said no, and they persist to the point it makes you uncomfortable, then they've crossed the line. You have a responsibility here, too, though. You need to be absolutely clear that they are to STOP whatever they are doing and that you want absolutely NO contact. If they persist, ignore, ignore, ignore. If they still persist, get a restraining order.

If they are a "true" stalker any attention paid to them at all is a sign, in their head, that you are interested in them and are playing "hard to get" or something equally ridiculous. Contact needs to stop and you need to be both forceful and consistent in that.

I don't want you to think that I'm in any way, shape or form saying it's your fault, it's not at all. But, I've learned the hard way (through my own experience and the experience of friends) that trying to be "nice" so as to not hurt feelings or whatever simply doesn't work. That's what I meant about being responsible

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i was just curious as to your opinions. some girls think persistance is cute some think its scary at any given dosage

i think its cute up to a limit. then i'm like DUDE BACK OFF!!

he's not at the BACK OFF! stage yet.

NEVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS!

I have one told her if it continues police will be called

I think it turns from adorable persistence to something not so nice....when he won't take no for an answer.

My strategy would be to say something like "ummmm..come on over, I have a brand new whip and some nifty clover clamps that I've been dying to try out on my next little b1+ch!"

When they clip your hair and make a shrine. DDD:


Now that's scary.

The block button is your best friend. Threads like this give the stalker too much attention, to be honest.

You said no and he continues?

How?

Is this a cyber stalker or a person in your life. There is a huge difference.