i met a nice guy on my trip to houston
we decided to meet again 1/2 between austin and houston @ his parents ranch
we have been texting back and forth, talking on the tele
decided on a date in a couple weeks
the subject about "making luv" under the stars came up
both agree that might happen because i felt there would be a long term ending to this

anyway to make a long story stort i texted him this:
do you talk during? dirty?

just wanted to find out his likes/dislikes...did not want to do something stupid if he did not like it


well, he took it as unsure of what my real intentions are.....a fling or a long term relationship...

comments/opinions:

I had a great time

Did you talk to him about it?

You asked a question about sex and he questioned your motives?

Call the guy and talk to him.

maybe he's just out there grindin

i did, we have talked several times after.....he can not get (understand) why i would even ask that and still questions what i really want.

i said i am sorry...all things happen for a reason, this to get my feet planted and my head out of the clouds---- move at a slower pace, maybe not meet again at the ranch

R u just a little to aggresive for him?

Explain

And tone it down a bit

Talk about sex in person. Texting about sex or talking about it on the phone may trivialize it for when you get together.

Hmmm. It seems he has decided what you think rather than listening to you, and might also just be a tad uptight about hanky panky.

Did you tell the guy if that was all you wanted you can find it closer to home?

Things shouldn't be this hard, I think he is making a mountain out of a molehill, personally.

I think maybe he thinks......that it is too early to be talking about that so soon.

Maybe he doesn't like to talk about certain things or he found it inappropriate.

Either way you called, apologized, problem should be resolved.

i am thinking that maybe we are not "right" for each other because if certain things are an issue or misunderstanding from the get go........

I feel so dirty,
hell the guy should be happy your open like that.

okay--- i thought all guys liked that
silly me-
and why does that mean you are not serious about a long term relationship?
i want to have a long term relationship where we can have an awesome sex life and never be bored in the bedroom!

Maybe when there is an expectation to perform
both or one can get cold feet.

Not all like direction when they already feel
they are good performers.

Sometimes I think is best
to let it take its natural course first
and when each are comfortable in each ones space,
maybe then start offering up what pleasures one
and experiment with each ones likes and fantasies.

Sometimes the unexpected can be exciting
and maybe too a new learning curb learnt.

He must be scared of long term or a shy lover....

Hey Joyce

I agree with the following

1. You apologized for what I'm not sure, but okay.

2. He's making a mountain out of a mole hill.

3. He sounds uptight

4. If your questioning the whole thing,
I would go with your instincts and step back.
"thinking were not "right" for each other"

5. He should have been happy that your were comfortable enough
to ask, share, and care about something like that.

Well thats my input

thank you
i appreciate your opinion

Just a thought.

If you are coming across too strong
as assuming you are already engaged
to marry some time soon...

The chap, may not be that into you
to make such a serious commitment.

If he is going to feel trapped
and unready, any pressure will
make him run the other way...

All I feel now is, if he qestioned you
on what you mentioned to him, he is either
looking at your motive, feel what you asked
was to early to discuss, as there is no given
commitment to the relationship.

Remember you both are still strangers in ways,
a few dates does not neassarily mean love
rather being lust...

AND.... for goodness sake make sure you both
take and use protection...

AND.... for goodness sake make sure you both
take and use protection...-------i will cancel my plans for the weekend trip. i am in no way going with that kind of misunderstanding