I'm wondering are we here on mingle 2 (and other social sites) 2 much into the 'hot' face/body? We've all seen the profiles with the pics of hot men/women and lets be honest we are all inclined to look a lil harder at those ppl aren't we? So are we 2 hottie aware? I welcome replies!

well, i think some of us are.. me personally.. i typically don't find looks to be that important.. however, you're right. If they have a really good looking pic or something i tend to pay more attention to the profile. I think everyone does. If you say you don't then maybe you should think a little harder! i know the hotties don't go for me anyways. And a lot comes with the more attractive people. I find that being concieted is the biggest possible turnoff i think. Like i said, i may pay a little more attention to the better looking pic people, but i don't exclusively look at them. i would rather be able to talk to someone and get along with them then want to stare and drool. And the more you care about someone, the more beautiful they are.

whoops.. dunno how that happened but double posted >.<

I will admit that I used to be.

Age may have quite a bit to do with the responses you get here.

There are some 'things' I prefer on a guy (goatee, moustache, works out).

Nope, I'm butt-ugly, and have had no problem with women, except for all the ones I fancy are in different states/time zones..

I'm HOT I get hot flashes all the time!


I think with some people looks are alot to them, but beauty fades and
whats inside a person is what counts to me!










Welcome to the posts!

I can only speak for myself, so don't know about the "we", but...

I won't lie and say I don't glance at someone that is attractive, but I'm far more likely to be moved to message someone if their profile content catches my interest. I was pretty superficial when I was younger, but now I know that what goes on inside is far sexier than the outside *shrug*

If you would like the 77 gazillion emails that I get saying UR HOTT!...you're welcome to them...

I'm Handsome, but not hot

I think you're hot.

I think u can be handsome and not hot, though most of the time it goes hand in hand, yet u can be plain but hot, just the way u look. I guess I'm asking do looks matter? Would any of u say no to a ugly person?

Looks does matter....I mean look at me. I am a Goddess or anything

Physical chemistry is important from the start!

As you get to know a person, that attraction may fade -- if they are dumb as a stump -- or increase if they have something of substance that rocks your world!

Conversely, you can become attracted to someone you may not have initially thought was good looking BECAUSE their personality shined.

Some say (the latter) is a longer lasting attraction but it may not be as passionate or as HOT as the 'lust at first site' situation.

I am a lust at first site girl. I need that instant "WOW"! If the rest of the package doesn't fall into place then I move along.

I have enough 'friends' that I grew to love but I was not -- and am not -- attracted to physically. I need the WOW!

You are the hot one

Actually I am with Jess on this one.. I get really tired of the emails of you are hot wanna chat...
WTH I am in Alaska in the middle of a snow storm I am not bloody hot right now.


As for being attracted to the Gorgeous Eye Candy first Nope not happening... The Hot stud muffins usually take longer to go on a date than I do.. I was married to a hunk of perfect male body and that was all there was there. I actually now, am way more cautious and I am not really interested in the physical I am into the well balanced person.

ok none of us are into looks only, but wat about the majority?

The majority of the people or the majority of the attraction?

Looks only? No way!

I can't be with a dimwit!

In my 44 years, I have dated only one woman that was "Drop-Dead" gorgeous. All the others were/are very beautiful women. Each, in their own way, has/had something that got me to talk to them, OR, I had something to get them to talk to me.

As a male, we're taken for being shallow, plain and simple.. OK, we are. To me, a woman with a high IQ, and an ability to speak on a wide variety of subjects, without always trying to boost herself up, is the type of lady I'd be interested in taking the chance of a relationship with. JMO.

how can one say "we" about appearance importance???

do you not feel like this, because pic # 3 red shirt is looking most to find pic # 1 in blue shirt???

hear from others???

believe other's words???

don't base them on self definitions, as what another speaks, is what itself is, not what the words would mean to self, if self spoke them, or defined them???

if one stop quanitfying other's, as "we", one may find "environmental" feedback as accurate, and then anything can see why one is treated the way itself is???

nothing comes to self except what SELF PUT OUT OR SPEAK OR ACT???

to not believe this, even thought the brain will try to tell you it is "others" fault all day long, will lead to total lack of actually seeing other people as people, and only seeing them for what oneself can and would or could or should get out of them for self???

sad, sad, sad, in due time, and miserable, no matter how you cut it????

change this one thing, and you will change your whole entire life, garaunteed???

yes, one can prove these statements untrue all day, but one can prove it true as well, and the way the mind "think", be more important than what is perceived as truth or not truth???

one can quantify other's as self, but this is indeed a risky business, unless one WANTS NOTHING FOR ITSELF, or you will quantify yourself right out of the very knowing of how to be happy yourself???

the more happiness one seek to give away, the more one find.

peace man