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Topic: What would you do?
misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 05:24 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived?

Chrissyj71 Joined Wed 03/11/09 Posts: 3	Wed 03/25/09 05:38 AM
well id call them out first of all. then leave. why date someone that feels they have to lie to get a woman/man.

Ted14621 Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 2173	Wed 03/25/09 05:39 AM
<---- No, really, that's me!

njmom05 Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 5867	Wed 03/25/09 05:40 AM
I'd tell them, I have no time for liars.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 05:41 AM Edited by misstina2 on Wed 03/25/09 05:42 AM
well id call them out first of all. then leave. why date someone that feels they have to lie to get a woman/man. So you wouldn't accept even a drink?

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 05:43 AM
<---- No, really, that's me! I believe you

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 03/25/09 05:43 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? Interesting way to phrase the question. Our perception is not the same as someone deliberately misleading us. Can you clarify?

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Wed 03/25/09 05:44 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? look into their heart.....I'm sure they would turn beautiful right before my eyes!

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 05:47 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? Interesting way to phrase the question. Our perception is not the same as someone deliberately misleading us. Can you clarify? Mitch I anticipated someone would ask so I looked it up To become aware of directly through any of the senses, especially sight or hearing.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 05:48 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? look into their heart.....I'm sure they would turn beautiful right before my eyes! perhaps if the meeting were at a bar

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Wed 03/25/09 05:51 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? look into their heart.....I'm sure they would turn beautiful right before my eyes! perhaps if the meeting were at a bar . No not true. Once met a man who was nothing like he said he looked. Turned out he was a beautiful man on the inside such made him beautiful on the outside and it was over coffee! (love ya pat!)

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 05:55 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? look into their heart.....I'm sure they would turn beautiful right before my eyes! perhaps if the meeting were at a bar . No not true. Once met a man who was nothing like he said he looked. Turned out he was a beautiful man on the inside such made him beautiful on the outside and it was over coffee! (love ya pat!) little morning humor i was making an attept at I'm sure its whats inside counts experience proves this true

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 03/25/09 06:11 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? Interesting way to phrase the question. Our perception is not the same as someone deliberately misleading us. Can you clarify? Mitch I anticipated someone would ask so I looked it up To become aware of directly through any of the senses, especially sight or hearing. I understood the meaning. I was asking more for others who do not seem to be clear on the question. Our perception, especially of people we only know online, can be fooled. Senses can be deceived. However this is NOT NECESSARILY (and often times not at all) the fault of the person whose appearance we misconstrued. There have been times when I literally had to say to a woman "NO! This is not what I am!" Part of the problem with perception of online friends is that it is often mixed in with our fantasy images. I try not to base attraction on my perception of what someone looks like. It can be difficult since we do tend to gravitate towards those we are attracted to. I'm happy, even if the appearance is not what I perceived, to enjoy a pleasant time out with someone as long as they have not deliberately mislead me.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 06:19 AM Edited by misstina2 on Wed 03/25/09 06:20 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? Interesting way to phrase the question. Our perception is not the same as someone deliberately misleading us. Can you clarify? Mitch I anticipated someone would ask so I looked it up To become aware of directly through any of the senses, especially sight or hearing. I understood the meaning. I was asking more for others who do not seem to be clear on the question. Our perception, especially of people we only know online, can be fooled. Senses can be deceived. However this is NOT NECESSARILY (and often times not at all) the fault of the person whose appearance we misconstrued. There have been times when I literally had to say to a woman "NO! This is not what I am!" Part of the problem with perception of online friends is that it is often mixed in with our fantasy images. I try not to base attraction on my perception of what someone looks like. It can be difficult since we do tend to gravitate towards those we are attracted to. I'm happy, even if the appearance is not what I perceived, to enjoy a pleasant time out with someone as long as they have not deliberately mislead me. very good answer I like to word my questions in a way that is up for each posters own inturpetation I don't base my attraction solely on looks myself takes a deeper connection than whats on the outside for me looks fade

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 03/25/09 06:27 AM
very good answer I like to word my questions in a way that is up for each posters own inturpetation I don't base my attraction solely on looks myself takes a deeper connection than whats on the outside for me looks fade It is interesting to see how many people automatically jump to how the person mislead them rather than giving some thought to the word "perception."

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Wed 03/25/09 06:28 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? thats what happens when you fall in love with a picture

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 06:31 AM
very good answer I like to word my questions in a way that is up for each posters own inturpetation I don't base my attraction solely on looks myself takes a deeper connection than whats on the outside for me looks fade It is interesting to see how many people automatically jump to how the person mislead them rather than giving some thought to the word "perception." the assumption i think was that perceived was a sort of deception

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 03/25/09 06:33 AM
very good answer I like to word my questions in a way that is up for each posters own inturpetation I don't base my attraction solely on looks myself takes a deeper connection than whats on the outside for me looks fade It is interesting to see how many people automatically jump to how the person mislead them rather than giving some thought to the word "perception." the assumption i think was that perceived was a sort of deception Yes, you are correct. However, perception is within the self and often has little to do with deception.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 03/25/09 06:34 AM
If you went to meet someone and their appearance was not as you perceived? Well if your perception of the person was off, doesn't that make it your problem not theirs?

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 03/25/09 06:36 AM
very good answer I like to word my questions in a way that is up for each posters own inturpetation I don't base my attraction solely on looks myself takes a deeper connection than whats on the outside for me looks fade It is interesting to see how many people automatically jump to how the person mislead them rather than giving some thought to the word "perception." the assumption i think was that perceived was a sort of deception Yes, you are correct. However, perception is within the self and often has little to do with deception. it was a tricky question as meant to be