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It's the internet...People SUCK @ss  ...But that's just me  Don't know why they did that to you...cause you are totally attractive  So are you ;) Awwww shucks 
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That is my biggest complaint about online relationships, be they romantic or ones of friendship; the ability to make yourself not be found. I'd rather someone say 'I'm taking some time away from the internet' or some other excuse, than to be left wondering if they are okay, or even if they are alive. I don't even worry about whether they are still interested in me, I find I automatically start assuming there's some health issue. I've gotten to the point where I don't worry any longer. I've distanced myself from most old buddies (with the exception of 3 or 4 real life/online friends) and refuse to get too attached to anyone new. I got that way too, the whole distancing myself thing. Mostly referring to this computer hobby room/group I belonged to. We had all been friends since 2000. That's a long time...... a lot of us had exchanged phone numbers, had chat meets, sent money or cards to people when life gave them a wrong turn etc.. Then it came time when one of my kiddos had a real health emergency that required surgery and they all just sort of disappeared off the face of the earth. I left the phone number to the hospital where I was at waiting on my kiddo to get out of emergency surgery and not one of them that knew took a minute out of their lives to even call. That was the day I stopped trusting them. It was too convenient for them to be not available when it came my time to need a little friendly support. I no longer expect anything nor do I promise anything in regards to internet friends. Heather, I'm really sorry that happened to you. 
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My point is that every one of you that has said is happened to is a woman. The guy left you high and dry. This hasnt happened once, but many times to me. I hear ya, Bro, and trust me, it's happened to me, too........ |
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Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. |
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Heather, I'm really sorry that happened to you. Thank you. Was a good learning experience for me. |
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Maybe you waited too long to ask her to meet in person?
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I think it's happened to all of us...male or female. One possibility could be that life has just taken over and things have become too hectic and since you're not really in a serious relationship it'll be the first thing to suffer.
It's also one of those (when still in the building stage) circumstances where distance & absence are harder to deal with. If you were already in a stable relationship & life started coming at ya, then you'd have this other person to call on....or they'd know enough to continue to initiate contact & come over, etc. But with the internet, it's too easy to just back off & take care of what needs doing and never worry about the person you were talking to. |
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Stud, even happens to old geezers like me.
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So I'm greatly confused..... and maybe everyone else or someone can help me out. What is the deal with writing someone all the time, haveing great conversations, getting to know each other, finding that you have a lot in common, trade numbers, text, talk on the phone, laugh your as.ses off together, talk for hours..... Then, all of a sudden.... Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. I'm not the stalker type that calls and leaves tons of messages. I dont send crazy texts. I dont keep asking why she isnt responding. I respect her, treat her how every girl wants. What The Fuc.k? I'm looking for male and female advise. Have you had this happen to you? Have you done this to someone? Am I suppose to play the stupid fuc.king retarded game of cat and mouse, trying to find out whats going on? This is one of the fundemental issues with online dating...they found someone else who lives closer/they click better with/better looking (yes some are just that daft)/makes more money/etc/etc...the list really can go on. That is why I jump to meet them in a short span of time if we click really well over mail and phone. |
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So I'm greatly confused..... and maybe everyone else or someone can help me out. What is the deal with writing someone all the time, haveing great conversations, getting to know each other, finding that you have a lot in common, trade numbers, text, talk on the phone, laugh your as.ses off together, talk for hours..... Then, all of a sudden.... Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. I'm not the stalker type that calls and leaves tons of messages. I dont send crazy texts. I dont keep asking why she isnt responding. I respect her, treat her how every girl wants. What The Fuc.k? I'm looking for male and female advise. Have you had this happen to you? Have you done this to someone? Am I suppose to play the stupid fuc.king retarded game of cat and mouse, trying to find out whats going on? You said it best in your last sentence.. GAME... Sorry it happenend people tend to hide behind internet relationships and just click to off when they meet someone else... Dont think its you!
