Come on...Surely all 15 years weren't that bad...

That there earned my respect. Wise words.

i was ready to start a family...so i chose what i thought would be a good sperm donor...and he was...he was almost a good husband too...

7yr itch?

You don't think back about those years and wonder what else could have been? What oportunities you passed up to be with that person that you could have taken. I not saying it was all bad, it was just not great.

Thanks for the support though. Could use a hug today... been nothing but bad news lately.

6 years of marriage, 8 years together total. Some good, some GREAT, the rest...not so much. I learned alot, about myself, about him, about life in general.
And I DESPISE the phrase "Fall in love" Give me a break. Love is not a verb. I woke up one day, looked at him sleeping next to me and my heart jumped, it hit me, I loved this man. I still care about him, after all it was 8 years...love him? Not like I used to. We grew apart instead of together.
I don't regret our time together at all. I try hard not to do regret, it's a wasted emotion. Every person I meet has come into my life for a reason, whether it's a one time date, a chance encounter, a lifetime's worth of friendship, however long they are there doesn't matter. They're are there for a purpose.

8 years of marriage, 11 years together. Started out in love, ended it with feelings that were much different. I still have love for him, but not romantic, wifey love. He's a friend, and it took a while for me to admit that that's all I felt for him. We grew up and apart, and that's all there was to it. Lots of good memories. Some not so good memories.

Ended it because that's not fair, to either of us.

Awww. I feel bad you look at it that way. I did what I thought was right at the time with how I thought I felt. I don't regret that I made that decision. I strive to believe that living my present in a state of regret is EVIL. I choose.... and this is a choice, to view all my decisions as the parts of me that make me ME. What I learned, my experiences, the good and the bad.

I hope things look up for you.

well i did 12 yrs, and not so sure i will ever do those kind of years again, but i am looking to have some fun TJN you wanna have some fun?

I will say one thing I have learned about myself from marriage.. That I know just how deeply and emotionally I can love someone. I also realized that there is nothing else like it. And I do mean alsolutley nothing.. And that's what I miss the most.


would I remarry? only if that type of love was there.

cuz the shoes come in chrome,


what where we talking about

IMO, marriage isn't falling in love, marriage is commitment, friendship and work. 'Falling in love' is the feeling/emotion, there needs to be substance there for a marriage to work. At the end of the day, can you wake up every morning next to the same person and still be friends!

17 yrs.
Most of it good.
I miss the family life, the kids, the day to day interactions.

Will I get married again?
Seriously doubt it.

A friend of mine told me:

"Some people are just the marrying kind. There are some out there who just don't have it in them to committ to that much, but there are some of us who just DO. We put ourselves out there, give it all we have and when we get knocked flat we may lay there a minute but we get up. Eternal optimists"

I personally think Marriage should be more of a safety thing. In America we tend to just get married when we find the "Right One"...claiming that we will know when and who that is. I think , however, that marriage should be more than just falling in love. It should be a commitment, a safe keep.

But with the way sex is thought of today, whats the point right.

I hope to be married one day. But I wanna be ready to ride or die for my wife. This does not mean, however, that I will sleep with every women i know until I am ready to get married and THEN be monogamous...

Why did that earn your respect, if I can ask...

Hummmmmmmm just means that at one time they were in love but they failed to keep that love alive. It takes two to make a marriage work. One can never do it alone.

The motive--to do right (in a self-sacrifice situation)--indicates trustworthiness that is worthy of note.

i've never been married......but i'm the only one in my family that hasn't been and divorced at least twice by now (i'm only 25)......

i think marriage should be a bond that says, "hey, i care deeply about this person. so much thatt i want to grow old and share the rest of my life with him/her."

but before you get there, you know this person extremely well, and still love and care them despite their character flaws....and that they must feel the same way about you.

i was about a week away from being married and when she left i belive its because she saw what i didnt and that was we were haveing issues that i didnt see at the time but it was for the best now me and her are great friends so i see it as a plus. no i dont think its climbing out of love its more of takeing a different tunnle.