ok so i had a good friend of mine over, who i am interested, for dinner and we watched a movie. we've recently met each other at college and are still getting to know each other. I value her greatly as a friend right now, but i would like to take it further and see where it goes.

The only problem is i can't read her or pick up on any signs she is giving, if at all. I am terrible at that. i always find out after the fact if a girl is interested, ussually long after it is too late.

My questions are: How do i know if she's interested, and what do i do about it.

In all seriousness. :)

Continue to ask her out....if she continues to say yes...she's interested.

1 more movie...Take it kinda easy...After the second movie...And no dipping in the popcorn.. Or can i help ya with a class tomorrow .. Be like mike and beat it....I've used the word beat it quit often tonight

well we've done things together a couple of times... movies, dinner, and what not, but i never referred to them as "dates" or "going out"

I'd make a move and just let my animal instincts run wild, but that would just completely go against who i am. Because i value her and like her so, i respect her and do not wish to make her uncomfortable.

Is just talking to her about it a good or bad idea. i have mixed emotions on that idea.

Be easy tiger

talk to her...ask her if she's interested in taking the relationship further.

Take a few times off with her. I recently had this happen myself with a woman. We hung out a few times and went clubbin n stuff and I couldn't read her AT ALL. So I quit askin her out for a few weeks and then she retorted asking me if I found someone else to date because of it. Turns out she WAS interested :) Too bad it's never gone anywhere LOL

TELL her..tell her, tell her!! It's ALL about the communication.

If you DON'T take the CHANCE.. you'll NEVER know where it might LEAD or what might BECOME of it! JMHO

I tried the whole laying off for a while and oddly enough it back fired... forgot to take into account that she is the quiet type and is as shy if not more so than myself.

and i am takin it easy!! I am always respectful and a gentleman... lol I am very patient, but that doesn't mean i have to like it. lol

but ty for the advice all. i think i will bring it up later with her and just take the chance on the response. :)

It's a very good oppinion, in fact i catch myself telling others when they ask me for the same advice the same thing. funny how hard it is when yer in those shoes huh?

Listen to this man. He always has good advise.

Talk to her? I don't think any of us can guide you on her feelings...well, unless we have one of those freaky mind readers around.

and I'd be doing better if I could follow some of it myself

Next time you ask her to hang out, make sure you establish that it's a date by simply saying, "Hey, you think you'd be interested in going on a date?" If she says sure, then obviously she's interested. If she gives you those "Oh, I don't mind hanging out but I don't see you in that way," then you know. It might be awkward after that but it won't last and you guys can resume just hanging out as pals; after all, you're just stating you have a simple interest in her and not confessing your undying love or anything. You should realize by your past mistakes that you should take the initiative to just simply ask a girl, especially if there are no signs to read off from.

Now stop dwiddle-dwaddling here and go get her, tiger. But in a nice and respectful manner lol.

You're doing just fine.

yeah i feel the same way sometimes... but i am going to take that advice i'm going to bring up the subject. Might take some liquid courage though. lol j/k i know i have to do it on my own.

thanks everyone. just needed a lil reassurance. :)

definitely talk

Anticipation can be excrutiating and long in suffering.

Rejection is temporary and passes quickly.

Tell her how you feel.

The worst she can say is...


"No, I only want you as my gay male friend and emotional tampon".