So I'm greatly confused..... and maybe everyone else or someone can help me out.

What is the deal with writing someone all the time, haveing great conversations, getting to know each other, finding that you have a lot in common, trade numbers, text, talk on the phone, laugh your as.ses off together, talk for hours..... Then, all of a sudden....

Nothing.

No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail.
No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore.

I'm not the stalker type that calls and leaves tons of messages.
I dont send crazy texts.
I dont keep asking why she isnt responding.
I respect her, treat her how every girl wants.

What The Fuc.k?

I'm looking for male and female advise.

Have you had this happen to you?
Have you done this to someone?

Am I suppose to play the stupid fuc.king retarded game of cat and mouse, trying to find out whats going on?

Stud,

Have had this happen. No way to know exactly why they pulled away but I never chase. If they are interested, they know how to find you. If not, their loss, right. It is confusing though but I'm new at this too.

Such goes the internet.

You got me. It happened to me too.

Sorry that happened to you. It really sucks!!

It has happened to me in the past probably more times than I really care to admit but I just have to think of it as their loss. Its just a problem they have. Its not anything having to do with you.

Just write it off as a learning experience and move on. There is someone out there worthy of you- now you are free to find that person. Good Luck to you

I think we have all been there, done that.. Who knows why someone pulls away unless they tell you... let it go and go on with life..

it's the internet...people come...people go...sometimes they pop back up...

I myself have had this happen. Could be a multitude of reasons. No point wastin energy on it dwelling. She wants to get a hold of u, she can. Just keep on, keepin on

You did not sexually excite her/him and someone else came along and you now are in the friend zone

When that happens- you aren't even in the "friend" zone--- that person is GONE!!! you never ever hear from them again. Just wish sometimes they had the common courtesy or the guts to tell you WHY!!!

That is my biggest complaint about online relationships, be they romantic or ones of friendship; the ability to make yourself not be found.

I'd rather someone say 'I'm taking some time away from the internet' or some other excuse, than to be left wondering if they are okay, or even if they are alive. I don't even worry about whether they are still interested in me, I find I automatically start assuming there's some health issue.

I've gotten to the point where I don't worry any longer. I've distanced myself from most old buddies (with the exception of 3 or 4 real life/online friends) and refuse to get too attached to anyone new.

Usually they've found someone more interesting, better looking, has more money, has a better car, better house, etc. You were their fix for the moment. I've been there...

My point is that every one of you that has said is happened to is a woman. The guy left you high and dry.

This hasnt happened once, but many times to me.

It's the internet...People SUCK @ss


...But that's just me

Don't know why they did that to you...cause you are totally attractive

Guys aren't posting because they normally don't give a s!@# about this and they move on.

Honestly i have done it before. The reason isnt always the same. I did it when me and an ex started dating again. Wasnt able to tell the person why to avoid problems with the bf. Or a guy just gave me the creeps. Or just lost touch. There are many reasons for it happening. Dont feel bad. I have had it done to me as well. It happens in real life just as often as online.

So are you ;)

Have had this happen to me often.


Worse is - you meet the person have a few great dates then-

*poof*

Can't really be sure of the reasons just try not to take it to heart...

you seem like a great guy

Perhaps you're making up for the rest of the guy's bad Kharma?

J/K...it happens to all of us...grow thicker skin, keep an open mind...& don't hold it against the next person...

I got that way too, the whole distancing myself thing. Mostly referring to this computer hobby room/group I belonged to. We had all been friends since 2000. That's a long time...... a lot of us had exchanged phone numbers, had chat meets, sent money or cards to people when life gave them a wrong turn etc.. Then it came time when one of my kiddos had a real health emergency that required surgery and they all just sort of disappeared off the face of the earth. I left the phone number to the hospital where I was at waiting on my kiddo to get out of emergency surgery and not one of them that knew took a minute out of their lives to even call. That was the day I stopped trusting them. It was too convenient for them to be not available when it came my time to need a little friendly support. I no longer expect anything nor do I promise anything in regards to internet friends.