Why do we expect so much after being burnt?

b/c you were let down and want to be validated that you meant something..

wow...didnt think about that until I just saw it in black and white...you are so right...we do want to know we meant something...unfortuneatly they really dont care they just move on to the next...

I expect nothing, that way I'm never disappointed!!

my sentiments exactly!

Hello ...

Some men do move on that is true. It is also true of women. Some men hurt but try to look for that silver lining. No sense in feeling sad for yourself. The last woman I dated actually broke up with me via email so that she could go back to a man that she initially left because he was 'controlling, egotistical, arrogant...' How do you think that makes you feel? But what are you going to do but learn from it and move on with your life and believe that you are better off without that relationship after all.

see this is what im talking about...well said my good man...
refering to the comment "she left so she could go back to a man that she initially left because he was 'controlling, egotistical, arrogant.." sends out a message to all men to treat women like crap and they will love you forever...

women like transition jumping from one man to the next...its a self insecurity abuse problem or issue they have with the fears of being alone...they ride it out with the current fish till they find another...

i was married before for 8 yrs...a year and a half of that my ex wife had more than she will ever have in a lifetime, yet she still wasnt happy....and when she decided to walk, she didnt really give a valid legitimate reason why she didnt want to be married anymore..but we all know, no one jumps ship without a life jacket....they are almost always looking for the bigger better deal..thats the way it is....we are all better off remaining single..too many relationship head games now-a-days...

Not all women are like that, just like not all men are callous, cruel and selfish. When I left my husband, I had very specific reasons, and it was after 2 years of marriage counseling that didn't work. I didn't have anyone else there waiting, and I have only dated 2 people seriously since the divorce. Not because I'm pathetic, but because I am ok with being alone - I'd rather be single than "settling" for something that isn't going to be good for both parties.

There are good women out there, just like there are good men out there. It's just a matter of what's good for YOU.

Expect the worse....hope for the best.....be pleasantly suprised.

Because we want to make happy memories.

Exactly! Couldn't have said it any better :)

so true...lol

I think its because the person, regardless of sex, hasn't accepted his/her self. If you love and accept yourself (imperfections and all) then you can give that to someone else. You can't get something for nothing. Make sense? I hope so. It's a hard lesson to learn, but well worth it. Until I made peace with myself and hurts from the past, I wasn't able to love myself or anyone else completely. That's my opinion.

i think its because we all just want to love and be loved.