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Tue 03/17/09 05:34 PM
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So I'm greatly confused..... and maybe everyone else or someone can help me out. What is the deal with writing someone all the time, haveing great conversations, getting to know each other, finding that you have a lot in common, trade numbers, text, talk on the phone, laugh your as.ses off together, talk for hours..... Then, all of a sudden.... Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. I'm not the stalker type that calls and leaves tons of messages. I dont send crazy texts. I dont keep asking why she isnt responding. I respect her, treat her how every girl wants. What The Fuc.k? I'm looking for male and female advise. Have you had this happen to you? Have you done this to someone? Am I suppose to play the stupid fuc.king retarded game of cat and mouse, trying to find out whats going on? It's sad that they go as far as phone talking and texting, I usually never make that phase. I have to say, some just give up, as you (or me) reveal yourself and suddenly you (or me or anyone) aren't as interesting or the person on the other side was looking for something else and she (or he) slowly realizing this or see no point continuing. There is also the factor of making the next step. Once you e-mail, later you better offer the phone number and talk. Later you should be calling out for a date. The date goes well, there comes the "seeing each other" more and more frequently. If the steps aren't taken for some reason, that's a problem. No matter what, do these steps and if the other refuses to walk the steps, then there is a problem. I learned to cut off some, after I realized they weren't looking for the same thing as I am, and I kindly explained them, that I am not looking for an "e-mail friend" , and neither a "phone friend" so if they aren't ready to move to the next phase, then it's better to get over and walk away. |
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Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Yeah and i also got the jeans, shoes and coat to match! I have had a couple of people 'disappear' on me and to this day i wonder if they are ok. I dont care anymore that they are gone but it would be good to know if they are alive and well. |
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So I'm greatly confused..... and maybe everyone else or someone can help me out. What is the deal with writing someone all the time, haveing great conversations, getting to know each other, finding that you have a lot in common, trade numbers, text, talk on the phone, laugh your as.ses off together, talk for hours..... Then, all of a sudden.... Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. I'm not the stalker type that calls and leaves tons of messages. I dont send crazy texts. I dont keep asking why she isnt responding. I respect her, treat her how every girl wants. What The Fuc.k? I'm looking for male and female advise. Have you had this happen to you? Have you done this to someone? Am I suppose to play the stupid fuc.king retarded game of cat and mouse, trying to find out whats going on? This is happened to me a couple of times as well. It's a combination of headgames and a distinct amount of indecision and not knowing what the offending person wants. Either way, you're better off just dropping the entire subject and finding someone who WON'T give you that kind of malarkey. It's simply not worth the headaches and heart-burn. |
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well welcome to the world of dating....why she disappearred....
she found someone else she is chatting with other people she is somewhere out in another dating site she doesn't want to commit because u got 2 close: c the pix? well i don't cause i was not there chatting away. however, i think there are over 2k people on this site that would love to chat. find your city and look up all the people that want to talk and ask for referrals. nice women that won't leave u hanging out there in cypberspace...
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So I'm greatly confused..... and maybe everyone else or someone can help me out. What is the deal with writing someone all the time, haveing great conversations, getting to know each other, finding that you have a lot in common, trade numbers, text, talk on the phone, laugh your as.ses off together, talk for hours..... Then, all of a sudden.... Nothing. No more mail. No more texts, Doesnt answer the phone or return a voicemail. No courtesy to say, hey I'm not interested in taking this any further with you, or I dont want to talk anymore. I'm not the stalker type that calls and leaves tons of messages. I dont send crazy texts. I dont keep asking why she isnt responding. I respect her, treat her how every girl wants. What The Fuc.k? I'm looking for male and female advise. Have you had this happen to you? Have you done this to someone? Am I suppose to play the stupid fuc.king retarded game of cat and mouse, trying to find out whats going on? Wow you got to the phone and this happened. I am a bit shocked over that. When ever I have gotten to the phone they don't just walk away it is usually a mutual thing. From reading here it seems pretty common. I don't have a clue why someone would get that far and do this. Emails I think we all have experienced it. Now I am more surprised when they hang around and answer back. |
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Honestly this just happened to me, but I laugh it off now. When I realize hes just not that into me
 It can be frustrating, but dont give up hope, the next girl you get involved with might be different. |
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there is no good answer and that is the answer. now let it alone and find someone who deserves u more. learn.....
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it's happining to me now. it was wonderful at first i even met the girl in person fell in love with her and now nothing from her maybe just a rare email.
   
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I do say **** it. I just wish that I could find someone........
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My point is that every one of you that has said is happened to is a woman. The guy left you high and dry. This hasnt happened once, but many times to me. Perhaps you're making up for the rest of the guy's bad Kharma? J/K...it happens to all of us...grow thicker skin, keep an open mind...& don't hold it against the next person... That's my problem, I hold alot from my past relationships to the next |
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